Do shy girls go for outgoing guys?

Shift

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I don't think I could date a person who was super outgoing, but it would be nice being with someone a bit more outgoing than myself though so they can help push me out of my comfort zone a little and get me to try new things.
 

Nicholas

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The thing is, outgoing guys are not usually seen as losers, while shy guys often attract criticism and other negative qualities. The key is to be a shy guy without becoming a loser. At that point, there'll be lots of girls who will be attracted to you, even if you are shy, even if you are a nice guy, even if you are yourself.
 
Yeah.
Probably.
Maybe.
I definately have problems finding someone who isnt into partying.
Not into that anymore. Not that I wouldnt find utter silence a tad uncomfortable, I'd nevertheless like to meet a girl who could be at ease, for example, around nature, where silence isnt intimidating to me.
Getting out is my main problem, I worry Ive spent far too long on my own now.
 

SpLynx

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No I was searching for someone who wouldnt try to drag me out with a bunch of his friends or drag me out anywhere I would feel awkward. We are both calm people.
 

aizome

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if i know a guy is decent, sweet, morally right in the head, strong in himself, it doesn't matter to me whether he's shy or outgoing. the only difference is sometimes it can be harder for shy x shy people to get to know eachother initially, because it's difficult to make the first move. so it's really more of an accessibility thing i think.
 

xxaimsxx

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Well i think shy guys are more good looking. I really do. Each to their own though im sure people are drawn to loud people. I tend to want to get to know the shy ones.
 

Lost Girl

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Opposites attract! My hubby is the most non-shy person I know. He isn't obnoxiously loud and attention-seeking or anything, but he will talk to anyone and everyone and say whatever is on his mind. If he is curious about the smallest thing he'll ask questions until his mind has been satisfied, and he gets into the most random conversations with total strangers about the most bizarre things - like black holes, or how to make pudding, or WW2, waterfalls, how plastic is made - within like a minute of meeting them! No idea how he does it... It is hard to deal with sometimes because he'll start talking to a stranger and I will feel a little awkward...but I also admire him for the way he is. It does help me come out of my shell a little bit.
 

Kat

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Opposites attract! My hubby is the most non-shy person I know. He isn't obnoxiously loud and attention-seeking or anything, but he will talk to anyone and everyone and say whatever is on his mind. If he is curious about the smallest thing he'll ask questions until his mind has been satisfied, and he gets into the most random conversations with total strangers about the most bizarre things - like black holes, or how to make pudding, or WW2, waterfalls, how plastic is made - within like a minute of meeting them! No idea how he does it... It is hard to deal with sometimes because he'll start talking to a stranger and I will feel a little awkward...but I also admire him for the way he is. It does help me come out of my shell a little bit.


That's sweet! My partner is a bit like that as well, although he doesn't like to admit to it. I, think he just doesn't want me to feel like I am alone. He can socialize when he has to but doesn't really have any issues if we don't live the outgoing life style. He usually does the talking when we are around people, it does worry me a little as to what they think about me standing there quiet, but I have to learn not to care about those sorts of things.
 

Lost Girl

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That's sweet! My partner is a bit like that as well, although he doesn't like to admit to it. I, think he just doesn't want me to feel like I am alone. He can socialize when he has to but doesn't really have any issues if we don't live the outgoing life style. He usually does the talking when we are around people, it does worry me a little as to what they think about me standing there quiet, but I have to learn not to care about those sorts of things.

Oh, I completely relate! My partner has actually pulled in a little, and isn't quite as talkative to strangers as he used to be because he knows I sometimes get really anxious about it (bless him::eek::). I used to always think to myself that people would meet him and be so charmed by him, then look at me, all quiet and un-witty, and think "Why on earth is he with her?" But I try not to think like that anymore. I know how outrageously amazing I am - I just have a very small list of people that I'll allow to see it! Or at least that's what I'll keep telling myself-ha!::p:
 

Kat

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Oh, I completely relate! My partner has actually pulled in a little, and isn't quite as talkative to strangers as he used to be because he knows I sometimes get really anxious about it (bless him::eek::). I used to always think to myself that people would meet him and be so charmed by him, then look at me, all quiet and un-witty, and think "Why on earth is he with her?"

100% Me, right there!

But I try not to think like that anymore. I know how outrageously amazing I am -::p:

You should have that attitude, it’s fitting.:)
 

Illusions

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I actually prefer shy ones, I think they're cute, haha. But I wouldn't mind someone outgoing either, provided that he weren't outgoing to the point of being cocky and obnoxious.
 

Fighter86

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Maybe a bit outgoing, but not too much, I'm not too sure on this area, I however do like more matured and older males.
 

LaLaLa

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I'm attracted to some of those types but it depends on what their personality is like too. Usually I'm intimidated by them and just like to secretly admire them from afar. I can't see myself talking to an outgoing type of guy. I'm actually not very attracted to the shy types unless I know them because I just assume that they don't like me as I can't tell what is on their minds and/or what they think of me. <_<
 
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