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Old 03-19-2012
 

When I listen to people talking, I don't take it seriously and I don't even believe it. People can be hypocrites at times, they say something but it's not even true. Some of my family is like that. They say something but it's not even true.
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Old 03-19-2012
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I feel I cannot trust anyone so I don't say much to them.
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Not exactly. I dont think anyone can trust someone 100% of the time.
For me its more about questioning integrity - I dont really feel like society values the right things. I observe peoples behaviour and I get suspicions about their motives and whats really driving them to do what it is that they are doing.....I cant be sure though, I can never be sure.... but usually I come to some cynical conclusion, mostly because I have a bias that thats how things really are anyway.

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Not exactly. I dont think anyone can trust someone 100% of the time.
It takes a special relationship for someone to trust someone else completely. I know couples who absolutely don't trust each other around the opposite sex, and my best friend and his ex, when they were dating, absolutely trusted each other. I remember times when she would hug me and kiss me on the cheek and hold my hand right in front of him. I miss those days. That's another story, though, so yeah, my point is that it takes a special person to trust.

Trust is also a very important link in the bonding chain, too. Without trust it goes nowhere.
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... my best friend and his ex, when they were dating, absolutely trusted each other. I remember times when she would hug me and kiss me on the cheek and hold my hand right in front of him.
That's beautiful.
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That's beautiful.
I really envied their relationship because he's my best friend and she's one of the nicest girls I've ever met. It's an absolute tragedy that they split, but they say it's for the best so I can only go by their word. They're actually still really good friends today.

She was really cute, too. Now I don't see her much.
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Trust is also a very important link in the bonding chain, too. Without trust it goes nowhere.
It may not even be about behaviour.

Simply trust that the bond is there.
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It may not even be about behaviour.

Simply trust that the bond is there.
Very true. Wise words.
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Old 03-19-2012
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I'm never really able to fully trust someone, for me it's rather opening up to the risk of being deceived. When I don't consider people worthy of that risk, I watch their every move and dissect everything they say.

When I do consider them worth the risk, I tend to force myself to stop analyzing and see the know-everything-all-the-time factor I have to give up as a sacrifice for having this wonderful person in my life.

With that said, I don't mind being lied to as long as the motive isn't some lazy way manipulate me for personal gain.
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It's hard for me to answer this, sometimes I think I'm naive and trust people way too much; other times I don't at all. The naive attitude tends to be towards strangers, for some reason.

When it comes to people I'm more personally involved with, I tend to have less trust - I think because I have more paranoia, because I care more about that person. I'm not paranoid about the things I don't care about. I'm trying to trust people more though... purely by physically trying to analyse stuff less. Have fallen off-track with that a bit over the past few days but it's the way I usually try to be.
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Old 03-19-2012
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I know a lot of people feel like this, especially after certain cirumstances that make it perfectly understandable.

That is why I try my best and I put so much effort for those people to be trusted. I want to be a good friend and especially if it's people who can barely trust people. Not an easy job, but I like to do it.

I want to prove that people can still trust in others.
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The only people I have really trusted were my parents

How do you learn to trust, to earn the trust of others?
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Old 03-19-2012
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Basically what Puma said. I don't trust for fear of being taken advantage of in some way. Will be watching their every move but if they pass the test in my head the fear that they're faking it gets louder and the test standards get crazy impossible. I wonder why this is? Do you think we don't trust ourselves?
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The only people I have really trusted were my parents

How do you learn to trust, to earn the trust of others?
Thats so lovely that you trusted your parents
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I agree with BlackPuma too.I never let my guard down even if your behaviour was flawless for years i will still have my yeas on you.And even if you fool me once ,next time you will not do it.
"Fool me once shame on you,fool me twice shame on me."
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Alethia - your changed subject title had me thinking...

...I agree - I would rather trust too much than not enough, too.
And maybe this is not what you meant by it, but I've realised...It's not nice having so much doubt in others, its a horrible feeling that sends our brain into overdrive, trying to figure things out with over-analysis. I don't think it gets us anywhere.

With the exception of when there's a particular danger involved (i.e it's not a good idea to get into a car with a stranger), maybe it's more beneficial just to trust people until we have particular, factual evidence not to.

I always thought that distrust was a useful safety measure and in certain circumstances it is, but on the whole perhaps its better for us to act only upon facts. I know that I personally would probably benefit from living that way, rather than feeling sad and occasionally depressed because of paranoid beliefs.

Trust in ourselves = Trust in others = Trust in ourselves... maybe?
Hmm.

This is all interesting anyway.
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Old 03-19-2012
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It depends who it is.

This may sound callous, but in work situations, i dont trust anyone. I can like them, get along with them, work with them, but ive been backstabbed so many times i dont trust anyone on the workfront completely.

In other areas of my life....its wierd. I trust my airsoft team when im on the field with them, i know if were getting shot at ill always have someone watching my back kinda thing, i know i can count on them.....and logically i KNOW if i let them in to see "me" i could trust them but i just dont for some reason....

The people id trust with my life is my wife, my cousin and his wife.

Eveeryone else on here is in a wierd existence of trust-not-needed. You guys are all my family . Id trust any one of you if we randomly met in a pub somwhere.
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It's been a long time since I trusted anyone...
Took 4 years for me to trust my boyfriend-- then he broke my trust 3 and a half years later.
He could've had a pretty sweet deal, yo!
I don't normally trust people-- and I feel like I made a mistake making an exception for him.

oh, well.
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Old 03-19-2012
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I have a very thin line of trust. It's like a piece of thread. This thread is what connects us but if you dare to move a bit this thread will break. And try taping up a piece of thread exactly, it doesn't work. Sorry for the lame example.
I have been hurt so many times it's so hard for me to gain trust. I don't trust my family. The only family I trust is my aunt and uncle, they're like my real parents. I trust my best guy friend too, he'd take a bullet for me and I'd do the same for him That's about it. It's a sad world when you have very little trust.
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I see a lot of people that don't trust people (or rarely do) because they've been hurt before.

I've had my own share of disappointing after trusting people.

What I'm trying to do is to not let a few bad people change my view of the world. The thing is that I'm sure there are some people out there who are trustworthy. I have no proof for that, but I'm trying to become one of those people.

I know some things in people's past will make very hard to trust in people again, but it's something worth triying. If you trust no one, you are alone. I am alone, and I don't recommend it at all.
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