Reholla
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alright so i have tried out therapy, and i have gone to this one guy for a few months.
overall i LIKE him... but hes not the worlds best therapist for a number of reasons.
One is that he can be pretty negative. he told me that im probably not going to find a boyfriend at the university i am attending. and even though i got the impression he meant because there arent good guys here (there really ARENT, so many girls have told me that and i have just realized there ARENT...) he never said, its not because of you. Hes kind of stuck up. I dont really know how to explain it.
I've never been to therapy before, but arent they supposed to make you feel good? like, i am not fishing for compliments, but he hardly EVER gives me any kind of approval or compliments.
Alright so the whole point of writing this was to see, if he should have, as a therapist, said this to me:
Part of the reason i am going to him is because my sister and i dont get along. She and i havent talked in 6 weeks, and the balls in her court. I wrote her an email saying to call me when you are ready to apologize to me, and she never has, so its up to her when she wants to call. Anyway i am going to him partly for this. And i was talking about my relationship w/ her. And out of no where he just goes, "I dont know how to say this, but i think people pick on you because you are a nice person.."
Should he have said this? I dont think it was very good of him to say. Its like first of all, isnt being nice a GOOD THING. he implied it was bad. So just cause im nice im a target for people??!! so is he saying i should be mean??? would that be better??! i think this comment is rather rude of him to say. and it would be alright if he like followed it up with like, heres how to be assertive... or heres what you can do to avoid this. but he just blurted that out. I kind of forget what we talked about after because i did not see that one comiing.
Whats so weird is that the time before this he said "Where did you get such a backbone??!" because i stood up for myself. And i usually do.. like as a kid i never really did. but i didnt really have to. i was pretty popular and people were never mean to me. As i got older i realized people will treat you like crap unless you stand up for yourself. So yes i am a nice person, actually i suck at being mean, i try to avoid such nonsense, and i would just rather enjoy life!!! I think people that are mean dont know how to be happy.
So can some one tell me if this was uncalled for??? I am thinking about not going to him anymore, hes not helping.
overall i LIKE him... but hes not the worlds best therapist for a number of reasons.
One is that he can be pretty negative. he told me that im probably not going to find a boyfriend at the university i am attending. and even though i got the impression he meant because there arent good guys here (there really ARENT, so many girls have told me that and i have just realized there ARENT...) he never said, its not because of you. Hes kind of stuck up. I dont really know how to explain it.
I've never been to therapy before, but arent they supposed to make you feel good? like, i am not fishing for compliments, but he hardly EVER gives me any kind of approval or compliments.
Alright so the whole point of writing this was to see, if he should have, as a therapist, said this to me:
Part of the reason i am going to him is because my sister and i dont get along. She and i havent talked in 6 weeks, and the balls in her court. I wrote her an email saying to call me when you are ready to apologize to me, and she never has, so its up to her when she wants to call. Anyway i am going to him partly for this. And i was talking about my relationship w/ her. And out of no where he just goes, "I dont know how to say this, but i think people pick on you because you are a nice person.."
Should he have said this? I dont think it was very good of him to say. Its like first of all, isnt being nice a GOOD THING. he implied it was bad. So just cause im nice im a target for people??!! so is he saying i should be mean??? would that be better??! i think this comment is rather rude of him to say. and it would be alright if he like followed it up with like, heres how to be assertive... or heres what you can do to avoid this. but he just blurted that out. I kind of forget what we talked about after because i did not see that one comiing.
Whats so weird is that the time before this he said "Where did you get such a backbone??!" because i stood up for myself. And i usually do.. like as a kid i never really did. but i didnt really have to. i was pretty popular and people were never mean to me. As i got older i realized people will treat you like crap unless you stand up for yourself. So yes i am a nice person, actually i suck at being mean, i try to avoid such nonsense, and i would just rather enjoy life!!! I think people that are mean dont know how to be happy.
So can some one tell me if this was uncalled for??? I am thinking about not going to him anymore, hes not helping.