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April72

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Christmas lunch
Well, once again, a coworkers lunch for Christmas. I can count with the fingers of one hand, the coworkers lunch I attend to.

There is a list on the office wall to write your name if you want to assist.
I'm still wondering if assist or not to assist.

I now know better my coworkers because we have an online group and it's being easier for me to share with them through this médium.

Said that, I'm afraid, as always, of feeling too much anxiety, feeling isolated...you know, all these anticipatory thought we usually have.
I'm also as well, to feel so tired becaused of the socialization that take place with Christmas celebrations that I don't feel in a good mood for the lunch.
Any advise? Or would you like to share your experiences?
 
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Tuukka40

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No real advice here. I only go to work related parties where alcohol is involved.
If you have no one to really talk to, I would recommend skipping. I say that because I have never been happy/glad I went, when I have decided to go to something of that nature.
 
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April72

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These kind of events are boring for normal people, don't talk about avoidants.
What happen is that my coworkers are putting preasure on me to go, because they know how difficult are these kind of things for me and they want to help me.
 
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DeLasDudasInfinitas

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Well, if I were you I would go. I mean, I don't know about your situation but you said they want you to go and that is very important. Who knows, maybe you have a good time with them .If you start feeling anxious you can always excuse yourself and go to the restrooms. That is a good way for me to calm down. And if you feel exhausted, you can always go home saying that something important happened and you need to go.
 
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Nazim

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Go there to enjoy food and try to talk to a few people.
It won't get worse, on the other hand you may get more experienced in Socializing and communication :)
 
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April72

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I still haven't put my name on the sheet of the wall.

It doesn't seem to me a good idea to make people talk to me if they don't feel like to do it, but on the other hand, I'm sure noone is confortable talking with me...I know, I'm anticipating.:question:
 
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sorrow1

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put it this way even if you feel it hasn't gone well and you were quiet, no-one was talking to you/you were anxious etc, You probably will have done better than you think. you will have gained some experience points I think and some respect. You will not have lost anything by going even if you didn't enjoy it and the people who are worthy of the privilege of your company will have noticed you turned up so you may gain some wanted affection.
In my experience of office parties people tend to bad mouth the ones that don't make the effort.
 
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Aylaa

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Do you like your co-workers, do you want to spend time with them outside of work? Do you feel comfortable around them?

If so, go. If not, it's not worth the effort.
 
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April72

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Direct and easy! I like it!:applause:

Well, I don't know them very well but I think I like them.
But, I know myself better and the anxiety may make me look as a fool.
But, following your advise I'm moré inclined to go with them.
Thank you!
 
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SCP-087-1

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Break the tension. Here's a joke I use to break the ice in job interviews. It might work here too.

What's the best thing about having sex with twenty five year olds? There's twenty of them.
 
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April72

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LazyHermitCrab said:
If you must go I'd rather assist and have something to do instead of small talk :p
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Yeah, small talk is horrible for me.
What to do appart from eating and drinking? If there were a dog, I played with it. That's what I usually do when I'm with a group of people and there is a dog. I normally get on better with them than with people.:)
 
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April72

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SCP-087-1 said:
Break the tension. Here's a joke I use to break the ice in job interviews. It might work here too.

What's the best thing about having sex with twenty five year olds? There's twenty of them.
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It would be good, but I'm really bad at telling jokes. I don't have humor sense or this humor sense is not understand by many people.

By the way, I didn't catch the joke. :idontknow:
 
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SCP-087-1

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April72 said:
By the way, I didn't catch the joke. :idontknow:
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when you say the first part they think you mean 25 year olds but when you say the last part they realize you meant 20 5 year olds. It's shocking. And I don't actually recommend that joke unless you know that the person likes that sort of humor. It's kinda like dead baby jokes
 
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April72

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Well, it's not a very funny joke. But, the intention was good.
I didn't use it in the lunch. Lol!
 
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SCP-087-1

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Okay here's a better one "How many dead hookers does it take to change a light bulb? Apparently not 5 because my basement is still dark"
 
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April72

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Call me idiot if you want but i can't catch it this joke either.
Do you like dark humor, right?
I'm on this line.

How many psychologists are needed to change a bult? None. First the bult had to want to change.
 
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SCP-087-1

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It implies I have 5 dead hookers in my basement. That's a good one.

But in all seriousness ask questions similar to the ones they normally ask you. Like "How's work/school?" and all that jazz. Feign an interest in their lives and try to find info about them.
 
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April72

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Yeah, you're right. I'm usually a good listener and people like to talk about them a lot. But, what happen if I accidentally fall between two people who are not very talkative or simply they don't like to interact with me.
Holly shit! Only the idea of consider that possibility gets the hell out of me.
I don't like to be clingy with anyone, so this idea is not impossible.
It happened to me before.

What to do? The alcohol option, the phone calling and excuse me for quit.
 
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