Do you feel like a loser?

Nope, I have no reason to feel like a loser. I don't have many friends, but that's okay. I don't need more. I'm not confident around people, but I'm confident in the things that I enjoy and am good at, and that matters to me more. I haven't and will never resign to social anxiety, and I will always do everything in my power to regain even just a little self-confidence. If this makes me a loser, then a loser I'll be. I just won't feel like one, because I'm happy just the way I am. ::

James_ said:

Nope, I have no reason to feel like a loser. I don't have many friends, but that's okay. I don't need more. I'm not confident around people, but I'm confident in the things that I enjoy and am good at, and that matters to me more. I haven't and will never resign to social anxiety, and I will always do everything in my power to regain even just a little self-confidence. If this makes me a loser, then a loser I'll be. I just won't feel like one, because I'm happy just the way I am. ::

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yay positive thinking!!!!!! I love it. My day made x2

No Dices

Absolutely I do. I just don't feel like I on the same level as just about everyone else in the world, and I already know that doesn't make any sense. I just see myself as a loser and not capable or worthy of doing greater things even if I could. It's hard to not feel like a loser with everything right now, but not feeling so would certainly be nice for a change.

Well I certainly don't feel like a winner, but I don't care for this so called game of life. I don't see life as a competition. Why should my worth be decided by others? It isn't always easy to ignore the social challenges brought forth by your peers, but I refuse to conform to a way of thinking forced upon us by society mainly as a tool to control us.

Im not sure if I feel like one. Though I think technically I might be one.

No, not always. The feeling comes and goes. Like today for example. I feel like a loser today. Actually I've felt like one for most of the week.

Yes, I do. But that's only because I am a loser.

I think it's more something about attitude. If you try and fail it's okay, maybe you could be a loser or maybe not. I think that if you keep trying your best you'll finally succeed. Actually, most of those who are remembered as winners have failed a lot of times before reaching their goals, and is the "never surrender" thing what makes them winners, imo.

Sometimes i do feel like i'm a loser, but i know i'm not and will never be one.

Recognizing that we may feel like a loser is a good first step at recognizing that our competitive culture is f'd up. Can you imagine waking up and feeling like a winner? That is surely hell.

I feel like a dork
And I'm proud of it! If I wasn't a dork, who else would people laugh at?
There always has to be a loser/dork to gets things moving along

Only because I didnt finish my education,but sometime I will.

i sure do. pretty much every day.

Its because of that feeling that i hit things even harder, to try to prove to myself that im not.

I used to feel like a loser all the time. But I see people all around me in real life who are true losers and I realize that I'm not a loser at all.

I don't define loser as someone who doesn't have a lot of money or a lot of friends. I define loser as someone who only cares about themselves. Someone who doesn't care who they hurt. Someone who will lie,steal,cheat,etc.

That's a loser. SO I don't think ANY of you are losers because for the most part, everyone I've seen here seems to be caring and kind. Lots of good hearts here and that can never equal 'loser'.

^^ Thats very sweet and gives me fuzzies.

No not a loser exactly, but I do feel that I am not doing all that well in life. I know that I am a good person deep down and that keeps me from feeling like a complete failure. I think my biggest problem is accepting myself - everything I am isnt good enough... my low self esteem makes me think that I am a loser and stops me from convincing myself otherwise.

5020 said:

Sorry to provoke any negative emotions and this is probably a thread several times over, but i need some help.

Basically this avoidant personality, just makes me feel weak. Why can't i just open my mouth and say something... It's just frustrating. I mean it's like easy. All of this is in my head. All i am doing is making myself miserable... If i could make a few friends my life would be great.

But then do people actually wanna be my friend. Maybe i am annoying and boring and irrating and stupid and in actual fact it's not in my head. In actual fact i am just a loser quiet simply.

Then another thing that has just made me feel like **** today is the fact my mum wants to come and visit me at uni> I told her no. NOT because i am ashamed of her. But because i am ashamd of myself. Because i am not living the 'uni' life tht i want to live. Because i am not at the centre of things or even have any cool friends. I don't want her to realise what an actual loser i am.

Sorry for this post. But well i just need to get this out...

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I understand where you're coming from, there are a lot of occasions where I have refused to let my family take note of how miserable and lonely my life is. Heck, I even feel ashamed whenever they pass by my room knowing that I've spent most of the time there just bumming around...
My life at college isn't that great either. I get the feeling that people "Hate" me over there, for the way I act. I mean they've been nice towards me at the beginning but thanks to my social phobic "Leave me alone" unintentional "attitude" they're driving themselves away from me, from my inhospitable character...

You are definitely NOT a loser. You have a good reason that "justifies" the condition of your life. AvPD is NOT an excuse. it's a reason. So what might seem like you are thinking of yourself as a loser is just your brain playing tricks on you, telling you that other peoples opinions matter when they don't. Because whatever impression people get from you is FALSE. They don't have the right to judge you like that, as if you're some sort of "loser".

AvPD is a learned condition. You must have gotten it from somewhere. Like everyone else here, your past life. It's an aftermath of how shi**y this world is, they have caused it to you, not the other way around. So it' not your fault. Nobody is a loser unless they deliberately cause misery to themselves and others.

5020 said:

Sorry to provoke any negative emotions and this is probably a thread several times over, but i need some help.

Basically this avoidant personality, just makes me feel weak. Why can't i just open my mouth and say something... It's just frustrating. I mean it's like easy. All of this is in my head. All i am doing is making myself miserable... If i could make a few friends my life would be great.

But then do people actually wanna be my friend. Maybe i am annoying and boring and irrating and stupid and in actual fact it's not in my head. In actual fact i am just a loser quiet simply.

Then another thing that has just made me feel like **** today is the fact my mum wants to come and visit me at uni> I told her no. NOT because i am ashamed of her. But because i am ashamd of myself. Because i am not living the 'uni' life tht i want to live. Because i am not at the centre of things or even have any cool friends. I don't want her to realise what an actual loser i am.

Sorry for this post. But well i just need to get this out...

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Yes I am unemployed & unemployable due to having a horrible work history at my age of 36 with zero options

I know how you feel I can feel the exact same way sometimes, not knowing what to say not having friends anymore like I use to, I do tend to sit inside my head. But I don't think these things qualify you or me as losers, things can change I'm sure people want to be your friend if you give them the chance I too feel that way til someone tells me someone likes me, it is hard to trust people and be open for anyone. Just gotta give it a try and the only bad thing that can happen is, well nothing really you don't sound like a loser just gotta have faith that things will change, that's what I do is have hope things will get better.

I don't really feel like a loser. I sometimes wonder if I'm getting everything I want out of life, but then I wonder if I really want anything all that badly anyway. Lately though I've been thinking that maybe there are some things I really want, and as I'm not achieving them maybe that does make me a loser? I don't know.

I think that as long as you accept who you are and you try to get what you want as hard as you can, you are not a loser.

Usually people associate being a loser with failing (which is quite obvious because it means losing lol) but I think that trying to get what you want requires a lot of strength and those who show what they are capable of, even if it's not enough (a lot of people may want to achieve impossible goals and get frustrated because of it), are not losers at all.