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Old 08-09-2009  
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Is it normal for someone who has SA or is very shy to find it difficult in expressing feelings and emotions and showing affection ?

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Old 08-09-2009  
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I find it very difficult to express any kind of feelings and emotions. It tends to all build up inside me and comes out as anger.
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Old 08-09-2009  
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Well I can't speak on behalf on every individual who have SA or is shy. But from my personal experiences and from articles and little studies I have read about SA(not sure about shyness though), it generally is common for such sufferers to struggle with showing their emotions(or the appropiate emotions).

This can be misleading to the sufferer as he/she might confuse themselves with being schizoid(sometimes I still think I might be one myself). But schizoids have reported that they have ZERO emotions, meaning that they do not struggle showing emotions because they claim to have NO emotions to show to begin with. I suppose you can say they are truly emotionless. On the contrary a social phobic/SA sufferer are teeming with emotion , however, they aren't sure of just how to express them and often choose to outwardly express indifference(not the same as emotionless by the way) instead in a situation that is not appropiate for such emotion(like at a birthday party or wedding). I do not understand why SP/SA individuals would choose such a demeanor. In my case, I think(not really sure) I assume such an act as a defense mechanism because I virtually have no social skills. Don't just take my word for it(assuming that you did). There are sure to be more reliable sources to read from regarding such a topic.

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Old 08-09-2009  
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Is it normal for someone who has SA or is very shy to find it difficult in expressing feelings and emotions and showing affection ?

opinions please

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yeah, this is typical. for me i bottle it all up inside until it explodes.

i have trouble gauging appropriateness in expressing emotion. will it put the other person off if i relay my feelings? do they even care? are we close enough that i can trust them? will i lose my composure? what if i say too much? where do i draw the line?

so i don't say anything.
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oh yes, I think its a typical sa thing. It comes with being very defensive and lacking trust. Or it could be that the anxiety overrides any other feeling you have. For example, you're around people you like but you feel awkward so it equates to a neutral facial expression. Or even worse, you could be smiling and grimacing at the same time and look a bit like the joker off that movie. Just kidding! But don't worry. When you do express emotion it will mean a lot to people, because they will know its a rare thing.
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It's rather weird for me. I have very strong emotions, almost over powering. I feel "extremes" of all kinds, and I show it too... When I am sad, watch out for the flood, because the tears are usually flowing. When I am angry, I have to go for walks to cool off. When I am happy, I am usually choked up and can't even talk... I guess I am "hyper sensitive"? IDK....

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Old 08-10-2009  
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Sometimes when I'm in a panic, upset and/or depressed situation, I can't even talk. Words won't come out, even if I scream them in my head, it just won't... I have to write it instead or wait that I calm down.

I also tend to keep things inside when I'm angry. Other than that I don't think I have any issues.
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Old 08-11-2009  
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This is one of the main problems i have with SA. I have a very hard time showing my true feelings, both positive and negative ones. If someone has upset me or angered me, i very rarely tell them, and instead bottle it inside me, which is very unhealthy! If i like someone i find it almost impossible to display affection, so it ends up looking all forced and fake. In fact, whenever i am overwhelmed by strong emotions, i tend to find it hard to express myself at all.
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Whenever i try to it tends to come out very weak and artificial, like i've thought about it for too long (which i usually have). When i was younger i was more or less a mute outside my family (SA/language problems) so i think this has hindered me from really being able to express myself. So yeah, with it's definitely the case :/

Oh, and it does come out as anger and self hate in the end

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Old 08-21-2009  
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Yes, I am the same, I can't quite express my emotions appropriately or correctly, and am quite prone to outbursts recently. But really, sometimes, I don't even know what my emotion is, its like one minute I'm angry, the next I'm upset, and then later, I feel like I'm going to cry.
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