Cheating?

Chilling__Echo

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I'm going to try and keep this as short and sweet as possible.

the guy i'm dating now i've known a while, even while i was with my last bf but nothing happened. there's always been alot alot ALOT of chemestry between us. so now we finally have the opportunity to date. but only date.

we live an hour and a half away from each other, he just started student teaching adn i'm consumed in school as well so we don't have a whole lot of time. he only wants to "date" b/c of the time. i want more. but he says he needs someone that can just come over whenever, who he can be close to. so i was fine with that. we'll work with what we have. but we've established that it's exclusive dating

also, we used to work together, and at work, all i heard "so there was this one girl...". litterally. or "so i was at the club...". he says he's never cheated. but if he's single, he'll do whatever.

i found a number in his coat, but he later mentioned the name on it (he didn't konw i'd found it) that he was going to play tennis with her.

he goes to a different town to visit relatives he didn't have the chance to grow up with every other weekend.

whenever we go over the number of condoms we have, i could swear there were more... or am i just paranoid?

at heart i know he's a good guy but i'm not used to dating someone who goes to clubs, parties, has been with so many girls, would someone just tell me that i'm just being overly paranoid and suspicious?!?!


ugh, ok, not so short, but anyway, if there are any cheaters out there, help. anyone who has been cheated on, help. am i missing something?? what should i look for??? should i just lay off his nuts???[/b]
 

Chilling__Echo

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i do believe he's sincere though, the lines we drew were kind of fuzzy to me to begin with but we talked and i said "dating exclusively means, nobody else. perirod" and he was ok with it.

i don't have any concrete evidence, just my paranoia over it... and i agree worrydoll, what you said is true. i would be the type to tolerate it. but hopefully right now there's nothign to tolerate. i'd say i was 95% sure...

ask me again in three days though and i'll prolly have a diferent answer :roll:
 
wouldnt you say that its better to be paranoid that hes cheating when he is than when he isnt? because if you were paranoid and he was faithful he could really make you feel bad and you would feel silly. its like feeling fat when youre thin. feeling fat when youre thin is horrible but feeling fat when you are fat is still worse. oh. i think i changed my mind :?
 

Chilling__Echo

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true, it took me a looong time to learn to trust anybody again after being hurt. i know, wah wah wah, cry me a river :lol: but you're probably right as well.
 
i thought of something else. you know how if you hurt yourself you rub around the area and it confuses the nerve messages to the brain and so 'lessens' the pain? if you hurt people while theyre hurting you it doesnt hurt as much when they hurt you. sad but true.
 

Chilling__Echo

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to add to my paranoia, i come to his house after two weeks and find an open condom wrapper...

that's it, i'm checkin the phone messages and counting condoms dammit... *sigh* why dammit WHY???
 
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