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Old 09-24-2009
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ok this is super embarassing ...but i am so over dealing with it i just need to say it .......I have a bathroom phobia to the point where if i leave my house i have the fear that i am going to need to use a bathroom and not get to one in time ...the fear is so much that it in turn manifests in to me having to really use the bathroom ,and we are not talking #1 here ........

it has sucked every enjoyment out of my life, playing music /hanging with friends /getting tattooed /and the worst i have lost my girlfriend over it ,i dont blame her i cant do anything with her its excuse after excuse why i cant do things
i have started to seek therapy both a psychologist and a psychiatrist ...but its hard to go to the sessions i get panicked that in the waiting room or in the actual sessions i will need to use the bathroom
i just feel so alone with this and need anyones advice who is going through something like this ...medicines or anything like that that might be helping you out
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Sounds like the use of CBT is required in your case.
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Sounds like the use of CBT is required in your case.
I fully agree. That might be very helpful for you.
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Old 09-24-2009
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Well, when you're nervous or anxious, your sphincter puckers-up so tight that it'd be awfully tough for an accident to actually happen.

It seems to me like your fear of it happening actually prevents it from happening.

But I do hope you get some help for your dilemma, dap. I think all of us here can sympathize with your worries, and none of us would judge you for it because that's pretty-much everyone's idea of a "worst social mishap scenario."
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Old 09-24-2009
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I used to have a similar situation where I would be afraid to go to the bathroom because it would take me a while to start peeing, so I thought people around me would think "wtf is this guy doing? I can't hear him taking a piss...." so I would become really tense and be unable to pee at all lol. I'm over it now though, thanks to my awkward techniques :p
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Old 09-24-2009
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Well, when you're nervous or anxious, your sphincter puckers-up so tight that it'd be awfully tough for an accident to actually happen.

It seems to me like your fear of it happening actually prevents it from happening.
I was debating about whether to reply to this topic or not, because it is embarrassing...

But I would have to disagree with you on this. I don't have a "phobia" about this... at least not as bad as sodapop, but I occasionally struggle with "accidents" like this that happen, or almost happen, when I'm nervous and/or anxious. It mostly happens during really stressful times, like before tests or presentations at school (thankfully I'm done, but once I get a job, I may still have to deal with presentations)... and seem to be worse if I happen to be driving somewhere, like I'll be on the interstate and know that I'm nowhere near a bathroom. The anxiousness/nervousness does not stop the actual accident from happening, and in fact, increases the chances that it will. The best way I deal with it when it happens, aside from finding a restroom ASAP, is to try to stop thinking about it and calm down. It doesn't always work, but I at least feel a little better until I can find a bathroom.
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what is a CBT i am unfamiliar with this term
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what is a CBT i am unfamiliar with this term
CBT = Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
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I was debating about whether to reply to this topic or not, because it is embarrassing...

But I would have to disagree with you on this. I don't have a "phobia" about this... at least not as bad as sodapop, but I occasionally struggle with "accidents" like this that happen, or almost happen, when I'm nervous and/or anxious.
I'm sorry to hear that, Lurk.

I hope that doesn't necessarily have to be the case with everyone who has this particular fear.
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Old 09-24-2009
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I have a similar problem strangely, although I'm not really "scared" of bathrooms. I'm just "disgusted" at them. There's a complete lack of privacy and there's plumbing everywhere which just makes the place seem so dirty. I try to avoid it as much as possible, which really tends to ruin my day.

My only solution was to rent an apartment 5 minutes from campus. That way I can just go back home when I need to use the BR. My studies have vastly improved because of this. I no longer have to plan ahead for long school days. I just go home whenever I feel like it.

But yea, you can't exactly "move" close to everywhere you go, lol, but I would at least "attempt" to re-locate to an apartment that's in very close proximity to most of the places you go everyday. There's a lot out there, and they're surprisingly not expensive (especially since you no longer have to worry about parking!)
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dude that's freaking natural you just gotta man ^ bro.
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ok this is super embarassing ...but i am so over dealing with it i just need to say it .......I have a bathroom phobia to the point where if i leave my house i have the fear that i am going to need to use a bathroom and not get to one in time ...the fear is so much that it in turn manifests in to me having to really use the bathroom ,and we are not talking #1 here ........

it has sucked every enjoyment out of my life, playing music /hanging with friends /getting tattooed /and the worst i have lost my girlfriend over it ,i dont blame her i cant do anything with her its excuse after excuse why i cant do things
i have started to seek therapy both a psychologist and a psychiatrist ...but its hard to go to the sessions i get panicked that in the waiting room or in the actual sessions i will need to use the bathroom
i just feel so alone with this and need anyones advice who is going through something like this ...medicines or anything like that that might be helping you out
Wow. The same thing happens to me. I've discovered that I most likely have IBS (irritable bowel syndrome). If I'm out of my "safe zone" (home), I get this fear that I will have to go to the bathroom...BADLY. And that there won't be an available one around anywhere. So, naturally, this builds up even more anxiety, which in turn actually makes me have to go. I've learned to take Imodium if I think I'm going to have an episode like that. I carry it with me. It really does help. Sometimes my panic can be too overwhelming and I will have to go anyway, despite the fact that I took anti-diarrhea medication. Usually it does work, though. So, maybe you could try that, along with therapy?

I have other fears that go along with bathroom stuff. Like, I have this irrational fear that anytime I go to the bathroom (usually #2), that there will be blood in it. Or there will just be blood leaking out of my ***. I know it sounds strange and it's pretty gross and disturbing. I'm not sure where this fear came from, but I often get panic attacks because of it.

Bathroom stuff is so much fun. :|
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Old 09-25-2009
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while i am glad to hear there are others out there with similar problem as me .......it also suck to hear that others do, cause i know how much of a damper it can put on your everyday life ....i am making a apointment to get back on my meds and look into get some CBT therapy ..............thanks for all the posts guys
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dude that's freaking natural you just gotta man ^ bro.
Yea, to be fair, the bathroom problem wasn't THE reason for the move, but it was a huge side bonus. Loving it so far.
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I have a kind of OCD/disgust thing relating to the bathroom. It's like a self-imposed constipation, where I'm so grossed out by it that I only "go" once a week and then have to jump in the shower instantly afterwards. Probably too much info there, but hey, we're all friends.
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Old 01-24-2012
 

Hi... Regarding bathroom phia / fear... I used to deal with this for years. This is what I do which has helped to GREATLY reduce the anxiety and hence, significantly reduce the fear of no bathroom. Also, once you start feeling physically well/solid in your tummy, your fear also decreases because you have had experiences where nothing happened when in a stressful situation.

Tips - follow these:
1. Eat low or no carb... I found I lack the ability to properly digest sugars/carbohydrates (why I dont know - it took me 40 years to figure this out)... hence, more chance for stomach issues when I get anxious - eat protein and vegatables... Protein bars are great (I eat 2:1 brand chocolate). Dairy is also a sugar you have to digest, so stay away from it.
2. stay away from carbonated drinks... drink water.. drink low calorie mixed drinks (like Crystal Light)... the more carbonation in your intestines, the more chance to has bloating and stomach issue/anxiety
3. If you know you are going to be in a situation where you may be confined/not be able to get to a bathroom... eat LIGHT during the day prior... and take 1 Imodium A-D pill to keep you "solid" ... I have found that taking one of the Imodium A-D pills sets up my tummy to stand up to the nervousness. If you find yourself still getting nervous and thinking you are going to have to use the bathroom, take one more HALF a pill. There is an ingredient in Imodium that stops the digestive waves to occur, hence, you stop having to go to the bathroom (anti-spasmadic). Be cautious,.. dont load up on these pills.. only take one.. and if totally necessary, take one more half if you get panicked and have to go to the bathroom. It works!

Like I said, once you start to experience situations where you "made it through" successfully without having to go to the bathroom, your mind will start to less and less look for the bathroom while at events.

Let me know how you make out... email me any questions at [email protected]
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