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Old 04-03-2011  
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Default Re: Do people think you're retarded?

yep, lots. But that is SAD along with hearing problems along with low intelligence that I have.. But I'm not and I know it but many people like my friends friends and tutors speak to me like i'm stupid...
My older brother 'autistic' though.. He can't speak any words etc.
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not really but i am assuming they think i am slow because i do often take a lot of time to think about what people are actually saying and what their motives are especially at work but mostly in general these days. If people are converising about a topic i have no knowledge of then it's really difficult for me to contribute anything at all to the conversation, so i can imagine sharpies and socialites probably think i'm a bait slow or perhaps a little autistic in behaviour.
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Not usually, but there was a customer I had today at work that obviously thought I was retarded without saying it. I'm a cashier, so I started ringing up his purchases, and asked the questions I'm supposed to ask- about whether he has a rewards card for the store I work at- this was ignored because he was preoccupied with the fact that he forgot (or may have dropped) something he needed- so he went to get it, and when he got back (a full 5 minutes later) I asked the question again. He said "You already asked me that" and when I tried to tell him some of the benefits of the store card he said "You already said that too, do you have memory problems?" I said no, of course I don't- that the only thing I couldn't remember was him giving me an answer and it had been five minutes since I said it. Then after I bagged his items, he asked me to double bag them, and I hesitated for a second because the request was odd given that he had only purchased some clothes and a few small packages of hooks and nails, and double bagging is usually only necessary if you have heavy/bulky items. I asked "Both of them?" (I think he had just two bags that weren't even heavy or full for that matter) and he said "Yes, and double means two." I said I know what double means sir- and I was tempted to tell him that I have a Master's degree from a somewhat prestigious school, but thought that would just invite a comment like "Then what are you doing working here?"

And come to think of it, my brother's friend usually says something along those lines whenever I go to visit at my mom's house (he lives there)- he has explained to his girlfriend at least twice that I have a Master's degree and that I'm probably smarter than he is (which is actually high praise given how smart he thinks he is), but that I work as a cashier. We've always picked on each other about stuff like that, but it does bother me that people might actually think I'm a moron because I can't get a good job right now (and in fact, haven't even applied for anything for a while because just thinking about the application/interview process puts my stomach in knots).
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@lurknomore wow that guy is a grade a ______er. don't take his behavior personally. you know that guy talks down to every cashier like that.
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I totally know where you are coming from. I am happy to say to you, your not alone. I have people talk to me like im a baby all my life, it used to bother me, as i didnt like to be treated that way. But they do that alot, and they dont do it to tease me, more like they think i am unable to help myself.

As years gone by, i just take advantage of it. They end up help speaking for me to ask for things, help me get stuff, pour drinks for me, buy me food etc...
Sure i can do it myself, but if they look at me that way, then fine.. its not bad to have something out of it.

Anyways, but i know what you mean. I think people think i am retarded, because i dont seem to understand social que... but im not autistic, i am an original SA from birth, but i grew out of SA as a teenager, but then i had depression, and my SA came back, and now my commmuication is down hill... so if i cant communicate well, people think i am retarded..

Sometime i am interested in the topic, but because i am feeling anxious, i am not thinking or focus or listening properly, so communication goes wrong.
But when im online and talking about same topic, i am pretty confident and better at communication. So this is why my SA is real.

I dont lack communication because i dont have something to say, which is not SA.. i lack it becuase of my SA = anxious, nervous.. etc..

communication is the KEY for everything.

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Yeah, the assumptions seem to be people's favorite thing to do when they don't know you. I had some frat boys calling me retarded to my face the first night I met them, and that was also the last night I met them because I didn't exactly want to be friends with guys that think i'm retarded. A co-worker called me retarded b4 to my face too. It just comes with the SAD, it's something we all have to deal with, I believe. There are people that assume we are stupid. That's their loss for not taking the time to get to know us, they are missing out on a good guy in my case.
Thats really rude of your co-worker! and def was his loss... normally people dont say that. so i think its just the job u r in, hires really rude people.

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No, Im actually witty when i have to respond to something but Ive been told a lot that I appear rude and angry. Even when I smile at people!!! I guess my fake smiles appear as frowns or something. Its so confusing and I really dont know what to do. Now I practice in front of the mirror to smile.
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I have definitely gotten vibes from people were they clearly think I am mentally handicapped.
I hate the vibe. I get them...
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Nah, people just think I'm stuck up or mean.
I've gotten this as well. Especially if I don't respond. But that's sometimes because I don't know how to respond to their jokes or comments.... Someone told me I have that "don't mess with me" or "please leave me alone" look. (After I asked why I don't have friends....)
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Some of these vibes frankly are in your head. I still feel this way, but viewing situations under a biased lens of negativity and feeling these ways already color your view and vibes. Now ppl saying stuff and stating things well, ok. I've gotten light cases of that. THe looking angry or sad. A lot. Never retarded tho.

No doubt, I did something truly retarded last few days, and the ppl around me are chill luckily, for the most part, but definitely vibe of moronism --- and I was quiet too, but, I've come to realize just don't know unless someone clearly states or says something. But even then, my SAD colored glasses make me think ppl view me a certain way when I dont know without real evidence. I dont trust my own judgement now =D

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I wonder if my graduating class in high school thought I was handicapped always walked hunched over and have a lazy eye so really maybe but screw them handicap people are some of the nicest people i know. I always talk to them they come out of there way to talk to me kinda fell better when I do because it lets me let them feel like a person who isn't handicap. I make'em laugh and always give them there space just as i like my space.

WE all must dream and wish to live longer....hmm thats sounds like being a kid lets all frolic!!! la la la!!
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