beware of your word people

do anybody have experience being hated by people surrounding you. at some time i am really depressed. they say many bad things about me.

some that i cannot forget;

'be careful there is a monkey in front of you'
'oh i really hate to see his face'
'you deserve to be dead'
'what a very good acting'

all these make me feel very down. but now i am ok and people started to understand and i am thankful good time finally come. yet, i still cannot forget about what people had say about me because they dont know me. why judging people too early. beware of your word man!!! argh... :x

agreed... but also need to learn to detach from words.. though it can be pretty saddening to hear such words coming from people you hardly even know. but still remember life is not always what it seems I mean.. in the sense that life is grander than what you perceive since perception is just that, a perception. Just make sure that perception is reasonable, life isn't just anything.

People at workplaces can often be horrible people. Remember, you do have some control over where you work, so if people are really assholes, then feel free to leave and find a better job. Some jobs have people that are nicer than others, although sometimes it can be difficult to find such a job. And yes, it is much easier to say something bad about someone, and people say bad things about you because they think you are an easy target, but that still gives them no right to do so.

The world is a big place and those idiots' place in it is small. They may not think so because it seems other people around them are laughing along with them or being on their side but they themselves have weaknesses too, everyone does and one thing I've noticed is that they can't survive elsewhere without getting knocked down several places on the social ladder. It's fun to see the "big dogs" in small circles act like little bitches when they are in a bigger social environment different from theirs. Seen this happen when bullies from my small school in a small town went to college. In a big university or just a bigger town, they are the ones who are out of place and don't belong!

Of course. I am a racial minority. In fact, this is the reason I became so scared of everyone as a child. If not for racism, I probably never would have developed shyness/social phobias. Because I remember when I was really young and living in an area where there wasn't racism near me, I was actually not so shy! I wasn't afraid of women, people, etc. That all changed when I was about 9-10 and moved to a very racist area.

It wasn't until I was about.. mm 24 or 25 that I realized how to get beyond dumb people who hate you. Dr. Phil says 'you can choose how to react to how people treat you', and that is the thing that clicked in me. That's when I turned my thinking around about this. It also helped so much and that's when I started not being so afraid of social situations as much, etc. It helped me get over a lot of fears in other areas of my life too.

It's ok because if you have this experience of people hating you like this, you can understand what it is to get beyond it, and you will have a better perspective of life.

thank you everyone. i understand that not all people will like us. it is very hard to satisfy all person surrounding you. i have learn a lot actually. it is true that we can choose how to react to how people treat us. i could control my feeling now, after facing so many times of this kind of situation. i am just be patient and don't bother what they say. times is the best cure!