Anyone else get offended when people youre not attracted to flirt with you?

Remus

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Staff member
sounds really dodgy that bloke, he got your phone number!!!! :eek: might be wise to take your facebook out of your signature because we do get oddballs browsing this site and perving the girls who put up thier emails and such
 
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See, thats why i did the wise thing and made two facebook accounts. One for friends and family, and one for people from the forums and whatnot! He got my old number from my friends and family account. Ive changed my number and im not gonna put it on facebook - unfortunately, he managed to get it off a mutual friend!
 

Shift

Well-known member
Can you block that guy on Facebook? That would freak me out if someone did that to me...

I don't really attract guys either. Well, except for gay guys. I don't really know what's up with that, but seriously, all my guy friends since high school have been gay except for maybe one or two. Haha.
 

iamthenra

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sounds really dodgy that bloke, he got your phone number!!!! :eek: might be wise to take your facebook out of your signature because we do get oddballs browsing this site and perving the girls who put up thier emails and such

Hey who you calling an oddball and perv? Haha! Kidding..::p::D
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
Well, one thing is flirting and other thing is being creepy. That guy is being creepy. You should block him and tell your friends to stop giving your number to him.
 

Krista

Well-known member
I know how it feels to not get the guy you wanted and only attracting the weirdos it seems lol. But that's just life, which blows even more.

As for the guy that's being a total creeper it sounds like, I'd just lay it out for him. There's a point of being nice as to not hurt someone's feelings but if he's still pushing himself on you, I'd say f*ck him and let him have it. Delete him if you have to. Tell him that forcing himself on you pretty much and shoving his company down your throat is not the way you get a girl to like you.

Guys are asses with the looks, girls can be too. I feel guilty when I don't like someone who likes me since I don't feel all the prettiest either but you can't fake physical attraction, it's not everything but you gotta have it too. I hate when people call me beautiful or pretty because it makes me uncomfortable, I feel like it's a lie. I know how I really look(at least to me) and there are the guys who will call you hot(not that big of a compliment boys) or cute(eh, makes you feel unattractive sometimes).

Don't feel bad if you have to tell this guy to take a damn hike though!
 

Tlachtgha

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Because of this, guys who im very much not interested in try it on with me (i'm dead shallow by the way...not proud of it.).
You're being given attention by ugly, lesser, inferior men - as opposed to the male-model millionaires you deserve?! How awful!!
My heart bleeds, it really does :)
 
block him!!! and I hate it when people tell me I'm gorgeous.. even if I were, it's so shallow( even tho I am shallow) . because they no nothing about me.. if they could see my persona, they wouldn;t say gorgeous
 

reslo

Well-known member
Krista has some good advice! being nice will probably get you nowhere.
I was friends with a guy for years who had a crush on me the whole time.
I never felt anything towards him- and I constantly told him I saw him as a friend. It got to the point where recently I had to just be direct and tell him I'm done with him. He is blocked from my online profile. I don't call him. If I see him in a group situation, I do not talk to him directly, I do not spend time alone with him, I do not ask him anything about how he's doing, I don't sit next to him. Like I have to put up this mean facade towards him, or else he'll tell me he likes me again and again (or try to kiss me, which makes me feel extremely uncomfortable).

For me, it's not looks, it's personality. I think he has a lot of good qualities, but I've never felt attracted to him- way too moody/jealous/possessive. Personally, I think most people aren't bad looking- a haircut, some hairdye, maybe do a little eyebrow tweezing, a new outfit, whatever can do wonders.

Niceness get you nowhere... If it was me, I would just delete him from my friends, and there should be a way to block him on your phone!

I've never been offended if a guy out of nowhere tries to talk to me (if they're nice), I just get irritated when I've told people i've known for a while "Let's just be friends" (kiss of death words, right?) and they don't stop asking me out or making advances. Like I don't think I can be anymore clear.

Everyone likes something different- just because you feel incompatible, doesn't mean they can't have great qualities for someone else and for me, a friend is waaaaay more important than a boyfriend. Chances are if we date, it will be less than 3 months, and we won't talk after we break up. If we're friends, our relationship will probably last longer, and they'll mean more to me. Not everyone sees it that way though.

but i know how you feel- it just makes a person more lonely when the only the only thing you want you can't get.
 

mads

Well-known member
As the other guys/girls here write, dont be nice to him. Say it to him directly that he should stop and block him from Facebook. You cant do anything about him liking you, but if he really liked you, he would respect that you didnt have feelings for him. Stalking is really bad, my sister tried it with an old boyfriend. it was really horrible. He was/is really sick.

Remember that you dont have to be nice to him when he does not respect you.
 

Pink_Paula

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You need to block and delete him, he sounds seriously creepy! I mean i've had guys say i'm gorgeous blah blah blah and i just let it go over my head, but this guy seems a bit obsessed to me!
 

Diend

Well-known member
it may be that he really is lusting for you. Its really a hormonal thing and if he did get a vasectemy i doubt he would have these thoughts. I don't think you should feel angry when someone thinks you are attractive when you don't think you are. Its a matter of perspective and you should ignore the lies and rumours if they are not true.
 

Pink_Paula

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Its better to be attracted to someone, than to leave them for someone else after a long time together. I don't want to break someones heart if that makes any sense.
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Totally! i've never been in the position where i have wanted to leave someone for someone else, when i'm in a relationship i'm 100% committed until the bitter end, but i seriously think you have to block him, i've done that on Facebook and yeah it doesn't feel nice, but if it gives you peace at the end of the day then it's worth it!
 

mads

Well-known member
Dont feel horrible because you dont like others to give you pervy comments. No one likes that. So dont be that.

You have all the right to say no to guys, you have all the right to think what you want. He is the one approaching you and then if you turn him down, he should respect that and move on.
 
Muffins

I don't get offended when that happens, because for one it never happens, and I also probably wouldn't care if it ever did. I probably wouldn't even notice or take it seriously.

First of all, it's not a good idea to post your phone number online if you don't want weirdos calling you. You should probably take it off. Yeah, block and delete them. If you don't actually do something, he won't leave you alone, and thinking it'll go away eventually isn't going to work either. Pretty much do what Krista said, and see how it goes.
 

206Raider

Well-known member
Tell him to f--- off. He does sound like a complete weirdo, I had a girl, years ago, get my number from somebody, they wouldn't say who and she would call me 5 times a day. She said she went to the same school as me and always saw me and liked me and it was the most awkward thing ever. She was a damn stalker ad she wouldn't tell me who she was! I would go to school and do things and she would call and say "so I saw you with so and so".....that **** made me paranoid and I eventually just stopped picking up the phone, but I didn't know what that girl was capable of. Seemed psycho but I never found out.
 

Tlachtgha

Well-known member
I hate that I'm shallow and I know some people probably hate me now (Kustamogen and Tlachtgha if I'm not mistaken),
Hate you? I certainly don't hate you.
The first part* of your initial post - and your admission above that you've dumped people you've been in a relationship with for someone better-looking - is far from impressive but I was being facetious more than anything else in my response.

(*The second part is a different issue. You should follow the advice others have suggested.)
 

lunarla

Well-known member
I've felt that before at the start of this year. And it really does make me feel horrible about myself not only because I'm not really attracted to the person at all, but because of how shallow it makes me feel. At the beginning of the year this guy who I'd known from last year indirectly asked me out. We have a class together and the week before I was generally just being friendly because that's how I am and I think he took it the wrong way. We have a bit in common, I mean, we can carry a conversation about music, but other than that, nothing really. Anyway, he got someone to ask me for him (how courageous!) I immediately felt bad because, to be blunt, I didn't think he was a very attractive person. And him asking me out made me think that that reflected how I am not physically attractive either. Just played off of my low self esteem, really. Also though, he doesn't have the greatest personality either so that may have made him already be less attractive to me already? He's veryyyyyy obnoxious at times.

Anyway, I don't think you should feel too bad. It's just about self esteem. If I had better self esteem about myself I probably would have been flattered instead of taking it as an insult.
 
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