Do you consider yourself a free spirit or someone that follows the crowd?

In other words, do you like to work at your own pace without no one to bother you and you choose to make the decisions on your own in your life... or do you want the assistance from others, have relationships, just in general be around other people. I'd like to think of myself as a free spirit since I have trouble identifying with males and females but I prefer to be one of those minor characters in a book/movie who don't take a lot of recognition from anyone and choose to stay single. I don't really care about marriage, prom, children, or even relationships. I'd just choose to walk my own path in life if it's possible.

Free spirit, ah say. If am no' payin' for a drink aw the better. :bigsmile:

Naw, my shite attempts at humour aside, ah can certainly relate to what yer sayin'. I definitely prefer workin' at my own pace, naebuddy bothering me. Since I don't have any distractions, and tend to focus more. Ah don't mind assistance from others, though, if I feel in need of it.

I can also relate to havin' trouble identifying with men and wimmin. And the whole idea of being a minor character in a book or movie who doesn't get a lot of recognition - that's my ideal. Since I've never been one for be the centre of attention. Well from teen to adult life, anyway.

Then again, I've always like my own company than the company of others. Always felt alone when I'm around people. And I never really saw the point of being someone that followed the crowd. Aye, ye might be popular, but yer not really being true to yerself.

Ah've never cared for marriage, kids or relationships either. Too much stress for ma likin'.

And, by all means, walk yer own path in life. As long yer happy that's all that matters.

I followed the crowd for a very very long time, and it's not something you should ever do. I did it mostly because I thought there was something wrong with me and blamed myself for not fitting in instead of trying to own my not fitting in.

I'm definitely not a free spirit... I have wayyyy too many anxieties and inhibitions for that. But I don't try to fit in anymore, so I guess that puts me in some other category.

I'm more like a ghost by choice or something.

I appreciate autonomy and like to have control over my own life. I'm also not one for following things just because they're popular (though I don't shy away from things for that reason either.) I do have a desire for close/meaningful relationships too though.

Not exactly a free spirit. I'm pretty self-conscious and I have a lot of self-doubt. However, I consider myself quietly quirky. I don't go out seeking attention and I don't make a conscious effort to be edgy or to rebel against social conventions, but there is a natural weird color on me that I can't wash out. Some think it's cool, some think it's lame. I never tried very much to follow the crowd. I stay to myself a lot and just do my own thang. I can't say I'm always comfortable doing my own thang though. I get lonely and sad.

I feel as though, for the most part, everyone should embrace what they are: unique. It's important to be who you are without barriers, to express the things you love and dislike, to be confident and proud in enjoying long walks at night, or a specific band most people haven't heard of, or enjoying a trip to a museum by yourself for contemplation sake, etc. Not being afraid of being allows you to become confident and unaffected by judgmental voices (thus making you able to filter between people who do and don't deserve your time and attention).

In other situations, I feel as though it's also important to 'follow the crowd', so as not to distance yourself too much from the reality of things (the need to work and establish work relationships with people you don't really get along with that much, certain social norms and so on - it's okay to go watch a certain movie or concert just because everyone else is, or to enjoy Gangnam Style even though everyone else does too, gives you more stuff to talk about). If you can combine both things, you'll probably have a successful social and emotional life.

A little of both, and I'd say I care a lot less what others think now than I did even a couple years ago. I think I've realized what's important to me, and trends and pleasing others are not part of it. I still have social anxiety but I'm not ashamed of it like I used to be. I want to improve it but regardless I accept myself the way I am and frankly screw anyone who passes judgment - honestly do not care. It's a nice change in perspective for me.

But yeah, I like to do my own thing a lot, but also value advice and relationships, just depends on many factors.

I don't consider myself a free spirit but I also don't follow the crowd. I'm a loner at heart, partly due to my SA and partly due to the fact that it appeals to me most of the time.

I'm a mix.

I make my own decisions, but I prefer to be around people I love.

I wish I had a close-knit small group of friends, even just a couple to share some good company. But I guess that will probably never happen.

Loneliness for me, sucks.

I'm probably following something but I sure as hell hope it won't turn out to be a crowd

My spirit becomes broken when I spend time in the world of people, I come alive in my own company or that of nature and animals.

free spirit, i think.
unless im unsure about something or it's a new situation, then i just tend to follow the crowd out of fear of looking stupid.
but i enjoy being independent, dont like being controlled at all, dont like being told what to do. there was a time where i would refuse to do whatever other people were doing. i was a bit of a hipster. god forbid i ever did anything mainstream lol. i dont totally reject everything mainstream, but i dont try too hard to be different.

a free spirt who wants to get noticed by the crowd

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In other words, do you like to work at your own pace without no one to bother you and you choose to make the decisions on your own in your life... or do you want the assistance from others, have relationships, just in general be around other people. I'd like to think of myself as a free spirit since I have trouble identifying with males and females but I prefer to be one of those minor characters in a book/movie who don't take a lot of recognition from anyone and choose to stay single. I don't really care about marriage, prom, children, or even relationships. I'd just choose to walk my own path in life if it's possible.

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absolutely i use my head to make my decision. even if it means loose somenthing. The lesson is most important!

I have still to see "into the wild" movie :bigsmile:. i buied the dvd one year ago !