Do you ever feel like people really hate you

I feel that for people to "hate" you, they first need to get to know you in order to have something to hate. Very often we allow our own impressions of ourselves to affect the way we perceive others to see us.

Try just ignoring these feelings and see what happens, remember, what we feel inside is what we radiate out to others, very much like a unspoken language or subliminal body language.

Well, that is my opinion anyway, all the best.

But this is what makes my situation worse. I think that everyone else can sense my fear and it just makes me more afraid. I can try to be normal, but in the end all I'm thinking about is "crap, they know I'm afraid."
I also know others don't like me because I don't have a job and they think I'm narcissistic, which maybe I am. I don't mean to be. I guess I just have a hatred for people because I'm jealous and I've never been able to associate with others. I never say what I feel, only what I think I should so that people will like me.
I can never bring myself to say what's actually on my mind. Probably because I've done it all my life. What's in my head stays in my head and never comes out as words. If I start talking, all I hear is my voice.
It's even hard to finalize what I'm thinking into typing. My mind gets jumbled and can't think straight. I never know what to say.
But eh. It is what it is. I wish I could change. I really do. But I guess I just don't care enough. Still.
 
Yes I do feel that way. People mostly tolerate me, and mock me behind my back. No matter how much I try to connect, I rub people the wrong way.
 

harlseq

Well-known member
I do feel that most people tend to dislike me or at least that they feel uncomfortable when talking or dealing with me in a casual or informal situation. There are a few people who have become at different points in my life my best friends that are not like this, but for the most part this is the impression that I get from everyone else besides close family. I just started a new job and I can already tell that most of my new co-workers either don't like me or don't feel comfortable around me. Maybe I'm just hypersensitive about this kind of thing, but it's just the impression that I get and can't seem to shake.
 

zav943

Well-known member
I think I emit some kind of repulsive pheromone that makes people dislike me. It doesn't matter if I'm friendly and talkative, shy and quiet, inquistive, chatty or funny...

There's this girl i work with...she is repulsed by me. We have NEVER had a proper conversation...she always gives me one-word answers, NEVER asks me any questions. In fact, she'll usually look away from me when I'm not talking to her. That's despite the fact that, once, I invited her over to watch to world cup final with me and some other people and she came. During the time she was there, she didn't utter a word to me (so, in retaliation, I didn't include her in any of the conversations I was having with the people I was with, none of whom she knew. She sat there like a fool).

Naturally, I don't talk to her any more (and I show her no respect of any kind as she has always done to me).

I wish I could ask her: Why? What have I said or done that makes you so repulsed by me?

*sigh*
 
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I think I emit some kind of repulsive pheromone that makes people dislike me. It doesn't matter if I'm friendly and talkative, shy and quiet, inquistive, chatty or funny...


*sigh*

I definitely feel like I emit something that makes people either not care for me or feel indifferently toward me. I can be cool and collected, really feel like I'm getting along with someone or a group, don't make an ass out of myself or do anything awkward or obnoxious, and yet people just seem indifferent to my presence when all is said and done. No matter how much fun I have with a person on a particular occasion, they never seem to want to be my friend after that. I don't know why I never make it to the "friend" category. Seems like some people who don't even try at all and who are not personable have all kinds of friends, so I don't get it.
 

epona

Member
I get this too. it's probably in my head most of the time. but at the minute i'm feeling distanced from people and like they hate me and give me funny looks.
 

KiaKaha

Banned
I think I emit some kind of repulsive pheromone that makes people dislike me. It doesn't matter if I'm friendly and talkative, shy and quiet, inquistive, chatty or funny...

There's this girl i work with...she is repulsed by me. We have NEVER had a proper conversation...she always gives me one-word answers, NEVER asks me any questions. In fact, she'll usually look away from me when I'm not talking to her. That's despite the fact that, once, I invited her over to watch to world cup final with me and some other people and she came. During the time she was there, she didn't utter a word to me (so, in retaliation, I didn't include her in any of the conversations I was having with the people I was with, none of whom she knew. She sat there like a fool).

Naturally, I don't talk to her any more (and I show her no respect of any kind as she has always done to me).

I wish I could ask her: Why? What have I said or done that makes you so repulsed by me?

*sigh*

Yeah, I know what you mean there. The thing that annoys me the most though, is that people seem to be drawn to loud, brash and often downright rude people, whereas the ones who are a bit more considerate and make an effort just get ignored or treated like crap... I dont know...sometimes I feel like I dont understand the world at all.

Also, there is a girl where I am who treats me the same way as the one in your story. I think its just a case of making assumptions about who you are. Once someones mind is made up about you, then thats it... its over. Despite how baffling and unfair someone treats you, there mind is made up because they can only ever see you a certain way.

Final conclusion....people are weird.
 

md1217

Member
I feel that you are being too hard on yourself. What you feel about yourself is how people will treat you. It's a mind struggle many face. Once you learn to control that, you will never feel that way.
 
I don't feel like people hate me, I'd actually like it if people hated me because at least then they'd be acknowledging my existence. I'm not disliked, I'm unliked. I'm pretty much ignored everywhere I go. I'm really insignificant.
 
I'd actually like it if people hated me because at least then they'd be acknowledging my existence.

That's a good point you brought up. I feel the same. I'd much rather be hated than ignored.
 
I'm not disliked, I'm unliked. I'm pretty much ignored everywhere I go. I'm really insignificant.

That's an interesting distinction that I've never thought about: disliked vs. unliked...I'm definitely in the "unliked" category. I really do think that can be worse...it's like you're invisible.
 
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