A girl actually replied to me

dannyboy65

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So I signed up to a dating website about a little more then a year ago. Today a girl messaged me back, which is odd cause no girl has before. She is pretty nice and into a lot of the similar things I am into. So I am going to ask her some more questions and get to know her better and maybe ask her to meet.
 

THeCARS1979

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So I signed up to a dating website about a little more then a year ago. Today a girl messaged me back, which is odd cause no girl has before. She is pretty nice and into a lot of the similar things I am into. So I am going to ask her some more questions and get to know her better and maybe ask her to meet.

:applause:good luck. what site is this, Tagged is bullsh-t and Ive tried Pof and I got nothing, Ive grown to hate that site
 

Alienated

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Are you sure it's a real girl ? Or human for that matter !!

It could be a phishing complex artificial intelligence algorithm, programed to respond to profiles that never recieved a message yet...
 

dannyboy65

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Are you sure it's a real girl ? Or human for that matter !!

It could be a phishing complex artificial intelligence algorithm, programed to respond to profiles that never recieved a message yet...

Not sure but I opened by asking what systems she plays and what games and she was pretty open.
 

Metal_isthe_Answer

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A girl in one of my classes is in a group project with me, we clearly have a lot in common. She's mentioned a couple of times that we should get together and hang out. I haven't brought it up yet, my experience has been that most of my friends are busy (kids or varying job schedules), so I don't want to come across as desperate, but I'm also not terribly sure how I should proceed.
Should I take it as a friendly get together, or could it be potentially more? I am pretty sure she's single (she live with a woman room mate and has not mentioned anything to the contrary). My biggest cause for hesitation is that she smokes, but given how long I've been single, as well as how well we get along, I might be willing to put up with it.

I was thinking if I get a chance tomorrow I may just simply ask what her plans are for the weekend and go from there. What do you guys think?
 
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dannyboy65

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A girl in one of my classes is in a group project with me, we clearly have a lot in common. She's mentioned a couple of times that we should get together and hang out. I haven't brought it up yet, my experience has been that most of my friends are busy (kids or varying job schedules), so I don't want to come across as desperate, but I'm also not terribly sure how I should proceed.
Should I take it as a friendly get together, or could it be potentially more? I am pretty sure she's single (she live with a woman room mate and has not mentioned anything to the contrary). My biggest cause for hesitation is that she smokes, but given how long I've been single, as well as how well we get along, I might be willing to put up with it.

I was thinking if I get a chance tomorrow I may just simply ask what her plans are for the weekend and go from there. What do you guys think?

Well knowing how you comment on my stuff I think you sound like an awesome dude :) I would give the approach I am doing the one my life coach taught me. That is that the best relationships always turn out better if you begin as good friends. So you should go and hangout as friends for a few times and then move on together at your own speed. Don't rush things and treat her with respect, show her you don't want to just have a girlfriend but also a best friend.
 

Metal_isthe_Answer

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Well knowing how you comment on my stuff I think you sound like an awesome dude :) I would give the approach I am doing the one my life coach taught me. That is that the best relationships always turn out better if you begin as good friends. So you should go and hangout as friends for a few times and then move on together at your own speed. Don't rush things and treat her with respect, show her you don't want to just have a girlfriend but also a best friend.

Oh thanks for the complement! Yeah that's kind of how I'm going to try to do this, she's a huge gamer so getting together for some co-op would be a fantastic way to start.
 

dannyboy65

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Oh thanks for the complement! Yeah that's kind of how I'm going to try to do this, she's a huge gamer so getting together for some co-op would be a fantastic way to start.

Try Army of 2 that's an awesome co-op game, or maybe Minecraft, or little big planet. Something stupid fun, maybe Mario or super smash brothers :D
 

THeCARS1979

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Tell ya the truth it was pof, this girl is pretty nice and is into a lot of the same things as me.

yeah Ive given up at this point on pof and with all the messages I sent to about God knows how many girls , Ive just aggravated myself with it and I just may wind up erasing it yet again
 
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dannyboy65

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yeah Ive given up at this point on pof and with all the messages I sent to about God knows how many girls , Ive just aggravated myself with it and I just may wind up erasing it yet again

Yea I know what you mean it's like none to maybe one every 3 months will reply and most of the time its saying not interested.
 

arjuna

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I got a reply saying negative things about me on pof! Which I was actually happy to receive as everyone just ignores me there.

Btw, only because she has messaged you that doesn't mean much. You can actually think that you are getting somewhere and when you least expect it, they vanish into thin air. The key to getting better is persistence and pain-tolerance.
 

THeCARS1979

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Yea I know what you mean it's like none to maybe one every 3 months will reply and most of the time its saying not interested.

i dont know if I even got that . i remember one i had conversation with a few days later that was it, it gets aggravating after awhile
 

MotherWolff

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I suppose that's a good thing. But do you think you are actually ready to handle a relationship in your state of mind? Plus, you should bring someone with you when you go meet her. For all you know, she could turn out to be some serial killer or something. I am not trying to scare you, but you need to be very cautious. I am so untrustworthy of people that I refrain from ever wanting to meet people online in person. People are so ****ing crazy nowadays.
 

dannyboy65

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I suppose that's a good thing. But do you think you are actually ready to handle a relationship in your state of mind? Plus, you should bring someone with you when you go meet her. For all you know, she could turn out to be some serial killer or something. I am not trying to scare you, but you need to be very cautious. I am so untrustworthy of people that I refrain from ever wanting to meet people online in person. People are so ****ing crazy nowadays.

I completely agree with you even though I live in the safest part of canada, shit still sometimes hits the fan this summer was terrible for us.
 
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