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Old 04-09-2009  
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Default Do people ever talk over you?

Quite often when I'm talking to somebody, they will talk over me. I don't know if it's because I wasn't talking loud enough and they couldn't hear me or if it's because they think that what I'm saying is unimportant. Does this every happen to you?
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People sense you're not confident when it comes to talking, and as humans naturally like to talk about themselves, they'll overtalk you, most likely about how things are doing for them, or something that interests them. I think it has to do with lack of being assertive in a conversation. One key problem I personally have is whenever 2 people begin to talk at once, I always apologise and tell them to continue. They sense this and usually the next time they just continue talking and expect me to shut up, in which case I do.

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Sometimes it is just one of those things that happens
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Thing to remember is some people are very confident speakers, and they will walk all over anyone who isn't.

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all the time , sometimes i think i am invisible

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And when people have a conversation with each other, and you just happen to be there in the middle of it, they'll basically talk to each other and overtalk you when you try to get a few words in. That is the way of the 3 way conversation At least in my experience LOL.

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I find staring at them while screaming like a wounded animal usually gets them to shut up. And back away from me very slowly. It's a bit of a conversation killer though, so I don't really recommend it. Except for the comedy value.
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Yep, people can sense when you are weak and have low confidence, so they will take advantage of you by doing things like talking over you, butting in, etc. to show their own strength. I'm sure it's unconscious on their part, but it's all about the power struggle and egos trying to be the biggest.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

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People sense you're not confident when it comes to talking, and as humans naturally like to talk about themselves, they'll overtalk you, most likely about how things are doing for them, or something that interests them. I think it has to do with lack of being assertive in a conversation. One key problem I personally have is whenever 2 people begin to talk at once, I always apologise and tell them to continue. They sense this and usually the next time they just continue talking and expect me to shut up, in which case I do.
I'm not sure if they really "sense" you're confident (I could be wrong), but I think that some people just have 'weaker' voices. Loudmouthed ****s always used to talk over me in elementary/middle school, now they listen though since I NEVER EVER open my mouth so I have the reputation of the "Mysterious quiet kid who will probably end up being a serial killer".

*Sorry for the run-on*

I'm probably the last person to become a serial killer though. I have always been a really gentle 'wimp', and I'm *kind of* proud of it. The feeling of "guilt" really has a more negative effect on me than most people as well.
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Yes, all the time. It makes me mad because I very rarely do talk & when I do it's as if people interrupt what I say with their own words, just ignore me, change the subject.

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