Any one else enraged by people staring at you?

mndigi · 06-26-2009, 04:47 PM

This must be very common amongst us socialphobics. I sometimes feel/find people staring at me in a judgmental or mocking manner. This obviously angers me to no end. I feel like whacking their faces off and teaching them a lesson which their parents didn't - not to stare at people!

If you feel similarly please share.

mikestar · 06-26-2009, 05:14 PM

hate it, get so angry I feel like smacking them. They think there so special and your a piece of ****. It started a few years ago when I had my first full time job and its stuck with me to this day....

Now,when im out and about I try to say f*** em and stare at them back for longer make them feel intimated like I was.

Illusions · 06-26-2009, 05:18 PM

Oh yeah, I get REALLY annoyed by that. Usually I just maintain eye contact while trying to give off the "what are YOU looking at?' vibe. I always think to myself, "f##k them".

NormanBates · 06-26-2009, 06:19 PM

I remember seeing on a documentary that one of the earliest reflexes humans develop is to automatically follow with eyes anything that passes into the field of vision.
So yeah any time that you may pass into someone's periphery, people might just stare because it's a reflex.
And in some cultures there is such a thing as an "avoidance relationship" where averting eye contact is considered respectful.
But yeah I know what you mean ...

PunkRotten · 06-26-2009, 06:36 PM

Yeah I relate. Its not that they know you have SA, they just have a staring problem in general. I usually give people like this a mean look like I am gonna hurt them. Or I stare at them like they are a piece of trash.

Slothrop · 06-26-2009, 06:49 PM

I don't recall that ever happening. If it ever has, it was only in rare circumstances not indicative of a pattern.

Sure, I've felt like people were staring and judging plenty of times, but it is has never turned out to actually be the case. I don't understand how so many seem to know they're being judged or mocked by a person without ever communicating with them. It's as if they can read minds, but of course we know that's impossible.

Redzer · 06-26-2009, 07:02 PM

yeah people did used to do that and it pissed me off big time!! or when i'm was walkin down the road andd people coming towards you would stare at you that always ways was the worst for me cause it felt like the could see right into me and i hated that, but now its no bother i have overcome this, and i stare right back, **** it why should some nobody get me feelin like that, and if the wanna make something of it then i say bring it on!!!!

doesit · 06-26-2009, 08:07 PM

first off all everyone are aloud to look where they want,because thats why eyes are for

Redzer · 06-26-2009, 08:13 PM

looks like ur missing the point....its rude to stare

NormanBates · 06-26-2009, 08:14 PM

I get such awful headaches from being so particular about where my eyes land. I'm sure I look like one of those shifty eyed guys. But one day, I shall let my eyes plow on through.