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I've come up with some general 'rules' to control my anxiety to a certain degree, that turned out to be working out pretty well, in situations when you might be in others' presence (complete strangers or acquaintances).
I've been self-conscious and shy for a while last year, mostly because of the way I used to walk and also because I was overly reluctant in engaging conversations with complete strangers (avoiding eye contact, sometimes even slouching)
All these rules rely on rationality and willpower:
*You are the boss: you are nobody's puppet and nobody but you is in charge of your body and your mind...every gesture and thought is occurring because YOU allowed it to occur.
If you don't want to slouch or to divert your gaze out of shyness...then DON'T, nobody else but YOU can do it!
Nobody can know what's going on in your head (insecurities and emotions), unless you show it on your face or through flinches.... If you don't want to show your emotions, just focus on not showing them, requires some concentration.
Not showing them->People not being able to read your mind.
that's pure logic.
*If you want, you can: Don't find any excuses, If you really want to do something, then don't wait until it feels like it .... just do it , nobody else is going to do it in your place.
If you are fat and you want to become slim, then you can, don't wait for some non-existent wizard to remove that fat with his magics, it's as easy as eating normal portions of food. (not even doing sport) that's how biology is!
Willpower is everything.
(strictly talking about something that you can materially do, not talking about some blind person that can regain his sight just because he wants it)
*Forget about your entourage: People are just an image... they'll have no physical interaction with you (or very unlikely), don't let them mess with your head, forget that you are being watched, control your thoughts, if you want to run in public then just run... it's not like they were going to throw tomatoes at you because you run in a funny way.
If you talk in public, just pretend that you are being alone, just empty your head and think about what you are saying.
*People are humans: Like you, they have their own insecurities, they are not perfect, if they can achieve something, you can achieve it as well, they have nothing more than you.
*Don't make a big deal out of things: Giving too much importance to something might increase your chances of screwing it up because of the fear of failure that it could induce, like for an exam.... just take your precautions by doing enough homework and research, that's as far as it goes. no remorse, you did what needed to be done.
I am looking for some other rules if you have something similar.
I've been self-conscious and shy for a while last year, mostly because of the way I used to walk and also because I was overly reluctant in engaging conversations with complete strangers (avoiding eye contact, sometimes even slouching)
All these rules rely on rationality and willpower:
*You are the boss: you are nobody's puppet and nobody but you is in charge of your body and your mind...every gesture and thought is occurring because YOU allowed it to occur.
If you don't want to slouch or to divert your gaze out of shyness...then DON'T, nobody else but YOU can do it!
Nobody can know what's going on in your head (insecurities and emotions), unless you show it on your face or through flinches.... If you don't want to show your emotions, just focus on not showing them, requires some concentration.
Not showing them->People not being able to read your mind.
that's pure logic.
*If you want, you can: Don't find any excuses, If you really want to do something, then don't wait until it feels like it .... just do it , nobody else is going to do it in your place.
If you are fat and you want to become slim, then you can, don't wait for some non-existent wizard to remove that fat with his magics, it's as easy as eating normal portions of food. (not even doing sport) that's how biology is!
Willpower is everything.
(strictly talking about something that you can materially do, not talking about some blind person that can regain his sight just because he wants it)
*Forget about your entourage: People are just an image... they'll have no physical interaction with you (or very unlikely), don't let them mess with your head, forget that you are being watched, control your thoughts, if you want to run in public then just run... it's not like they were going to throw tomatoes at you because you run in a funny way.
If you talk in public, just pretend that you are being alone, just empty your head and think about what you are saying.
*People are humans: Like you, they have their own insecurities, they are not perfect, if they can achieve something, you can achieve it as well, they have nothing more than you.
*Don't make a big deal out of things: Giving too much importance to something might increase your chances of screwing it up because of the fear of failure that it could induce, like for an exam.... just take your precautions by doing enough homework and research, that's as far as it goes. no remorse, you did what needed to be done.
I am looking for some other rules if you have something similar.
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