gustavofring
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When I'm off work, I spend gallons of time obsessing about interactions at work or in any social situation, and what kind of person I want to be and how I want to be seen by others. I get into work thinking "Today I will have this or that attitude". For example thinking about witty things to say, or how to deal with certain people. Group dynamics are very tiresome for me, and a lot of people have interesting lifes, while mine is very dull and I have little to talk about or in common with them. This feeds into insecurity and very mechanical stiffled behavior. Feeling like I have to act in order to come across as a somewhat normal cool person, and not as an awkward (sorry to use this word) retard. There's already been some gossip about me being autistic, and what not. People probably know I'm somewhat different and there's this obsession of me to prove them wrong.
Then when I'm there the "Who I want to be" gets totally lost and I get absorbed in the overload of sensory impulses and stimulations of the daily goings and social play, not expressing myself like I want to, and I start obsessing again when I come home. Rinse repeat. I guess I'm just totally at loss with who I am and unaccepting of my real self. There may also be a matter of perfectionism and comparison. It's getting really frustrating and makes me want to quit the job and start a job where there's little people so that I can get my life together quietly. Sadly these jobs are few. This daily battle is very hard.
As a little background, I'm 30 years old, working a menial job to pay the bills. Thanks to my neglective avoidant ways with finances in my twenties, I'm basically in severe debt and my income goes to a receiver who sorts it out with the debtors. It will take 3 years before I can get a clean slate, and then there's college debt, which can't be clean slated (although you only have to pay based on your income, so that's less severe). So whilst I don't have to worry about debt agencies knocking on my door again, thanks to the limited amount I can spend I have zero social life, and spend all nights at home behind the computer. I'd rather not tell this to people. In the meanwhile I'll have to soldier on somehow and get through it with all the anxiety issues at work. This makes it extra hard, because my life feels stagnant with little hope of getting better. Even in downtime, when I -should- work on getting out of the situation (like working on finding a better job and improving myself), the obsessive thoughts are in the foreground of my mind, sucking up energy and making me too tired.
Then when I'm there the "Who I want to be" gets totally lost and I get absorbed in the overload of sensory impulses and stimulations of the daily goings and social play, not expressing myself like I want to, and I start obsessing again when I come home. Rinse repeat. I guess I'm just totally at loss with who I am and unaccepting of my real self. There may also be a matter of perfectionism and comparison. It's getting really frustrating and makes me want to quit the job and start a job where there's little people so that I can get my life together quietly. Sadly these jobs are few. This daily battle is very hard.
As a little background, I'm 30 years old, working a menial job to pay the bills. Thanks to my neglective avoidant ways with finances in my twenties, I'm basically in severe debt and my income goes to a receiver who sorts it out with the debtors. It will take 3 years before I can get a clean slate, and then there's college debt, which can't be clean slated (although you only have to pay based on your income, so that's less severe). So whilst I don't have to worry about debt agencies knocking on my door again, thanks to the limited amount I can spend I have zero social life, and spend all nights at home behind the computer. I'd rather not tell this to people. In the meanwhile I'll have to soldier on somehow and get through it with all the anxiety issues at work. This makes it extra hard, because my life feels stagnant with little hope of getting better. Even in downtime, when I -should- work on getting out of the situation (like working on finding a better job and improving myself), the obsessive thoughts are in the foreground of my mind, sucking up energy and making me too tired.
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