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Old 04-04-2009  
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Default Do people think you're retarded?

I always feel like people think I'm retarded/autistic when I perform miserably in certain social situations. It's really the worst feeling.

For example, when I was in the 8th grade, my teacher told one of my friends (who also happened to be her favorite) that *myname* and "Allen" (a seriously mentally ill kid, not like a mild mental disorder like SP) were a little bit *more difficult* to cooperate; the three of us were in a group and were assigned to make paper airplanes, he wanted to make it one way, and I wanted to make it another way so he told the teacher we couldn't agree a design. That was really the first time I ever proposed an alternative to the proposition of someone else in a group project, and this incident made sure it would be the last.

*Sorry for the previous paragraph, I know it's a literary failure*

At that time my Social Phobia was even worse, and my teacher thought I was a savant (one of those people who are smart as a result of a mental deficiency in another area).

She talked to me like a baby and I really hated it.




Anyway, I could go on all day with more details, have you ever had an experience where you felt like because of your poor social performance that people might think you have mental problems (when you really don't, other than SP)??

My biggest fear is that I could end up being (or even being perceived as) a mentally ill person.

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Not really. When I do say something it's usually at least vaguely clever/sarcastic/interesting, it's just that I don't say a whole lot. I'd say people think I'm odd rather than retarded, which is preferable obviously. What really annoys me is when I get the feeling they feel sorry for me. I want understanding and acceptance, not pity.
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gsmax5, yes. my brother's friend got me a job once. after i quit, my brother told me his friend said everyone there thought i was slow. he meant it in all seriousness, wasn't joking.

i get "she must be retarded"/pity vibes from coworkers and other people i interact with all the time. basically i AM scared shitless to be there but i HAVE to be there- i have no choice. i have to work. i am so socially inept and just barely cope. it is all very plain to see and quite humiliating.

i can look normal from afar, if i'm just walking around in the grocery store or something. once you start talking to me beyond, "hi, how are you," it's obvious my social skills are handicapped. i can never get far past that point- this is when my terrible awkwardness becomes apparent.
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I've had experiences like this... People who say you're retarded are just ignorant. All they know is that you're different, so they label you with the first thing that comes into their head (slow, retarded, etc.).

Society in general needs to be educated about these disorders. The fact that this thread even exists proves that much. As a whole, people with anxiety disorders have above average IQ. Mentally retarded people are incredibly below average IQ levels. It just shows how a lot of "normals" tend to judge people before getting to know them. It's no wonder life seems so difficult for people like us...


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or on the other extreme, a superior, snobby bitch.
Yep, I've been there too...


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Yeah, i feel like this all the time. I used to really torture myself over it and couldn't accept that maybe i am a little bit 'slow'. It's better now though, it doesn't bother me as much. Most people think i'm thick and a little bit weird, but i'm not letting it get me down, just trying to be my best self... hope you find a solution too
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Old 04-04-2009  
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I do feel retarded at times. I get days like today where i can't converse with anyone because i just am unable to form words into sentences, today i feel depressed and when i try to say something it doesn't come out smoothly you know like ''How.Are.You?'' with a pause between words.
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Yes, I noticed that people don't look directly into your eyes, if they think your retarded. Even my own family think i'm a retard!
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I know I'm retarded, people thinking this is irrelevant.

If you want bigotry and fundamentalism and naked ape chest beating, you can't do better than starting with ayatollah Richard Dawkins.
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