striker

I have probably done the 1000 .. i lost count..

In my experience.
the first 3 for the day will be hard to do.
After that your social self slows wakes up.
Then you enter a different zone. you don't care. you are not so self conscious.
I will be heading to a bar tonight.. doing more of these.. need to make sure I don't sweat.. need to do some yoga

One thing that helps me.. to listen my favorite high energy song and shout along with it. I usually do it in the car. When I mean shout, I mean FRIGGIN SHOUT at the top of your lungs. This is supposed to get you out of your head and also connects with your primal masculine energy.
Now you are ready to ROCK. I do this in my car with loud music.







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roseycheeks

that's so insightful. thanks for sharing.. very helpful words

Helyna

This is fantastic!

"Usually a person has more faith in their fear than faith in their future."
-Doug Firebaugh

ARealCajunGirl

Umm seriously this is not a good idea. Because there are jerks everywhere, there's no reason to record encounters with every single one of them. I could write a ****ing novel filled with mine.

Helyna

The point isn't to record rejections. It's to record the times you actually did something... and didn't worry about rejection.

This is like what we talk about in my school's creative writing group. Any time we mention publishing, we joke about rejection letters. We all plan to paper our walls with them. We have embraced what will surely come to us if we want to publish. So our teacher tells us to send our stories to the highest publishing companies. If we aim low, we'll be forced to wonder what we could have done. If we submit to the best and they don't want our work, we get a beautiful rejection letter to "brag" about. If they do like it...

"Usually a person has more faith in their fear than faith in their future."
-Doug Firebaugh

Jellybeans

seems like a good idea, if you've got a ****load of time on your hands / care a whole lot about what other (random at that) people think.

i always talk to new people every day, start random conversations with random people. but recording the outcome? not for me, bro. i'm trying to think less about my worries, not obsess over them.

"I gotta have my jellybeans"

-Jellybeans

shield

I'm still going with this. A very important note to people practicing exposure. YOU MUST PRACTICE EVERY DAY if you want to move forwards at a good pace. Practicing only 2-3 times per week helps a little but it doesn't really cut it. You need to do 6 good sessions per week and every day you need to stay in the situation long enough that your fear subsides. We are talking 2 hours per day minimum.

NightTimeForever

Well, I think success with the opposite gender, has just as much to do with your social competency as it does your looks. I think instead of a 1000 rejections, try to re-evaluate what you did wrong the last time and work on that. Sure, everyone is different to an extent, but excellent social skills will only help the cause IMO.

lettypagb

geehs I try and try .
is frustrating because I study in school full of blacks who hate the whites

ripewithdecay

2 hours a day minimum?

how do you juggle that with a full time job, eating, sleeping, and exercising?