Anyone else much more comfortably around people they're not attracted to?

9407

9407

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Been a few months since I posted here. But I seem to have a much easier time talking and making eye contact with women I'm not attracted to. But when I talk to women I'm attracted to I get a little awkward.


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ImNotMyIllness

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I think EVERYONE is like that to one degree or another. If I'm at a bookstore, I have no trouble making eye contact with a woman that I'm not interested in but if I'm attracted, I'll nervously turn away.

Although, on a date, sometimes I can be very bold, charming and confident with a woman that I'm attracted too. Not sure where that comes from!
 
BlueDays

BlueDays

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Hell yes.
When I am face to face talking with a guy I find attractive I tend to get my sentences all jumbled up :eek:h:.....I always worry that I must seem pretty dumb to the guy! lol
 
mixedupgirl

mixedupgirl

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Yes I get nervous speakin to attractive men and I'm already in a relationship so I shouldn't, but I think its because we care more about what someone we are attracted to thinks about us....
 
twiggle

twiggle

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Yes, a lot more comfortable around people I'm not attracted to. But I don't think this is just about attractiveness. In general, the more somebody means to me, the more anxious I am about my interactions with them.
 
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jaim38

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Me too. Around people I'm attracted to, I feel so much pressure to not mess up and act perfect. It's draining and many times I feel like escaping.
 
soandi

soandi

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For me it's also much more easier be with woman I am no attracted. I can be easier myself but if there is woman I am attracted I have to act something better. I have no idea what...
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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My anxiety is triggered by things other than looks. If there is a trigger for my anxiety present, I will have trouble speaking to that person. It doesn't discriminate. I tend to be more anxious around people who notice my anxiety and respog angrily towards it.
 
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Richey

Richey

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9407 said:
Been a few months since I posted here. But I seem to have a much easier time talking and making eye contact with women I'm not attracted to. But when I talk to women I'm attracted to I get a little awkward.


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Not really, i'm anxious in any conversation.
 
Starry

Starry

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I must be the odd one out... I'm actually more comfortable around people I find attractive...

Of course, I never converse with anyone, so it's rather hard to think of examples and I'll have to time travel back to school to give one... I was able to talk more freely with my crush than I could with anyone else at school, including my "friends"... Maybe it's due to the fact that I'm attracted to personality traits that hide behind certain looks or expressions - I don't know, but I definitely felt more comfortable.

Of course, this is all relative, I'm not actually comfortable around anyone other than my husband... And at school there was nobody I was actually comfortable with.
 
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jc972

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I stopped giving a d#%n. It's hard not to get nervous around attractive people but I learned more often than not they will be attracted to you if you just be yourself. I know it's easier said than done. When I was around less attractive girls I found it easier to do and had to keep it in my mind to be the same around the pretty ones. Practice that and see if it works. Practice it around less attractive people and once you are comfy with it do it to the all of them.
 
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SilentAndShy

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Yeah me too.

Because I wish I had a girlfriend and could thus enjoy the ups and downs, happy and sad times of a relationship, when I meet an unattractive girl but who has a nice personality, it's like my brain sends me a message saying: "Ok, you're not going to be going out with this girl, or marrying her so just relax."
 
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