Being completely ignored in stores

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xnn

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Hi

So I was out looking for a bottle of wine. I got completely ignored by the people who worked there. There where a few other customers there who they helped. Whenever a new customer came in, I heard they got help. I walked there alone for a long time. At a time there was no other customers but me. The people who worked there just continued to ignore me. How often does this happens to others which suffers from social phobia? Are we invissible or something?
 
Ithior

Ithior

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I prefer being ignored in stores. I did go through something similar lately at my gym, which I posted in another thread:

There's this girl that works at the gym I go to that is always avoiding me. I'm not interested in her or anything, but I just don't know why she does it. All the other guys that work there go around the gym every now and then and say hi to people they hadn't talked to before, and sometimes they will talk for a bit with some of them as well. But when this girl goes around talking to people, she always skips me, but I don't see her skipping anyone else. It's just weird and it bothers me a bit.
 
Sammie_Kay

Sammie_Kay

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OMG! That is me! I always get ignored. All the time... everywhere. I hate it. I guess it would help if I would ask for help or say hello first but it is just so hard for me to start the conversation. Would love to hear from others if this happens to them and how they deal with it.
 
Sacrament

Sacrament

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If you needed help, all you had to do was ask. If you didn't, then their reasons for not going up to you don't really matter.
 
Sammie_Kay

Sammie_Kay

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There are time that I did not need any help but would have liked for them to say hello to me or start up a conversation like they did with the other people. It just makes me feel like I am invisible.
 
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Missing

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I have the opposite problem. I want to be left alone but they keep coming to ask if they can help/hover.

I understand how you can feel invisible though. Maybe try working up the nerve to ask them for help. I'm sure a "Excuse me, can I ask you a question?" would make them happy to help.
 
Sammie_Kay

Sammie_Kay

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It is so weird, When I am at work I don't mine saying hello to everyone I see or when they ask me for help. I am not sure why I can seem to ask for help myself. Guess I am just shy.

But the point is I always feel like I am always getting ignored/invisible in public and I hate it.
 
THeCARS1979

THeCARS1979

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xnn said:
Hi

So I was out looking for a bottle of wine. I got completely ignored by the people who worked there. There where a few other customers there who they helped. Whenever a new customer came in, I heard they got help. I walked there alone for a long time. At a time there was no other customers but me. The people who worked there just continued to ignore me. How often does this happens to others which suffers from social phobia? Are we invissible or something?
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i dont know, happened to me at starbucks a long time ago, almost had an incident in there cause of that sh*t
 
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GhastlyCC

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I wish I was completely ignored in stores...
People tend to look at and treat me like I'm some sort of miscreant!

Hard to feel ignored when you have security tailing you the entire time. :p
 
Sacrament

Sacrament

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If you want to be heard, make yourself heard. Just the other day I was at a store and I noticed that certain employees would say good afternoon while others just walked by. Different people do different things.
 
theoutsider

theoutsider

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xnn said:
Hi

So I was out looking for a bottle of wine. I got completely ignored by the people who worked there. There where a few other customers there who they helped. Whenever a new customer came in, I heard they got help. I walked there alone for a long time. At a time there was no other customers but me. The people who worked there just continued to ignore me. How often does this happens to others which suffers from social phobia? Are we invissible or something?
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Yup.

http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/do-you-ever-feel-invisible-lifes-little-annoyances-54580/
 
Jarofloneliness

Jarofloneliness

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Missing said:
I have the opposite problem. I want to be left alone but they keep coming to ask if they can help.
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I have the same problem as you, I go to the store, look around and they usually ask if I need help and I'm always thanks them and say I don't need help at the moment. However I'm sometimes become invisible/ignored when I'm try to strike up some conversation with someone (not store related) and that's usually makes me sad when they just answer one word like they don't care and you can see that they don't want to continue speaking with me or they are just silent all the time regardless what I say to them. I think it's also because I'm very shy and quiet :/. For god sake I didn't murderer or stub someone because they ask me wrong question, why do I deserve this BS ? ::(:
 
Richey

Richey

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I fail to see the problem, maybe they were busy and if you wanted help, you'd normally go and ask for help, no big deal.
 
Sammie_Kay

Sammie_Kay

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I am glad to see most of you find it easy to talk everyone but some of us find it very hard. So it is kinda a big deal. Pretty sure this post isnt about having trouble finding something its just about feeling like no one sees you in public. Which I feel all the time when I go out. They say hello to everyone else but always over look me.
 
FriendlyShadow

FriendlyShadow

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xnn said:
Hi

So I was out looking for a bottle of wine. I got completely ignored by the people who worked there. There where a few other customers there who they helped. Whenever a new customer came in, I heard they got help. I walked there alone for a long time. At a time there was no other customers but me. The people who worked there just continued to ignore me. How often does this happens to others which suffers from social phobia? Are we invissible or something?
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I know I don't have a job now but I'd prefer it if people never talked to me since I just have to accept the truth is that they are all too good for me. I'd rather when communicating to people, they should only just say "Hi" and "Bye" to me and nothing more. I'm too awkward to have any conversation with people.
 
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