Being so damn ugly is my first problem. - Page 4

Danfalc · 06-26-2009, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Lea

Just wanted to give rep point to Ashiene but then I see he is banned. I can´t understand this

Ah I see this is a looser forum, he doesn´t belong here...

Lea,dont you think people should have a choice what they are exposed to?Yes maybe sometimes its good we see some of the horrors in this world,but it should be there choice...this is a mental health forum.Some of those pictures are very disturbing and could affect people..we have kiddies on here.

Aishene wasnt banned for the pictures per say,he had repeated warnings...continued to argue with the mods.I can see what he was trying to do but he could of gone about it differently,eg he could of posted a link to the pictures and provided a warning.

No one doesnt belong here,but this is a mental health site...its not a political site if that makes sence.

Remus · 06-26-2009, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Lea

Just wanted to give rep point to Ashiene but then I see he is banned. I can´t understand this

Ah I see this is a looser forum, he doesn´t belong here...

Like I explained to ash before many times, we cannot allow pictures to be displayed that will shut the site down, some seriously bad pics escaped the mods attention over on the picture forum of baby birth defects (now deleted), his banning is in response to constant warnings. This forum was in jeapody a while back when we did not intercept porn links fast enough (maybe that's the real reason we moved boards?)

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any comments on this will be deleted after this, can we now return to the original topic please.

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LycraPantiies92 · 06-27-2009, 02:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Cynic

I would probably survive longer than you sonny.

Bit personal cynic.
And back on topic, being ugly is my first problem as well. Then social phobia, obvz.
I am great

InDeepshit · 07-04-2009, 10:15 AM

i love this board everyone is just as screwed up as me =). thankyou all for sharing your insecurities

mmmm · 07-08-2009, 12:00 PM

^ Pugs are ugly. Chihuahuas are ugly. Yet the hottest people from around the world are fighting to cram them into their handbags. I don't believe the poster is ugly. I mean, the chick has natural curls, for crying out loud. But even if she is ugly, she could be exactly what some hot celebrity is looking for. I must respectfully disagree with you, Flakey. I beleive that inner beauty is key. I'm a pretty woman on the outside but inside I'm roadkill. I get a lot of offers for first dates but second dates are few and far between and quite frankly, I don't blame people.

Jannah · 07-10-2009, 08:43 AM

I think I'm ugly no matter what anybody says, but I still would like a girlfriend

meatcake · 07-11-2009, 07:19 AM

I almost thought I was okay looking, until looking in the post your pictures thread. Now I feel ugly again.

lgsecretkf · 07-11-2009, 09:36 AM

I feel the same way, but I try to make the best of what I've got. For instance I joined a gym a few months ago and am planning to get bracers for my teeth, I'd really like a nose job but I got a quote of around 12k which is too much for me at the moment. If you really are that unhappy with your curly hair you can always get it straightened and there are bracers for teeth. No ones perfect we've all gotta make do with what we have

WelshOne · 07-11-2009, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by lgsecretkf

I feel the same way, but I try to make the best of what I've got. For instance I joined a gym a few months ago and am planning to get bracers for my teeth, I'd really like a nose job but I got a quote of around 12k which is too much for me at the moment. If you really are that unhappy with your curly hair you can always get it straightened and there are bracers for teeth. No ones perfect we've all gotta make do with what we have

Ditto about the gym. I figure even though I'm ugly, some girls might like me if I have a good body - lol.

Serafina · 07-15-2009, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Livingwithoutlivin

Having bad teeth, and a weird looking face, and curly hairs damn sucks... knowing that I'm not a pretty person makes me feel hopeless. There is an incentive that can be derived from knowing that you can play the game, and that people will easily gravitate towards you, even though it does not neccisarily have to do with who you are inside... but being attractive, naturally makes you self concious in a way that you want to give others a certain impression, and you know that no matter how dorky you are, it will be construed as attractive, because people just think you are hot.

I feel that we live in a world that is a eugenics movement. We feel like crap because some of us are just ugly on the outside, and the pretty people want to stomp us out, the people with the nice teeth, the nice neat hairs, the proportional faces, they want to knock us down to the ground... we have no choice but to get with the program, we need to improve our selves physically. The whole point of this life is to improve the human race, as racist as it sounds, it seems to be true... and there is no way for me to smile and be comfortable in my own skin, if my smile is so damn ugly. I need braces, and I need a makeover.

All the things that you have described above are fixable. What could possibly be wrong with curls though? My guess is that you're not ugly as you think you are. Attractiveness is subjective. Someone else out there may find you beautiful. No one is ugly or attractive by solid fact.

It is essential that one learn to love, respect and accept oneself regardless of one's appearance. I know, I know. It's much easier said than done. It can be done albeit with a lot of effort and with time. The benefits will be long-term. The other option is to change your appearance. It will bring you a measure of happiness but will not benefit in the long run.

"Attractive" and "unattractive people" alike struggle with self-love and acceptance. Please don't fool yourself into thinking that attractive people always get treated well and fairly. You'd be surprised how unforgiving and judgemental people are to both attractive and unattractive people alike. Often times, attractive is synonymous with stupidity, lack of talent or character, snobbery, promiscuity, and being uncaring.

I personally do not wish to stomp out anyone whom I do not find attractive and neither do other attractive people I've met. Back in school, the popular girls used to pick on me because they were jealous. The only girl out of the group who was nice to me was the pretty girl. Not that I haven't met attractive people who were stupid, callous, selfish and shallow but for the most part, it was the prettiest girls who were the nicest and most accepting. Whether a person will be kind or not depends mostly on their character and not so much their looks. Unattractive doesn't make a person kind anymore than attractiveness.

I understand that many people feel pressured by societal standards and ideals of beauty, but in the end it is the indiviual who is pressuring themselves more than anyone else. So if you think that being more attractive will bring you that little bit of happiness then it will be worth it. But being attractive will bring you other problems altogether.

You always have a choice so do not fool yourself into thinking that you are powerless. Think about what it is that will bring you happiness and make it happen.

It has taken me years to accept myself. I still have my ups and downs. There are days where I remember what it was like to feel ugly and stupid. I have to remind myself that although a pleasant outward appearance is a plus, it is truly my inside that counts. I don't care how cliche that sounds. I still want to be the same person when I am old and my beauty has faded. The same only wiser. I wish you the best of luck!