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Old 01-28-2014  
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Does being a loner, or liking to spend most of your time alone, mean that your selfish?
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Old 01-28-2014  
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I donít think so, itís more of a self-preservation thing for me.

People drain me very fast, even family and friends.

I have to recharge my batteries in a cool, dark, place.

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Does being a loner, or liking to spend most of your time alone, mean that your selfish?
How do you define selfish?

Ultimately, everything anyone does could be defined as selfish--including charity.

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I donít think so, itís more of a self-preservation thing for me.

People drain me very fast, even family and friends.

I have to recharge my batteries in a cool, dark, place.
I agree, but I guess I just feel guilty sometimes about not wanting to be more social with other people.
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I don't think I am really depriving anyone of my company by choosing to be alone.

Life breaks us leaving pieces, cracks and scars. Sometimes those pieces, cracks and scars can be put back together in the most beautiful and unexpected of ways.


In solitude , where we are least alone

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^Exactly. In order to be selfish, somebody has to yearn for my company.

ďPLEASE ALL, AND YOU WILL PLEASE NONE.Ē ~ Aesop
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Depends on how lonely you are.

You might be depriving the world of your awesomeness though. That cannot do. Absolutely not!
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Selfish is a term that describes a focus on one's own gain and well-being without consideration for others, possibly even at their expense. Just wanting to be alone isn't harming anyone.
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I don't think loners are selfish, but if you spend a lot of time you're not under a lot of pressure to be considerate or to make sacrifices or any of those things that 'normal' people have to do... and I think it shows whenever you do interact with others.
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I agree, but I guess I just feel guilty sometimes about not wanting to be more social with other people.
Donít beat yourself up about it too bad. Youíre not being sadistic.

If it bothers you, maybe you could find some small, safe, ways to share your company with people that wonít stress you out so bad.

You may have to get creative though.

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