anyone have **** said to them jus coz ur quiet?

Yup. Got a 'pal' who seems to be more stronger with his words to me than he would with other people who happen to be confident and would respond if he said something to them. I always try to think that it's those people just taking their frustrations out on me but still equally upsetting like it would be for anyone but for people with SA, anxiety, shyness - it compels the feelings even more.

Everyone on this forum, though quiet, seems well-spoken in writing! It's painful reading this thread, due to remembering what being shy in school was like. Comments like, 'do you think', 'are you conceited', 'you are dumb/hopeless'. I now know that when expressing opinions, people reflect themselves by projecting onto you.

At home I couldn't speak because my single parent was unpredictable. I remember withdrawing from people pretty early on. Now, I still feel that same unease. Will this person be reasonable and well-mannered, or will the encounter be completely absurd? Thankfully, now that I'm older, being reserved or thoughtful is more linked with maturity. I used to feel different and unacceptable. Accepting myself has let me find peace, and if anyone questions that, I run!

I've heard it plenty of times, where it just becomes boring and lame and find a new line.

I've had people in the past tell me if I was in ESL because they thought that since I didn't speak very much that I didn't understand English. I've also had people assume I was from a different country because apparently I don't look like my own ethnicity. People sure are lovely. :kickingmyself: