do people hate you because of your weaknesses?

knowledgeiskey

knowledgeiskey

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Have any of you get the impression that people hate and reject you for your weaknesses to communicate or being more out going?I do.For example, when I had a job, I was treated harsh for not finishing tasks on time and communicating with customers.My parents show resent towards me for not going out and doing things.They perceive me as a lazy individual with no future.I was also turned down at a job interview for not showing any masculinity in regards to personality.I don't get it.I'm a serious down to earth person.I don't wish pity on any other individuals.I don't understand why others reject me.Does anybody get the same impression?
 
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Havocan

Havocan

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All the time. Mostly because I don't seem to live up to their social standards and am perceived as boring, shallow, daft and overall very little exciting. So they seek out new ones instead of me since I feel I can offer them as much company as a half-dead zoo plankton on the bottom of the Pacific Ocean^^.
 
SickJoke

SickJoke

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The way we view ourselves shows through our communication. Studies have shown that up to 93% of our communication is body language and voice quality. When I first heard that I was floored. Only 7% of communication is the actual words we use!

People respond to us the way we expect to be treated subconsciously. We have a highly complex self image that we live up to. Everything we do is filtered through that self image and it's projected in our communication. It's human nature. There's no way of getting around it.

If deep down we pity ourselves, if we think we're not worthy, if we view ourselves as boring or lazy, then no matter what we say, we'll be communicating "Pity me! Reject me! I'm boring! I'm lazy!"

Every slight shift in vocal tonality, every hesitation, every time we dodge someone's eyes or slump our shoulders - all of these cues are being subconsciously interpreted. That's 93% of our communication. The only solution is go to work on ourselves to remove those limiting beliefs and fix our self image.
 
StuckGirl

StuckGirl

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I think it is inevitable for people with SA to be treated as outcasts or with disdain.
It is a very unsexy mental/emotional illness
 
Havocan

Havocan

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SickJoke said:
The only solution is go to work on ourselves to remove those limiting beliefs and fix our self image.
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So true. The only thing is that without results coming in to confirm the change the work isn't worth much {that's one of my experiences}^^.
 
knowledgeiskey

knowledgeiskey

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SickJoke said:
The way we view ourselves shows through our communication. Studies have shown that up to 93% of our communication is body language and voice quality. When I first heard that I was floored. Only 7% of communication is the actual words we use!

People respond to us the way we expect to be treated subconsciously. We have a highly complex self image that we live up to. Everything we do is filtered through that self image and it's projected in our communication. It's human nature. There's no way of getting around it.

If deep down we pity ourselves, if we think we're not worthy, if we view ourselves as boring or lazy, then no matter what we say, we'll be communicating "Pity me! Reject me! I'm boring! I'm lazy!"

Every slight shift in vocal tonality, every hesitation, every time we dodge someone's eyes or slump our shoulders - all of these cues are being subconsciously interpreted. That's 93% of our communication. The only solution is go to work on ourselves to remove those limiting beliefs and fix our self image.
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Whenever I try to engage in social circles, I get rejected.People tend to turn away when I start a conversation.Whenever I try to talk to a girl, she perceives me as being eccentric.It's a illness I have.I'm just an uncharismatic being.There is no way I could get around it.

I guess it's something that I have to live with.
 
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