Confrontation

who else HATES confrontations?

Today I was in a car park...and as i got out of my car my door bumped the door of the car next to mine. A woman was in that car and she immediatly jumped out and started saying I had dented her door. I said "what ever" and she kept bugging me and said she was gonna take my licence plate number and claim damages. I know i didnt damage her door as it was such a slight bump. I asked her to show me what damage I did and she pointed out loads of marks all over the door. I was like "HOW THE HELL did I do all those?"

She realised she was getting nowhere so she pointed to a few marks she thought where near the impact point. So i opened my door slowly and lined it up with her car and there where NO MARKS anywhere near the point of impact.

She still went on and on...so i took a photo with my camera phone and told her she had NOTHING to go on. I was SO pissed off that she was trying to scam me i told her to apologise....she didnt but in the end i got a passer by to look and back me up that i couldnt have done any damage.

She reluctantly accepted it wasnt my fault but she never said sorry. I got back in my car and took off...but as soon as I got away I was shaking!

I hate confrontations and people like her are just SCUM imo.

Wow sounds like you really handled it calmly though. I would've gone crazy in that situation, what a rude idiot!

I've had a crazy woman in a car try to purposely make me shit meself by trying to run me over once. Had a full blown panic attack in public. Joy joy joy. Had to go back to the location where that happened today and it made me remember - felt sick thinking about it. No offence fellow girlies but I avoid women in cars now, they scare me.

Angry confrontations are the WORST thing.

Come on scatmantom lets go punch the crap out of a punch bag!!

haha yea...with me in the actually conflict im ok its afterwards that i feel bad/anxious. Now I feel fine again and Im glad i didnt let her rip me off...but at the same time i think WOT A BITCH haha

I can see how that situation would rattle you. But . . . YOU HANDLED YOUR BUSINESS!!! I loved how you used the camera and also got someone to back you up. If she already had dings on her car, then she was just looking for easy money from you. There are so many people out there just looking for a good argument over any stupid thing. They will never apologize because they know they’re wrong and are too proud to admit it. Wondering about her apology – let it go. If she had given you one, she would not have meant it.

scatmantom said:

haha yea...with me in the actually conflict im ok its afterwards that i feel bad/anxious.

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This is the same for most people, they are ok in the actual event but afterwards thats when it hits them, i have seen the most confident of people have this happen to them and it is things like this that have actualy let me realise iam not that diffrent afterall. and has given me a little more confidence is situations like it.

I have come to accpect the shaking and nervousness stuff now and once you accept its going to happen it actualy goes away quicker, there are very few people who like confrontation and even although you may not think it but the woman may have actualy went away feeling the same, its just she heard your car door hit hers and it was like a knee jerk reaction for her to get out and confront you because shes prob taken it personaly.

I avoid confrontation at all costs. It really takes a lot for me to speak up, but when I do, it's like a dam breaking open.

Trouble with avoiding confrontations at all costs, is that people think that they can say and do whatever they like to you without you speaking up.

I wish I'd confronted people a lot more when growing up instead of bottling up my anger/ resentment.

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I've had to deal with a couple of situations within my business where people have tried to claim car damage done in a carpark which wasn't done by our staff. Our usually response to these people is to take us to small claims court and let a judge decide who pays what, because the person usually takes no responsibility for their actions and wants us to pay 100% of the bill.

Our latest case was of a women who drove an old (25+) beat-up piece of crap who ran into some trollies in the carpark that one of our staff was collecting. It was just a slight bump, no visible damage (on our part), she drove off swearing and yelling, and that was it. She didn't even get out of her car to inspect it. Anyway the next week we recieved a bill for $1500 worth of damages. She had changed her story and was claiming for damage that wasn't even done by us. Plus she rang up head office, the regional office, our office, and was making a big fuss about how we were refusing to accept the damage, calling us 'liars' etc etc.

In a nutshell, we went to our lawyers, she went to her lawyers. Our lawyers swapped nastly letters back and forth. Then we arranged for her car to get independently assessed to see if the damage claimed actually matched her story and then we got the bill dropped to $600. We then offered to pay for half, she refused and wanted the bill paid in full. Our reply was to take us to court, and we haven't heard from her since.

Cost us about $500 to do all that, but at least she never got a cent. I would rather have spent $1500 dollars on my lawyer than give that bitch anything. So yeah, generally when you are dealing with people who are trying to scam money out of you, all you have to say is 'ok, i'll see you in court' and most of them crawl back under their rock and never surface again.

well is been a few days now and ive calmed down about the whole thing. Ive spoken to alot of people about it and most seem to think I did the right thing.

Scottish player i thought about what you said about her reaction. Most people would be pissed off if som1 bumped thier car. She may have geniunly thought I did make the marks but if she had spoken to me calmly and without shouting and being offensive then I would have been much more understanding.