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Old 03-22-2011  
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Default Depressed because you're single?

Does anyone ever get depressed just thinking about how you're single? Or just start getting in a sad mood just for thinking of your ex? Or who they're with?
To be honest, I do. A lot. I know I should be patient. And people have told me I don't need a girlfriend to be happy. But it makes me sad, thinking about how much I feel like I've just been used and thrown around, by the people I've dated.
Especially my last one... Ewghh.

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Old 03-22-2011  
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It doesn't make me depressed, I don't mind being single.
It's obviously not my time to start dating yet, so I can be patient.

Sometimes thinking about it, does make me a little upset.
But it's not all that bad.
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Old 03-22-2011  
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No, I'm not depressed with not being in a relationship. If I had one I'm convinced I would put that person through a lot with my own complications. The matters of my life and mental health would need to be rendered well before I could consider a relationship. Sometimes I think of my ex's and get kind of sad yet I remain happy for them. They're happy and unbothered.
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Old 03-22-2011  
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Being in a relationship is not always the best thing. Companionship is nice to have. I won't deny that. Still, I'd rather be single than in a ****ty relationship. Not saying that all relationships are going to be bad, but there are bad days in all relationships. How can a person cope with those if they can't even cope with bad days when they're single? It's unlikely that a person can be in a healthy relationship if they don't have their own head straight. My advice is to stop thinking about your exes, stop thinking about how sad you are for not having a girlfriend, stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop making yourself out to be a victim. If you were in relationships where you were taken advantage of or mistreated, be happy that you are no longer in that situation. Instead, think about the positive lessons you can extract from those experiences. There must be something positive you've learned. You can't change the past, look to make the best of the present so you can grow for your future.

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Old 03-22-2011  
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Well the other day I read that there are more men in the world than women,so someone has to pay the price unfortunetly some of us who cant aproach girls or anyone,it will take a very special girl to like me
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I can get very depressed just by thinking about how I haven't been and will never be able to experience love. Sometimes I think "oh well, I don't need that", but that's just a lie. Happiness is only real when shared. Sure, a relationship is not all happiness and joy, there are bad times. But to not even experience it once, that just makes me sad, really sad.
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Single life is overrated. It's only "cool" to be single if you're one of the 5% men who get 80% of all the single women.

"Without deviation from the norm, progress is not possible." -- Frank Zappa
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Old 03-22-2011  
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I wouldn't say I was depressed because I was single-- but depressed because I was completely heartbroken.

After almost 2 years, I feel like I'm okay with being without him, though. I read somewhere that it's supposed to take half the time you were in a relationship to get over the person.
For me, it was 8 years together... and I do believe it will take me at least 4 to feel like I can move on without him.
It's been half that time and I'm only just now beginning to feel like I don't want to die.

I'm okay with being single, though. I don't feel like I have to have a boyfriend all the time just for the sake of having one--- like some girls/guys seem to think.
Although my relationship status will never be 'single' on facebook... or I'd face a barrage of facebook dating emails in my inbox. and that is annoying as hell!
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Old 03-22-2011  
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I used to be depressed about thinking of my ex, I couldn't think of anything else, I was so in love.
she broke up without telling any reason why, I found out that she was cheating on me.
But now I have a relationship, a serious one. She respects me, I respect her and we can talk for real,
but I totally have reached a time that I've been pretty much depressed about being single, because of missing my ex.

when you stay away from certain things, your brain confirms that its something to fear, so face your fears, so your subconcious mind gets used to it
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Old 03-22-2011  
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I used to get depressed about that but not so much anymore. I have realized that i need to deal with my own issues before pursuing someone else. I also have come to realize that a girlfriend does not equal my salvation and the end of all my problems especially if i am unstable psychologically. I will have the same problems plus more that come along with the complexities of a relationship
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