lilmutegirl
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So, I have been divorced for 7 years. About 6 years ago, I went to court to get child support (with the help of a lawyer paid for by someone else). My ex started making more money last year (though I don't know how much), and I was going to apply to increase child support. All the paperwork is daunting. I am worried about filling it out wrong, and I basically just want to turn it in and have everything taken care of from there. My ex quit (or got fired) from the first job he had last year, so I delayed applying for higher child support. I still haven't done it, and he just informed me that he is looking for another job, so I'm afraid that even if I do turn in the paperwork soon, he may not have a job (even if only briefly) when the case goes to court, so I might have to turn around and do the whole thing over again soon.
I know I shouldn't procrastinate on this, especially since I could really use the money. My ex argued in court the first time we went in for child support, stating that he thought the amount was too high, so one reason I am hesitant is because I don't want him to draw it out or make things more difficult (we are civil, but he can be a volatile person).
I am also very nervous about asking for help--I can't really afford a lawyer, and I get anxious about talking to people about sensitive subjects.
Any thoughts? Do you delay doing things that would be beneficial in the long run, but very uncomfortable temporarily?
I know I shouldn't procrastinate on this, especially since I could really use the money. My ex argued in court the first time we went in for child support, stating that he thought the amount was too high, so one reason I am hesitant is because I don't want him to draw it out or make things more difficult (we are civil, but he can be a volatile person).
I am also very nervous about asking for help--I can't really afford a lawyer, and I get anxious about talking to people about sensitive subjects.
Any thoughts? Do you delay doing things that would be beneficial in the long run, but very uncomfortable temporarily?