Do you ever get dirty looks

I get them sometimes, and they really hurt me because I feel like they are undeserved and that I have done nothing to warrant another persons contempt. I mean I KNOW that not everyone is going to like me, and thats fine, I am an individual and not everyone is going to see things the same way as me, but isnt it unfair when someone sees you for the very first time and just make a snap judgment and just look at you like you are the biggest loser on the planet? Like you shouldnt even be allowed to exist because you are just a just an inferior piece of crap (mind reading eh? - but thats what it feels like to me) .

I ignore it, I focus on the people that DO like me, but I still feel frustrated that people sometimes view me as something that I am not when they havent even BOTHERED to find out for sure... assumptions it would seem are far more comfortable. Its stuff like this that really gets to me and makes me anti people and depressed.

Anyway, ra ra ra.... does anyone else get dirty looks? How does it make you feel, do you have any idea WHY? I need someone to share their experiences because right now its making me feel pretty crap.

I feel that people misjudge me all the time, and they don't have to even have words with me for me to get that feeling from them. It's in their eyes and body language, like they don't want anything to do with me, like I'm going to bring them down somehow.

I'm just asking, but are you sure they are dirty looks? People here (including me) can be very paranoid sometimes, and I think I saw a picture of you on this forum once and for what I remember there was nothing wrong with you.
If they are, I guess all you can do is try to ignore them and stay nice, so they will see they misjudged you? You are not responsible for other's stupidity. Just concentrate your energy on those who deserves it.
Sorry if it doesn't help, I can't give you anything better, for what I notice I don't think I ever got dirty looks

Pacific_Loner said:

I'm just asking, but are you sure they are dirty looks? People here (including me) can be very paranoid sometimes, and I think I saw a picture of you on this forum once and for what I remember there was nothing wrong with you.
If they are, I guess all you can do is try to ignore them and stay nice, so they will see they misjudged you? You are not responsible for other's stupidity. Just concentrate your energy on those who deserves it.
Sorry if it doesn't help, I can't give you anything better, for what I notice I don't think I ever got dirty looks

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Sound advice, and I do try that, but there is a growing resentment towards certain people who give me these looks. I think, partly, it is a yearning to be accepted, I admittedly dont handle rejection all that well, but I am learning, I dont like being judged as something that I am not. I just feel that most people just wear blinkers and cant see anything beyond their own internal view of reality (make sense maybe..?) I sometimes think its the way I look, because before I even open my mouth I get "the look" but then again...maybe its not, I am not particularly good looking, but (dare I say it) I dont think I am hideously ugly either(I dont think)...just a regular guy. Its very confusing and it upsets me, but with everything else that gets me down... I will just have to deal with it, and move on the best I can. Thank you for your kind words.

Sometimes we may wrongly perceive that someone is giving us dirty looks when they really are not.

I used to get dirty looks when I was younger. I made midriff-baring tops my fashion statement and most people weren't too happy about it. Just the other day. Over the past couple of years, I don't get too many dirty looks with the exception of a few here and there.

I could have sworn that the guy who works at the Italian deli gave me a dirty look when I told him $17 worth of Pecorino cheese was too expensive and too large a piece. I'm not sure whether that's just the way his face looks, but he may have not felt like cutting a smaller piece.

I would try to let it roll off my back if I were you. I've found myself (lately) speculating as to the reasons why I may have been given a dirty look, but I have to remind myself that it's a waste of time. What good does it bring me? Screw those people if they did because I know I didn't do anything to deserve it. If a person wants to have that kind of attitude then they can stay away from me. They wouldn't be doing themselves any favors coming around.

I think it's also important to consider that people sometimes go on autopilot when they go out in public, so what you perceive to be a "dirty look" may in actuality just be someone who is completely unaware of what they're doing.

And Sinar brings up a great point (a bit fiesty too, I like it )...what good does it actually do to worry about it?

Hypothetically, let's say the person really was shooting you a "dirty look." Is it a reflection on you? Absolutely not. They don't know you, so really, it's more of a reflection on them. Therefore, you shouldn't worry about what they think or what they're doing, because you don't need those type of people in your life anyway.

If a person gives you a scowl, a mean face sort of look then I'd just laugh at them. To make a snap judgement like that is rediculous unless your wearing some t-shirt with a slogan that they don't like or somthing. But I feel you on the looks that make you feel like dirt, those sort of looks like "christ, who dressed you this morning?" or somthing like that. Just look back at them unafraid or uncaring. I like to look back and raise my eyebrows like I'm saying,"hey, can I can help you with somthing?" usually makes them look away.

Just G said:

I think it's also important to consider that people sometimes go on autopilot when they go out in public, so what you perceive to be a "dirty look" may in actuality just be someone who is completely unaware of what they're doing.

And Sinar brings up a great point (a bit fiesty too, I like it )...what good does it actually do to worry about it?

Hypothetically, let's say the person really was shooting you a "dirty look." Is it a reflection on you? Absolutely not. They don't know you, so really, it's more of a reflection on them. Therefore, you shouldn't worry about what they think or what they're doing, because you don't need those type of people in your life anyway.

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I like this. Thanks Its funny how a few kind words from people can make a big difference. Question is still open if anyone wants to share of course..

people in my neighborhood think I'm crazy because I rarely come out during the day

which in return makes me more paranoid

I have received dirty and spiteful looks. I suffer in silence and try to stay away from the individuals but it is not always possible. It feels like I am facing the spanish inquisition when I am forced to face these people.

I get them from people I know mostly. As of strangers, yeah it happens sometimes. Can't really understand why though, but yes it does happen.

Frank Castle said:

If a person gives you a scowl, a mean face sort of look then I'd just laugh at them. To make a snap judgement like that is rediculous unless your wearing some t-shirt with a slogan that they don't like or somthing. But I feel you on the looks that make you feel like dirt, those sort of looks like "christ, who dressed you this morning?" or somthing like that. Just look back at them unafraid or uncaring. I like to look back and raise my eyebrows like I'm saying,"hey, can I can help you with somthing?" usually makes them look away.

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haha Frank u give good advice I was few times trying like that if u look them back and in eyes question what do you want mother****er then they back off or they try stand your look. Im too soft do that but somedays what i had courage was working Shykiwi try just look back and pretend u totaly dont care this make them more less sure in the pants. I often actually look down on the floor or try look it around pretend that i wasnt seeing usually i avoid look at people longer as few seconds cant look on them and search find something more interresting like wall,or tree. Just dont let them win anytime what u look down they will grow more self-esteem on you. Be strong and give look back or just make smile like u think they are nice. They will back off as if u will avoid it. I know is hard look in eyes,people can be mad on anything else and if your eyes meet up with them isnt mean they look dirty on you.

Brooklynn said:

Yes I feel that people give me dirty looks everywhere I go. I sometimes wonder if its just our imagination because when we are nervous about being in public I think we have higher chances of becoming extremely paranoid because all we think about is embarrassing ourselves in front of people. I think its our imagination running wild.

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Yes i relate to this we are extremly paranoic. Imagination is good think but not in those way what we use to do because of anxiety://thats sucks. But necessary sometimes i try cheer my self oh common they dont looked u dirty u only imagine the worse,but later if i meet them again i see they doo and im confused and say to myself hmm this wasnt only anxiety is true. Just some people are stupid and they are bored they need some victim for make them feel better.