Anyone get attached to others too?

Hero

Well-known member
I find myself getting deeply attached to people, particuarly the opposite sex.

I've recently gotten together with a very cute girl, she's quite shy herself. We have a 'friends with benefits' situation, but I keep thinking of her. She's not really interested in anything long term or beyond this. I end up checking her Facebook, reading our last messages etc. I find it hard to make conversation with her- yet I feel happy around her as I have some sort of connection, and I find it so tricky to bond with others. However, now I feel nauseous, nervous and borderline obsessive with her. To her it's just occasional meetups, but for me sadly, it's neediness.

I've been in this exact same situation numerous times, but I don't know how to deal with it! I feel people rarely want me for me, just for what I can do for them :(
 
Last edited:

THeCARS1979

Well-known member
I find myself getting deeply attached to people, particuarly the opposite sex.

I've recently gotten together with a very cute girl, she's quite shy herself. We have a 'friends with benefits' situation, but I keep thinking of her. She's not really interested in anything long term or beyond this. I end up checking her Facebook, reading our last messages etc. I find it hard to make conversation with her- yet I feel happy around her as I have some sort of connection, and I find it so tricky to bond with others. However, now I feel nauseous, nervous and borderline obsessive with her. To her it's just occasional meetups, but for me sadly, it's neediness.

I've been in this exact same situation numerous times, but I don't know how to deal with it! I feel people rarely want me for me, just for what I can do for them :(

no I havent really tried anything like this with any girl in awhile. Im reluctant:idontknow:
 

dannyboy65

Well-known member
I'm feeling attached to a girl at the moment too. I've liked her for a long time and I've never went to ask her out. I'm just scared how she will react, we both have autism so it's hard enough to read these protocols. It just scares me to see what she says.
 

Argentum

Well-known member
It's fine to enjoy company when you have it, just don't compromise yourself or lie to yourself about what something is. Some people sink so low that they even accept friends who are cruel to them just so that they don't have to be alone, and I've never seen it do any good.

Catch it early and think of something else. The more you feed it, the more it's going to grow and the worse the eventual fallout is going to be when one person in a FwB arrangement wants something more and the other doesn't.

No one wants me for anything, either, so I just have to keep myself distracted.
 

NamiraWilhelm

Well-known member
I have major co dependency issues... I always get super attached, then super broken hearted.
I'm forcing myself to stay single until it gets sorted... last time I lost someone I was bedridden for nearly a week. It's just too hard on me. It's weird, I always get accused of not letting people in, yet I get so attached that I completely fall apart when I lose that person.
 
Top