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Old 11-05-2009  
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This is something thats really been bugging me lately and I've never noticed how bad it was until recently. For some odd reason when I'm trying to talk to people I can never articulate or connect my thoughts.

For instance Ill be trying to tell someone a story or trying to describe something to them but I can never do so coherently in a way that makes sense. Everytime I try to I either jumble my words,have long pauses, or end up saying something stupid and out of context. On top of that I never really get my point across and by the time I'm finished talking the person listening has completely lost interest in what I was trying to say. Before talking I usually have an idea of what I wanna say, but then when I go to speak my mind starts racing and I can't think things through clearly.

That isn't my only problem with communicating. Often times I struggle to find things to say in social situations because my mind constantly draws a blank. All of this has prevented me from making and maintaining friends. Instead of trying to be outgoing I've become painfully shy and reserved.

Whenever I look around I see that this type of thing is a non issue for everyone else and it really frustrates me. I think to myself what do these people have that im lacking? It just feels like I have this huge mental block that I cant get over. Can anyone else relate to this?

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I can relate, yes. It happens when i'm too nervous. I remain mute or I just talk random and nonsense because my mind goes blank or because I can't put my thoughts into words.

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I can relate to everything you've said. I find myself entertaining apocalyptic visions from within extreme social isolation. I'm happy I found this forum, I used to think there was no one quite like me. I feel more normal already
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that is exactly how i am all the ****in time.its a pain in the *** tryin to explain this shit to people who dont have this problem themselves
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Hey man. I started an account on this page after reading your thread to tell you that you're not alone....I feel the exact same way.

As much as you try to hide it, you can never fully disguise it. I've finished plenty of conversations with strangers in awkward silences, due to my incoherent ramblings and mind-blocks.

It's the fear of the other person judging and thinking negatively towards us that makes us lose confidence in what we're saying. People say I shouldn't care what other people think of me but it's easier said than done.

The problem you're talking about I experience invariably when meeting new people. I used to work as a cashier in a supermarket and, well, let's just say I wasn't the clientele's favorite. I'm painfully shy and when I attempt to put myself out there, I either freeze or stumble on my words. I'm not good at making friends either. I'm a very nonchalant person so people usually label me as "stuck up" or "pompous" when really, it's the complete opposite. I hardly have the courage to converse with new faces.

Only in the last year have I started to admit to myself that I have a problem. My social-phobia and depression have never been more prominent so I'm thankful I've stumbled across this message board. I think I'll be visiting this place more frequently.

Anyways, you're definitely not alone and it's reassuring for me to see that someone else shares the problem with me.
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This is a problem for most of us, I think, and other people don't understand, usually.

The worst thing for me is a conversation with someone I kind of know, but I'm not really friends with or if I'm not even sure they like me. The other week I ran into a girl who was in one of my classes last semester and we were both walking back to our dorms, and there was a really awkward silence, so I started crapping on about how I was worried about being swooped by plovers...and how my dad got his eyelid cut by a bird that swooped him...and how someone at my primary school actually got his eyeball cut by a bird that swooped him...which is all weird and random enough, but my sentences sounded like - I mean I was talking like - I just couldn't - um - couldn't finish - I mean - get out the w- um...the um... (lol!)

Why you're not crippled, you just have a little defect hardly noticeable, even! When people have some slight disadvantage like that, they cultivate other things to make up for it develop charm and vivacity and charm!

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Supposedly it has something to do with the flight-or-fight response, we're too busy subconsciously looking for threats and consciously trying to think that it becomes difficult.
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that only happens when im talking to strangers or figures of authority.. Im fine with my friends..even funny sometimes, but when it comes to others I sound like porky pig. Its really hurting my chance at becoming a speech pathologist.
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I want to overcome this difficulty and would appreciate if anyone has tips or tools on how to tackle it. I like to listen to people who articulates his or her thoughts with ease - words just flow off the lips effortlessly and coherently. I would one day hope that happens to me. I just want to carry on a intelligent conversation with people, and I want friends.

Thanks in anticipation of any suggestion.
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This is a problem people with ADHD have. I was recently relieved of this problem after getting medicated for ADHD. Instead of stumbling over all of my words as usual, they now seem to flow out of my mouth without effort. Until a few weeks ago I had never experienced this profound clarity of thought, as I've always considered the cluttered mind I'd known forever was normal. It turned out, in my case, that anxiety (panic disorder) was only a result of the bigger problem, which I now know as ADHD (predominately inattentive subtype).

Not to say any of you have this. I simply wish to throw it out there since I suffered through a mysterious and disabling case of panic disorder for 5 years before I made this revelation. It might be worth looking into is all I'm really saying.

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