Anyone Else Avoid Talking To Close Friends/family?

S

shinghan

Active member
As the title says! Just wondering if anyone else avoids talking to close friends/family because you don't want them to know you're not doing well?

I've been avoiding my best friends and my family entirely ever since I moved provinces. I've been having a lot more occurrences of severe episodes of depression.

I don't want to lie to them so I avoid them completely. I don't burden anyone with my problems. I also hate being asked what's going on in my life and related things.

Anyone else do this as well? How do you deal with a situation like this?
 
kihira

kihira

1
shinghan said:
Anyone else do this as well? How do you deal with a situation like this?
Click to expand...

Yes, did this recently for a family get together, didn't want to be asked embarrassing questions or have to listen to how well anyone else was going, it was all arranged via email, so I said I wasn't up to going. Also, some of my family can be very annoying and I didn't have the thick skin needed to cope with them. It made me feel as though I was pushing them away.
 
tonicobastos

tonicobastos

Active member
Yes, all the time. Most of my relatives are very nosy and love gossip so I avoid contact with them as much as possible. I also hide a lot of things from my father because he tends to make a lot of drama over anything.
 
fate12321

fate12321

Well-known member
I use to do that in school. I would talk with my friends a lot during a whole school year, than the following year we would become strangers for a while. Not sure why I did that, but I no longer do it.
 
lilmutegirl

lilmutegirl

Well-known member
I do, but sometimes I wonder if that would make them suspect that I am doing worse, since I am avoiding them.
 
S

spider04

1
I avoid meeting with them, I don't want to fake that I am feeling happy while around them. Online that is easier. Actually I just turned down a request by someone to come at my place and play billiard.
 
M

Musical Identity

Member
I really wish I could avoid my family but I can't because they won't stop talking to me or giving me some kind of attention. As for friends, I don't have any but I do try to avoid everyone that I knew in school and people I used to work with.
 
Last edited:
Alienated

Alienated

Well-known member
I don't have any friends, and my whole family is dead.. 8 years in isolation now... I don't avoid talking to anyone... No one talks to anyone anymore...

I tried to go out and re-assimilate back into society... and well :eek:mg:

I feel like Charlton Heston on the original " Planet of the Apes "

No body talks and everything is controlled by Non-Thinking Brutes !!
apescientists.jpg


I am NOT doing that again !!
 
B

bsammy

Well-known member
oh sure, i just skipped out on a family reunion because i couldnt be bothered with all the typical social crap and questions regarding my life..
 
StandingJelly

StandingJelly

Well-known member
heh, talking to past friends wouldn't be a problem if I can just skip the conversation on my history and also my present ... basically my life haha
 
B

bsammy

Well-known member
Alienated said:
I don't have any friends, and my whole family is dead.. 8 years in isolation now... I don't avoid talking to anyone... No one talks to anyone anymore...

I tried to go out and re-assimilate back into society... and well :eek:mg:

I feel like Charlton Heston on the original " Planet of the Apes "

No body talks and everything is controlled by Non-Thinking Brutes !!
apescientists.jpg


I am NOT doing that again !!
Click to expand...

how old are you?age makes a pretty big difference when trying to assimilate back into society..
 
Alienated

Alienated

Well-known member
bsammy said:
how old are you?age makes a pretty big difference when trying to assimilate back into society..
Click to expand...

I'm almost 50, I get treated like I am obsolete and archic... I didn't get this far, counting on others.... My generation was self reliant, and took things at face value... cash on the barrelhead , and deals on a hand shake you might say.

Hardwork and integrity was all that meant anything to me most of my life. Now they are meaningless... I try and talk to people, but my B.S. detector is at DEFCON 1, and the alarm is Deafening !!
 
Last edited:
Predacon

Predacon

Well-known member
shinghan said:
As the title says! Just wondering if anyone else avoids talking to close friends/family because you don't want them to know you're not doing well?

I've been avoiding my best friends and my family entirely ever since I moved provinces. I've been having a lot more occurrences of severe episodes of depression.

I don't want to lie to them so I avoid them completely. I don't burden anyone with my problems. I also hate being asked what's going on in my life and related things.

Anyone else do this as well? How do you deal with a situation like this?
Click to expand...

All the time. That is why I generally avoid big family gatherings. If I don't see them I don't to explain what I am doing or not doing as the case maybe.
 
Graeme1988

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
shinghan said:
As the title says! Just wondering if anyone else avoids talking to close friends/family because you don't want them to know you're not doing well?

I've been avoiding my best friends and my family entirely ever since I moved provinces. I've been having a lot more occurrences of severe episodes of depression.

I don't want to lie to them so I avoid them completely. I don't burden anyone with my problems. I also hate being asked what's going on in my life and related things.

Anyone else do this as well? How do you deal with a situation like this?
Click to expand...

Aye, ah try tae avoid talkin' tae ma family aboot ma depression and anxiety issues - coz they jist go ape-shit an' yell at me when ah do. Aye, ah still git that reaction. Empathy, whit's that...? But unfortunately, ah've got yin uh them faces that doesnae smile much.

Predacon said:
All the time. That is why I generally avoid big family gatherings. If I don't see them I don't to explain what I am doing or not doing as the case maybe.
Click to expand...

Same here. Nae guilty aboot it, no? Or d'yer family just accept that you don't attend big family gatherin's? No' tryin' tae make ye feel guilty or anythin' - ah'm jist curious Or ah'm a nosy b'stard. :giggle:
 
Predacon

Predacon

Well-known member
Nah my immediate family don't care, some of them usually can't be bothered going either. The only thing I'd feel I definitely had to go to was a funeral, then I would feel guilty about not going.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top