Do you ever feel like you're wasting your life?

Indecisive

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I've never really had a direction in life, back in high school I pretended to be smart and talked about going to college but inside I always doubted I was smart enough or that I could even handle going away to school. Because of my fears and the lack of confidence in myself I never did go to College (perhaps as you can tell from my poor spelling and terrible sentences).

I've worked at a few jobs but nothing I ever enjoyed or felt good at, when things got too over whelming I would quit and go back to being at home. School felt like a prison, just couldn't wait to get out and the jobs I've worked at felt the same way after a while. I've never understood how some people can work at the same job for 20-30 years and not go crazy. Amazing to me how they seem fine with what they are doing and their place in life. For me as if my life is a waste, I'd just like to find a purpose and something I'm good at. Make enough money to be ok and make friends.

What about you all?
 

BrokenSmile

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I feel like i'm wasting my life each passing day. I feel like all the people wasting their lifes. I even feel that animals and birds or any kind of creature are wasting their lifes.

I don't even know how life suppose to be lived. Maybe we have to find what means for us to LIVE. And please quit all kind of stereotypes. Don't think at what other people are doing or at society.
I feel this way because society impose people some rules, a kind of direction in life.

Let's think what most of people are doing durring this life. They are kids, then they go to school where they learn boring stuff. Then they go to college or university, then they have to find a job (that is alsou very boring usually :roll: or become boring after some years). People waste so much time doing his job (i mean, u realise that people spend most time at job in a day) trying to make money . They are into this running for money way and they fogot to live even more when they say that they need money for everyday living. How they have time to live when they use their time making money? So this is the direction that society impose people. Before or after they find a job they have to find a partner make a relationship and then get married or at least make kids with their partners. Their kids will grow up and will follow the same direction in life .... So this is how many people lives their lifes , sure are some exceptions too... People waste too many time doing boring and useless things...
Now that i've read i don't find any sense and any conclusion to this ... :(

I feel we are wasting our lifes and we don't live our lifes to the full.
 

LemonKiss

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BrokenSmile said:
I feel like i'm wasting my life each passing day. I feel like all the people wasting their lifes. I even feel that animals and birds or any kind of creature are wasting their lifes.

I don't even know how life suppose to be lived. Maybe we have to find what means for us to LIVE. And please quit all kind of stereotypes. Don't think at what other people are doing or at society.
I feel this way because society impose people some rules, a kind of direction in life.

Let's think what most of people are doing durring this life. They are kids, then they go to school where they learn boring stuff. Then they go to college or university, then they have to find a job (that is alsou very boring usually :roll: or become boring after some years). People waste so much time doing his job (i mean, u realise that people spend most time at job in a day) trying to make money . They are into this running for money way and they fogot to live even more when they say that they need money for everyday living. How they have time to live when they use their time making money? So this is the direction that society impose people. Before or after they find a job they have to find a partner make a relationship and then get married or at least make kids with their partners. Their kids will grow up and will follow the same direction in life .... So this is how many people lives their lifes , sure are some exceptions too... People waste too many time doing boring and useless things...
Now that i've read i don't find any sense and any conclusion to this ... :(

I feel we are wasting our lifes and we don't live our lifes to the full.

I feel like I've had the attitude all 4 years at my high school. Now I know for certain that I just focused on all of that stuff that I couldn't control because I was so scared to take control of my own life for fear of crashing.

Lol. I'm tired of being so serious. Need to lighten up. Do you ever feel like throwing your head back, arms up and screaming a long curse to the sky? And then just laughing because at the end, it's over and you could have seen all the misery in life and still laughed and been happy.

We need to move our focus here. Focus on other things.

Oh. And yes, I do feel like I'm wasting my life.
 

blubs

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Yes...and it gets me down alot..because life is precious and there are alot of things I would love to do & have dreamt of doing. But my SA has affected me so badly that I have only ever had poorly paid jobs that don't give me the means to do any of those things.
When I get old I feel like I'll have hardly any memories to look back on.
 

spurs

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BrokenSmile said:
I feel like i'm wasting my life each passing day. I feel like all the people wasting their lifes. I even feel that animals and birds or any kind of creature are wasting their lifes.

I don't even know how life suppose to be lived. Maybe we have to find what means for us to LIVE. And please quit all kind of stereotypes. Don't think at what other people are doing or at society.
I feel this way because society impose people some rules, a kind of direction in life.

Let's think what most of people are doing durring this life. They are kids, then they go to school where they learn boring stuff. Then they go to college or university, then they have to find a job (that is alsou very boring usually :roll: or become boring after some years). People waste so much time doing his job (i mean, u realise that people spend most time at job in a day) trying to make money . They are into this running for money way and they fogot to live even more when they say that they need money for everyday living. How they have time to live when they use their time making money? So this is the direction that society impose people. Before or after they find a job they have to find a partner make a relationship and then get married or at least make kids with their partners. Their kids will grow up and will follow the same direction in life .... So this is how many people lives their lifes , sure are some exceptions too... People waste too many time doing boring and useless things...
Now that i've read i don't find any sense and any conclusion to this ... :(

I feel we are wasting our lifes and we don't live our lifes to the full.

yea i feel like i'm waisting my life allt he time...i hate the idea of not being able to leave an impact or change the world for the better...i constantly feel like i'm just existing to exsist...it rally drives me crazy sometimes...because i can't see the point in maintaining such a futile existence...like it takes so much time to look after your biological/physical needs...sometimes i wish we only had minds instead of bodily needs to maintain aswell.
when u say people waste so much time doing their jobs this is what capitalism is all about...it is easy to say it's a waste of time but i would much rather live in a country with a thriving econemy and plentiful supply of jobs, than a famine/poverty ridden war-torn country...many of those people would kill to have what we have...i'm not trying to moralise but the huge division between developed and non developed nations really bothers me and evryone including myself takes it for granted
 

thequietone

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Every once in a while, yes. I think about how HUGE the world is and how much of it I haven't seen and how many experiences I've never had. Whenever I think about it, I get really nervous because I don't want to be old, sitting in front of my TV with nothing.
But I also agree with BrokenSmile:

I don't even know how life suppose to be lived. Maybe we have to find what means for us to LIVE. And please quit all kind of stereotypes. Don't think at what other people are doing or at society.
I feel this way because society impose people some rules, a kind of direction in life.

How is life supposed to be? No one knows. :roll:
 

turtlegirl

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I don't feel like I'm wasting my life. Then again, I don't have dreams.

I never asked to be born, to have a life. So I'm not breaking any promises to myself or others.

The best I can do is not cause harm to others intentionally.

I doubt anyone likes the thought of being old someday and looking back on their lives. It's just so depressing to think about. None of us will be capable of doing all the things we did/could have done when we were young.

The reality is you don't know how things would have turned out if only... the "if only" game. Whenever I hear about some outdoorsy person dying, I think well, staying at home I don't have to worry about that, heh.

In the end, everything you do is a learning experience. Have to be satisfied with that...
 

corsa

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i don't feel as if i'm wasting my life, but i do wonder sometimes about whether i was really meant to be here or not. See i was born about a month early via an emergency caesarean section because i wasn't positioned properly or something and the doctors didn't think my chances were good if i stayed in the womb much longer. Anyway this incident has always made me think that without the aid of medical technology i wouldn't even have made it here in the first place. Maybe i wasn't meant to exist and my life is just a fluke created by modern medicine.
 

Waybuloo

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corsa said:
i don't feel as if i'm wasting my life, but i do wonder sometimes about whether i was really meant to be here or not. See i was born about a month early via an emergency caesarean section because i wasn't positioned properly or something and the doctors didn't think my chances were good if i stayed in the womb much longer. Anyway this incident has always made me think that without the aid of medical technology i wouldn't even have made it here in the first place. Maybe i wasn't meant to exist and my life is just a fluke created by modern medicine.

well that seems like negative thinking at work. If you see it another way the medical help was meant to be so you can be here, if that makes sense
 

corsa

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oh i didn't mean it to be negative. Like i don't dwell on the fact that i was born or how i was born. i just think it's an interesting way of looking at it. It's kind of funny, i mean, i might not have "meant" to be here but i scammed my way in anyway 8)
 

Waybuloo

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Ah i cee i msut've interpreted u wrong.
Yea i wonder whehter i'd feel diff about myself if i was born premature or with complications. IT could go either way. I could have even less self esteem and feel liek i have no right to be here. Or feel liek i cheated non existence and have been given a 'gift'
 

IceLad

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It does feel as if I've wasted a lot of my life so far. I would like to go back to so many situations and re-live them again, making the 'non SP decision', rather than a decision that manages my life around SP.
 

The_Crusader

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IceLad said:
It does feel as if I've wasted a lot of my life so far. I would like to go back to so many situations and re-live them again, making the 'non SP decision', rather than a decision that manages my life around SP.


Same here!
 

Predacon

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Yeah I'm always wondering if I didn't Have SP and if I had made my choices differently how different would my life be now. Its always amazing to me, how easy it must be for some people to make a descision and not constantly wonder how it might go wrong.
 

Lotrsfan

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Yeah. I feel i'm wasting my life away and to be honest i am. I'm unemployed, so at the moment i spend most of my time at home and i could be going to Uni or college (though i have been there and i left) again learning about a career but i don't know what career i would like to do. When i was younger i wanted to be an Air Hostess but that's not happening now, you have to learn lots of different languages and i've got a bad memory LOL so i wouldn't be able to remember what words mean in that language and also i am social phobic which is certainly not what a Air Hostess is supposed to be.
I could also be out there going to nightclubs or some social clubs getting myself some friends but this social phobia holds me back.
 

trickynix

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I'm going to be honest, I am in college right now, junior year, and I've always felt like it was a prison. I just can't seem to get the hang of it... *sigh* It's really a nuisance. Yes, it has helped me grow intellectually, and I've made a few friends here and there, but the damned bureaucracy gets me down everytime. Plus I generally find the unimaginative and simplistic people around me to be rather boring. Most people I meet are boring because they believe in pretense, and to me pretense is boring. You know that moment when you walk up to someone for the first time and you make the polite conversation expected of you, and you tailor all of your responses to cater to the needs of the other person, possibly so they are not offended? Yeah. I'm bored with that. I'd rather someone be who they are and offend me properly than put up with that bull**** front we all have to deal with.

Anyway, so sorry. What does this have to do with your original post? Well...
Amazing to me how they seem fine with what they are doing and their place in life.
To me this is a beautiful line because I often find myself wondering the same thing. How can people be content with the little they're given? To me, everything seems so terribly understimulating. Nothing is funny, nothing is overly exciting, no one is very personable unless you kiss their ass for 10 minutes before hand, and when people do get interesting, it's usually after having spent an exhausting amount of time trying to coax them out of their shell. Why do we live in a world like that? Honestly, who needs that? The monotony, I would say, is due to the modern fascination with schedules and doing things solely for the sake of doing them (so that we can say we've done them - human doings) instead of garnering any real growth from the experience. I often feel like if I just lived in another time period, my life would be set. Maybe...can't be too sure. But there's a good chance of it. Americans spend so much of their time running around like chickens without a head, trying to reach some kind of deadline, trying to keep the world spinning at an intolerable and quite impossible pace...when will we slow it down enough to recognize eachother? Or to grow from what we are doing? Is it enough to say, "Yes, all I did yesterday was go to work for 8 hours, but I learned something about myself." No, that's not enough, you have to go to work for 8 hours, and then go around telling people all the other things you did after that. Being a power-horse is in vogue, but being deeply touched by anything is...well...for sissies and tree-huggers. I mean, what does your life mean if you can't TELL people a good story? If you can't list off your credentials to every dumbass, mundane prick with an ear? Who are you, even? And if you can't, well you're stuck at home, wondering why you don't want to do anything all the time, whereas everyone else finds it just peachy-keen to run the world for you. It's a serious blow to your self-esteem, and it certainly gives rise to the idea that maybe you are not who you are based on the connections you make, or the deeply touching experiences you have, but in fact because of what you can say to other people at fancy dinners, i.e. what you've been up to; what hard evidence do you have as to your identity?

Anyway, that's my beef with the universe. It is quite possible that that is how it works for you? Get back to me if this is true, if not, go ahead and call me out on it. We can have ourselves a nice discussion on the matter ;)

~CeCe
 

trickynix

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when u say people waste so much time doing their jobs this is what capitalism is all about...it is easy to say it's a waste of time but i would much rather live in a country with a thriving econemy and plentiful supply of jobs, than a famine/poverty ridden war-torn country...many of those people would kill to have what we have...i'm not trying to moralise but the huge division between developed and non developed nations really bothers me and evryone including myself takes it for granted

Okay...you have to admit here that most of the underdeveloped countries you are speaking of have their issues directly from larger countries, CAPITALISTIC countries, that have in the past exploited their resources and their peoples. Thus, they have much fighting today, because as these larger countries have withdrawn their influence, they have left much confusion and chaos in their wake. There is an inherent DIFFERENCE. If the peoples had been left alone within their own simplistic societies, yeah sure, they would still be fighting some other peoples next door, but it would not be such a blatant scramble for resources to compete in a global market economy, and it certainly wouldn't be on such a grand scale. It's good to be part of the larger country that is doing the exploiting because you do reap all the benefits, but take a closer look at the relationship you are missing in your statement here. And might I also add that the poverty experienced by these countries is most notably caused from the discrepancy that results as a symptom of a capitalistic world? Just saying, my friend, just saying.

I'm not saying capitalism is bad, but you have to see the downfall sometimes. Maybe if someone says, "I don't really like my life that much", allow them to say it. Nothing is perfect, and there is validity to every cynic. You don't NEED to be a cynic, and god knows everyone should see the humor in life, but...there's something in saying that this life just isn't for all of us. We don't "dig" it like everyone else does.
 

bigcat1967

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Don't mean to get religious on you all - but I've had it w/ my SA - that I'm turning to God. I know he has a purpose for me and He can help me overcome it.

I think everyone has a purpose. We're not put on this planet to waste time. However, our fears get in our ways and at times, doesn't seem like a way out. I've gone through this for years...however, I've faced a lot of fears and I have a good job, married and have one child. So SA didn't get me completely down. However, I still have issues and I think there is someone above that can help me.

Just me two cents guys...
 
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