didn't make any friends this semester

LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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Pretty much a blah blah post. I'm disappointed I didn't make any friends this last semester. I don't get it. Just really frustrated. The couple friends I do have are like oh i'm "hanging out with my friend from class." They usually get the number somehow. I just feel soo weird asking for a number from a casual sorta friend. UGH x.x oh well... it is a commuter school so no one really sticks around, including me. It would have been nice to make a friend who would see a play like once with me but I can't read people. I just didn't get the vibe the ppl in my class wanted to be a real friend with me except once in a while moments with people who didn't sit near me anyway. Well one seemed interested but I messed that up cuz I said I "had to go asap" because it was a group of people. :eek:mg: I guess it's possible to make a friend at work...? lol
 
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Earthcircle

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LazyHermitCrab said:
It would have been nice to make a friend who would see a play like once with me but I can't read people.
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That's how I feel: I can't read people. I also wonder if depression puts people off. Sometimes it seems like the *longer* I know someone, the more distant they become, perhaps because they pick up on my dysthymia and find it more comfortable to keep a good distance.
 
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SCP-087-1

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I managed to make a friend one semester about a year ago. After a few pleasant conversations throughout the semester I told them to add me on facebook and gave them my details. It took a bit to build up the courage. I just thought to myself "screw it. Just go for it"
 
MotherWolff

MotherWolff

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LazyHermitCrab said:
Pretty much a blah blah post. I'm disappointed I didn't make any friends this last semester. I don't get it. Just really frustrated. The couple friends I do have are like oh i'm "hanging out with my friend from class." They usually get the number somehow. I just feel soo weird asking for a number from a casual sorta friend. UGH x.x oh well... it is a commuter school so no one really sticks around, including me. It would have been nice to make a friend who would see a play like once with me but I can't read people. I just didn't get the vibe the ppl in my class wanted to be a real friend with me except once in a while moments with people who didn't sit near me anyway. Well one seemed interested but I messed that up cuz I said I "had to go asap" because it was a group of people. :eek:mg: I guess it's possible to make a friend at work...? lol
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So why do you want to make friends so badly?

The only reason you felt weird asking someone for their number is because you THOUGHT you are weird.

You tell yourself over and over that you don't get people.

Its not a necessity to make friends at school.

You can make friends anywhere you want to.

Just because there are people at school doesn't mean you have to make friends with any of them. That is a choice. Stop putting demands on yourself as if your life depends on them.
 
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RegalSin

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Stop giving a damn

Just enjoy life

Don't be afraid to be the fool.

Do not be afraid to be apologetic at times.

Keep moving forward

Here is the deal. Sometimes you have to be the initiator. You need to have things to do,
talk about, and actions to commit to. You need to be able to have places to go. You need to be able to also have some money aside to do. I don't want to say that life is fun or not but money can be helpful at times. So also having transportation and your travel-pass ( passport cards ) as well. Say anything, do anything be anything. Do not fail yourself and keep moving forward.

I am not talking about school I am talking about dealing with the adult world at least.

About school life in general.

Invite somebody over to do something. Make some eradicable jokes. Bad jokes good jokes. Just move it, hussle something. I know you do not want to scare people off as many people have their priorities.

Go to clubs ( math, sports, art, film, tv, glee, acting, military, scouts, political, etc, etc ) and events of your interest. You will meet people who are alike you from different parts of life. Places for people to meet people before "Computer dating" took over. A famous person who I admire a lot; met people through his areas of interest. He just took life by the throat and did his piece.

However do not forget to protect yourself. Whatever path you take in life remember there all kinds of things out there. Like you might go some place and spend your money and realize nobody is hanging out in your house. This list goes on but just realax and know your limitations.
 
LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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RegalSin said:
Stop giving a damn

Just enjoy life

Don't be afraid to be the fool.

Do not be afraid to be apologetic at times.

Keep moving forward

Here is the deal. Sometimes you have to be the initiator. You need to have things to do,
talk about, and actions to commit to. You need to be able to have places to go. You need to be able to also have some money aside to do. I don't want to say that life is fun or not but money can be helpful at times. So also having transportation and your travel-pass ( passport cards ) as well. Say anything, do anything be anything. Do not fail yourself and keep moving forward.

I am not talking about school I am talking about dealing with the adult world at least.

About school life in general.

Invite somebody over to do something. Make some eradicable jokes. Bad jokes good jokes. Just move it, hussle something. I know you do not want to scare people off as many people have their priorities.

Go to clubs ( math, sports, art, film, tv, glee, acting, military, scouts, political, etc, etc ) and events of your interest. You will meet people who are alike you from different parts of life. Places for people to meet people before "Computer dating" took over. A famous person who I admire a lot; met people through his areas of interest. He just took life by the throat and did his piece.

However do not forget to protect yourself. Whatever path you take in life remember there all kinds of things out there. Like you might go some place and spend your money and realize nobody is hanging out in your house. This list goes on but just realax and know your limitations.
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okay thx for helping
 
Argentum

Argentum

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I haven't made any friends, either, though I have had a fun time. Talking to instructors and all. I started talking to one person online, but it very quickly became about his emotional baggage (as usual) so I cut things off. That's been my semester socially.

It's been good for business, at least.
 
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Earthcircle

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Argentum said:
I started talking to one person online, but it very quickly became about his emotional baggage (as usual) so I cut things off.
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I even wonder if this is one reason that so many of us are isolated. We tend to be dysthymic, so people cut us off in order to preserve their own emotional integrity.
 
Argentum

Argentum

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Earthcircle said:
I even wonder if this is one reason that so many of us are isolated. We tend to be dysthymic, so people cut us off in order to preserve their own emotional integrity.
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Maybe, because I know there are a lot of negative judgments out there. I also know that many people set respectful limits, or even outright pretend they're not having a hard time.

For me it's not so much that someone has depression or dysthymia, it's that they look to me to fill a void. There's never a real element of reciprocity.
 
dottie

dottie

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Earthcircle said:
I even wonder if this is one reason that so many of us are isolated. We tend to be dysthymic, so people cut us off in order to preserve their own emotional integrity.
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Yeah, this actually goes both ways. I am quite aware I can be a debbie-downer myself and don't want to subject others to it so I refrain from initiating a lot of times.

To the OP: are you upper division yet? Once you hit upper division it becomes easier to make friends/acquaintances because you see all the same people all the time.
 
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