Am I wanting too much?

I may have APD too, and I think the same way as you, I'd be just happy to spend time together with that someone special. I may start getting worried around 30+ if I'm still alone by then.
 

Ree

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I'm sure you will find someone special. Someone who you feel right with, someone to see the world with :) just try to focus on yourself for now, things seem to come right after awhile.
 

Whoopdeedoo

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What you want is not warped. Nor greedy .Its a natural desire.
Sorry things didnt work out. You couldnt change her nor could she change you. We can influence and touch each others lifes in profound ways
But change is a decision and action that is self made and carried to fruition.
But be careful what you feel. feelings arent always facts theyre sometimes just fears. Put where you want to end up at the start of your goal. I know this is annoying to hear
When you want comfort . But commisseration is just as dangerous at times as is tough love. So accept what is and change what you can and have faith that if youve done the best you could with your options in the end youll end up just where you belong
 

hidwell

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I may have APD too, and I think the same way as you, I'd be just happy to spend time together with that someone special. I may start getting worried around 30+ if I'm still alone by then.

Wait till your 40 then you know you will be alone forever.
 

Hoppy

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My opinion is that it is better to be alone than to be with an alcoholic.

It's normal to want someone. Not many people ever get that. Old age homes is full of people who never even see their adult children.

Try to make friends. Lots of them. I don't know how.

(I like your username.)
 

sazz

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It amazes me how people (myself included) can have such a hard time finding someone. Its human nature to want to be wanted, to want to be loved, yet so many people in the world have such a hard time finding even a single friend, let alone someone who is happy to see past their flaws, and truly love them for who they are, and want to be with them. :(
 

S_Spartan

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It amazes me how people (myself included) can have such a hard time finding someone. Its human nature to want to be wanted, to want to be loved, yet so many people in the world have such a hard time finding even a single friend, let alone someone who is happy to see past their flaws, and truly love them for who they are, and want to be with them. :(

It amazes me also. It's not like there is a shortage of people in the world. It should be easy but it isn't.

Then I've seen people who abuse their body and don't look good and maybe they are even mean and yet they were able to find a mate.

Hard to understand...
 

April72

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It's hard when a true relationship is finished but you have to look forward.
If you want someone else in your life, you will have to take risks. I mean, you will have to overcome a bit your social anxiety and look for friends. Perhaps, there's a good friend who you can look in another moré deeper way.
 

Darryl

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It's hard when a true relationship is finished but you have to look forward.
If you want someone else in your life, you will have to take risks. I mean, you will have to overcome a bit your social anxiety and look for friends. Perhaps, there's a good friend who you can look in another moré deeper way.

I'm always scared of loosing good friends.
 

Sacrament

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Are you okay with being around yourself? Is it comforting for you to do the things you like by yourself? Are you looking for someone just to fill a void you feel when you're by yourself or do you truly want to be in a relationship?
 

sorrow1

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I have this same desire to be in a relationship and be loved by someone. Whenever I get in this situation though it terrifies me and I want to flee back to my lonesome uncomplicated life. Its as if I am scared of mucking it up and getting my bloody heart broken again. I get attached too quickly in a relationship and whenever I know my heart is at risk I cant take it and want to get away as the pain of rejection is far worse than the loneliness id feel instead.
Then I get bored of being alone and desire someone to date again. Its a vicious cycle but I guess one day I may meet the right person for me who will completely change things. I can still hope! its worth sticking at if its what you truly want.
 
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