Originally Posted by spikefan777
At school now I pretty much only have one good friend. I mean I have people to talk to (but not much) in every class, but we don't really talk outside of class, so their more like aquaintances.
Anyway so I spend more time with this one friend than anybody else and I'm afriad that she's going to notice that I do.
See when we're hanging out, tons of people will walk by and she'll either say 'hi' or walk up to them and start lengthy conversations. I can't do that with anyone but her.
Once we were talking about how I had to schedual an appointment for drivers training and I told her that my mom was going to do it. She asked me why I didn't call them myself. She was like "Your going to have to talk to someone in your life besides me." She just said it in a casual way but it still hurt.
So do you think that she notices that I don't have too many good friends? :(
Yes, I am sure she notices and you have probably ceeded too much power to her. She knows that you don't have any other friends, and that you are dependent on her, giving her the power to drive this relationship and call the shots, and besides, she could see you as too needy for her attention. In the long run it may cause her to respect you less and take you for granted.
If you had more friends, she would not be in such a position and would you respect you more, because she would know that you have others to go to and have a life beyond hers.
If on the other hand she is not like that, then sooner or later you might have to part separate ways, leaving you alone and feeling abandoned. So you should make an effort to make more friends and not spend too much time with her.
I was in a situation very similar to yours a few years ago. I had a best friend, that is we knew each other for more than 10 years, since we were 5 or something and always did things together. We both went to the same high school, but I was a year in front of him. I noted that at high school he never talked to me, he had his own friends and he was the opposite of me - he was popular and succesful. Out of school, we remained friends, but it was the kind of friendship where I had become dependent on him. He did not make the effort to come to my house anymore, I always went to his and that gave him the power to say anything he wanted to me.
I did not feel very happy having him as a friend, but had no other choice. Eventually, I had to part ways from him. We still lived on the same street, but I did not meet him again. That's a shame, that you would lose a childhood friend, and if I had more friends of my own, we may still be good friends today.