Do you ever just pretend to be happy?

hollie666

Member
nonick said:
Almost everyday. It is easier really that to answer questions about what's wrong with me or why i am unhappy. Most people don't care anyway and those who do cannot understand or give any real help.

my words exactly.
 

recluse

Well-known member
I feel fake when i pretend to be happy. If i say something funny and make someone laugh i feel guilty for being funny, as if i am betraying my true personality if that makes any sense?
 

Wednesday

Member
I totally relate to this as I have two personalities my Real One at home and the one I put on when I talk on the phone or walk out the door..Sometimes it's so much stress but it's the only way I know how to deal with it...
Wednesday
 
LittleMissScareAll said:
...although all you wanna do is cry and/or you don't feel like smiling at all?

I do sometimes.
Yeap so do i. People think they understand but they don't. I have social phobia/depression and anxiety. I talk to this girl who thinks oh you can change it oh you don't need medication and blahblah as if it that easy. I pee all the time due to my anxiety so i told her that i need medications b.c my bladder is overactive and i always feel it full so she's like medication will makeyou worst. You dont need to see a psychiatrist, they will just drug you and blahblah. CHange your life....YOU KNOW ITS NOT THAT FU.CKING EASY. :'(
 

LUMINOUS

Member
I used to have a real hard time pretending I was happy after I was with my friends for an extended amount of time, but now I can fool myself. only every once in a while do I realize how depressed I am. it scares me when the depression comes back, already bad enough alone.
I think I conceptualized the depression in my head and I don't feel it much anymore.
 

livingnsilence

Well-known member
I pretend to be happy every day of my life. The only time I am actually happy when I appear to be happy is when I'm drunk. Pretending to be happy almost comes naturally to me now, it does help though that my nervous reaction when I'm felling uncomfortable in a social situation is to smile or laugh. I've tried to go back into just looking like I feel but as soon I did people began to ask me what was wrong, so I got nervous and snapped right back into prettending to be happy.
 

Gone

Well-known member
Im always pretending to be happier then i really am, even when seeing my psychologist i can't express honestly how im really feeling. People asking how im doing can be really annoying since i can't really tell them anything without revealing my condition (Noone knows except my psychologist and a few government employees), il be going "Oh im just fine" when im really thinking "Crap im depressed".
 
i feel the same way you do. every time someone askes me how i am or asks me how college is goin i always seem to reply with 1 word ''alright''. even with family i can never seem to express my true feeling cuz i no they will never understand n den ill just feel incredibly awkward around them from then on
 

scorpion

Well-known member
Every single day, my life is a very big teather play, i spend almost 24 hours a day using a mask, the only time i take it off is in bed at night.
If people knew what is realy going on...
But i also get the feeling nobody would care much.
I get the feeling normal people dont give a shit about someone like us, whith this kind of problems, they just think we are cowards, stupids or something like that.
But that could also be my APD speaking, I never realy know.
 

lifefaker

New member
pretending happiness

Everyday I wake up feeling nothing. I always feel empty inside. I've read over a hundred self-help books, seen coaches, psychologists and still I go through every day putting a mask on so the world won't know I'm so sad. Even my closest friends seem so distant. I cant tell them, whenever I try they start to think I'm crazy or something. It's an endless cycle: feel sad, get too much attention people trying to cheer you up, pretend to be happy so that people leave you alone, feel horrible and guilty all over again for lying to your friends and family about what you truly feel.
 

yayooxy

Member
I used to pretend to be happy, but lately i cant be bothered to put on the front ...If ppl cant except me for who I am I dont need them in my life. :(
 
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teatree

Guest
i know this thread it old but what got me through feeling sad was finding music with singers that seemed to pour out their emotions in their songs.... like korn and linkin park they helped me to get "better"
 
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