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Old 10-01-2011
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I don't feel like a loser, I am a loser!

I know, I shouldn't be so hard on myself.
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Old 10-01-2011
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I also feel like a loser. :<
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Old 10-01-2011
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Interesting story... one time I befriended the coolest tough guy at school (not the coolest, the coolest of the tough group) anyway I felt like a loser till that point because I thought everyone was vain and I had to be to fit in. I didn't know why he respected me so much then I realized it's because he saw me at the hs gym, we did weights together and he didn't care much about being vain but that didn't stop him from getting all the vain girls. Then I realized I'm fine I just need to build on my confidence and go with this new tough guy character. Of course it didn't work out because I had only gained one inch since that point on and couldn't be a proper heavyweight like everyone else
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No, I'm no loser just because I can't speak to people that well. So what if I'm not like everyone else who can speak to whoever whenever? I'm not them and I never will be; I'm me and I wouldn't trade my life for the universe itself. There may be times when my anxiety gets the better of me and when I feel completely hopeless about it, but I always get back up. Lamenting it won't change it, so I have to get back up and try again for the sake of myself and everyone I care about. I'll fight this battle to the end and I'm coming out with a win!
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Old 10-01-2011
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I doesn't help me to feel like a loser, so I'm going to be an adult with myself, and go easy on me.
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Old 10-01-2011
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Technically yes, I never win anything.
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Old 10-01-2011
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I'm glad this was the first thread I saw as I got to the homepage. This is exactly how I feel right now. I'm avoiding my roommates because I was acting isolated and stupid last night. I was so nervous that when I tried going to the store I immediately backed up into my roommates car. He tried to joke about it even, but I just stood there and didn't do anything. On a related note, I don't think I'm going to smoke anymore.

I feel like a loser, I feel stupid, and I feel like I'm losing friends as I type. I don't know what I'm going to say when I go downstairs. I'm afraid that when I do I'm just going to say nothing and put the whole thing in the back of my mind to fester and get worse. I'm terrified of leaving my room right now and I'm terrified to stay.

I don't like feeling so isolated in my own home. What makes it worse is it is my own fault and probably doesn't even exist.
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Old 10-01-2011
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I don't like feeling so isolated in my own home.
I hate that feeling too...I usually lay down and try and calm myself down in situations like that...in fact I do a lot of that, laying down...I always feel better after I lay down for a while...
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Old 10-01-2011
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I do sometimes but its mainly on the weekends like right now on saturday. Im sitting at home while everybody else is out with friends. Its very rainy and dreary though so it gives me slight justification for staying in but still.
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Old 10-01-2011
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Do you guys ever have times when you are standing there in your house or room and you just don't know what to do with yourself? I have lately been taking on the challenge of just trying to be with myself, like my own self is company enough, or friend enough...it's freaking hard.
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Old 10-01-2011
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Do you guys ever have times when you are standing there in your house or room and you just don't know what to do with yourself? I have lately been taking on the challenge of just trying to be with myself, like my own self is company enough, or friend enough...it's freaking hard.
Yeah, I can relate. It is indeed difficult, even when you're use to spending time alone. I can never find much to do.
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Old 10-01-2011
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I do sometimes, yet at other times I feel good. I have been told by several people that I am my own worst critic, and I think that I might put too much pressure on myself.

My mother has pushed me into decisions, though. She hounded me to get a job, so I did, and now she hounds me to get a better one. She keeps telling me to save money. She told me for a long time to get a new car, so I did, and then the next day she asks when I'm going to get a girlfriend. I feel like a loser to her.

My brother is doing an IT course and has set up his own business. He's also had a girlfriend for about 4 years now. My mum once asked why I don't do a course like him.

To answer the question: I'm probably not a loser, but I'm a loser to mum's and society's eyes.
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Old 10-01-2011
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Most of the time.
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Old 10-01-2011
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ya i feel that way a lot at school. i feel like i am a loser for not talking to people at school. i feel like that when i make a fool of myself and say things i wish i didn't or don't say things i wish i did.
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I do sometimes, yet at other times I feel good. I have been told by several people that I am my own worst critic, and I think that I might put too much pressure on myself.

My mother has pushed me into decisions, though. She hounded me to get a job, so I did, and now she hounds me to get a better one. She keeps telling me to save money. She told me for a long time to get a new car, so I did, and then the next day she asks when I'm going to get a girlfriend. I feel like a loser to her.

My brother is doing an IT course and has set up his own business. He's also had a girlfriend for about 4 years now. My mum once asked why I don't do a course like him.

To answer the question: I'm probably not a loser, but I'm a loser to mum's and society's eyes.
That sounds very familiar...my mom hounded me too, have always felt like a loser to my parents...
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Look up loser in the dictionary and it will say

Los-er:
1. a. One that fails to win: the losers of the game.
b. One who takes loss in a specified way: a graceful loser; a poor loser.

2. a. One that fails consistently, especially a person with bad luck or poor skills: "losers at home seeking wealth and glory in undeveloped countries" (Arthur M. Schlesinger, Jr.)
b. One that is bad in quality: That book is a real loser.

3. Dead_on_Arrival
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Old 10-01-2011
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Oh, yeah~ I'm a member of the loser club.
Have been for 23 years.
haha
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Old 10-02-2011
 

Technicaly we are all winners. We are the ones who survive and are stronger for it. Those that have never had to fight to survive have never really won anything
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Old 10-02-2011
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No, I don't. I like myself (for the most part) and believe I'm just as worthy as the next person, even if my anxiety sometimes makes me feel otherwise. If I ever give in and believe it, it doesn't last long.
 
Old 10-02-2011
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^^^^ Beat you just made my day
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