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Old 10-26-2016
 

Social Phobia is making me feel lonely these days. I feel like a total loser, 24 years old and having almost no friends and wanting so bad to feel connected to people, feel very lonely. :( I am hoping to make friends here and I could really use a hug.

PS: a lot of people left me because I am transgender. People can be cruel beings. So now I feel so alone...People need surroundings..

Im already worried about old years eve, how I will spent it, how depressed i'll feel... Gosh..

Well, do you guys and girls ever feel lonely?
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Old 10-27-2016
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Firstly, sorry to hear people have stopped associating with and supporting you, due to you being transgender.
I guess I know how that feels, since people tend to leave due to my disability, which sucks. But ye can't exactly expect attitudes to change towards these issues. At least not with everyone.

As for feeling lonely, I only tend to feel this way when I compare myself to people who don't face the same struggles as me. And notice just how different I am from those around as far as personality goes.

But I've kinda gotten used to being on my own, much like being a total loser. But these things don't bother me as much as they used.

Not saying it wouldn't nice to have a few friends or a connection with people, like. Just for me that's not a real priority, at the moment. And with the way most people tend to be these days, I'm not even sure I want to try and connect, y'know?

Still, I dread to think how I'll spend Christmas and New Year again, since I don't exactly get along with my family to put it nicely. Last year I just spent the holidays just binge watching movie franchises by myself.

But yeah, long story short, I do get lonely, but only if I dwell on the fact I don't really have anyone, except family. And they're not always going to be around.
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Old 10-28-2016
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Like Graeme says, I've gotten used to being on my own, for most of my life. I don't even know if i can ever say i'm lonely, as isolation is all i know. Perhaps i experience the feeling of loneliness at times, or not, i don't know.
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Old 10-28-2016
 

Hm, I would say if I spend too much time within my introvert bubble (weeks) and I implode through finally, I will experience a bit of loneliness. But thankfully, it isn't too hard to find like-minded persons to have a few satisfying conversations with. (eventually it tires me out and I then normally go back to my bubble.)
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Old 11-10-2016
 

Yeah I do the same. Most of the time I'm just in my room and not talking to other peaple. When I feel very lonely I try to go outside and meet some friends. I only have one good friend, but he now lives far away, so I'm struggeling at the moment, because I'm to shy to meet new people.
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Old 11-10-2016
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I always feel lonely. Even when I'm with people.
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Old 11-10-2016
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I always feel lonely. Even when I'm with people.
Same here. Nobody understands my pain and so I always feel left out.
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Old 11-10-2016
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Hello, nice to meet you. If you're transgender LGBT forums might also understand how it feels to be judged for being different, as many people experience some conflict with family and friends who aren't open-minded. But social anxiety forums are good too.

I'm not as lonely as I used to be, although I still don't have many friends. I haven't moved out of the area I grew up in because I'm scared to be too far from family in case something goes wrong, and most of the friends I made when I was younger have moved at this point. It's kind of embarrassing. But, I did meet online friends through games who keep me company when I'm home.
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Old 11-11-2016
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Yup I feel lonely. I'm probably socially handicapped and dysfuntional, cause I never learned to be social, and I just had unhealthy social interactions growing up. My parents didn't create a safe healthy environment in our family, so I'm messed up and therefore alone and lonely.
I guess u can call it attachment disorder, cause I can meet people but not get close to people, not really.
I'm so lonely and alone that it destroyes me and messes me up more and more.

Today I cried because I had asked my 2 nieces if they wanted to have a drink with me, and they both said yes, but then they got together and didn't tell me.. I was waiting for them to tell me when and where they went, but they didn't. So I asked, do we have plans or not? and they said yeah we're in this bar, come if you want. But by then I was feeling so forgotten that I was in no mood to go anywhere. So now I'm spending this friday alone at home as usual.

And this is just how it goes for me. People rarely take any initiative to see me. I know that some people "like me" somewhat, but I'm so bad at the whole social behaviour, or I'm someone that people forget about.
I should give up my stupid useless efforts to make friends or have close relationships with family members.

Gonna take a nap now. I hope I die in my sleep.
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Old 11-11-2016
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Yup I feel lonely. I'm probably socially handicapped and dysfuntional, cause I never learned to be social, and I just had unhealthy social interactions growing up. My parents didn't create a safe healthy environment in our family, so I'm messed up and therefore alone and lonely.
I guess u can call it attachment disorder, cause I can meet people but not get close to people, not really.
I'm so lonely and alone that it destroyes me and messes me up more and more.

Today I cried because I had asked my 2 nieces if they wanted to have a drink with me, and they both said yes, but then they got together and didn't tell me.. I was waiting for them to tell me when and where they went, but they didn't. So I asked, do we have plans or not? and they said yeah we're in this bar, come if you want. But by then I was feeling so forgotten that I was in no mood to go anywhere. So now I'm spending this friday alone at home as usual.

And this is just how it goes for me. People rarely take any initiative to see me. I know that some people "like me" somewhat, but I'm so bad at the whole social behaviour, or I'm someone that people forget about.
I should give up my stupid useless efforts to make friends or have close relationships with family members.

Gonna take a nap now. I hope I die in my sleep.
Damn, that's heartbreaking. But I can relate so yer not the only one, Nanita.
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Old 11-11-2016
 

I feel lonely every now and then. When I don't have real social contact for weeks, then I always feel lonely, but sometimes even when I am with my friends I feel just lost...
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Old 11-11-2016
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Sometimes when I'm at work I miss my dog. Does that count?

Honestly the older I get the less need or desire I have for human company at all in any form.

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Social Phobia is making me feel lonely these days. I feel like a total loser, 24 years old and having almost no friends and wanting so bad to feel connected to people, feel very lonely. :( I am hoping to make friends here and I could really use a hug.

PS: a lot of people left me because I am transgender. People can be cruel beings. So now I feel so alone...People need surroundings..

Im already worried about old years eve, how I will spent it, how depressed i'll feel... Gosh..

Well, do you guys and girls ever feel lonely?
Like I am reading post from myself, but I am female :(
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Old 11-11-2016
 

I just feel really depressed.
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Old 01-08-2017
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I'm at the point where I don't get lonely very often. I'm 29 and I've seriously never had a true friend in my entire life and I've never been in a relationship.

But I have become so used to being alone and I'm usually able to keep myself entertained. My dog and my cat are my only true companions. I talk to my co-workers at work and I see my family maybe once a week and I guess that has become enough for me.

Ideally, I would like to have friends or at least one friend to hang out with and do fun things with, but it's like I've practically given up on even the idea of trying to make friends. I'd say that I only feel lonely 5% of the time. The other 95% of the time, I just go about my day by myself and I am OK.
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Old 01-08-2017
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Hello, I am pretty much a 5 years catless delayed version of PhantomPod here.

I only have one close friend, whom I text everyday, met her randomly in a tourist packed train about 2 months ago.

And no, I don't feel lonely, as a matter of fact, being too often around people and making small talks/ having a drink ...etc bores me to death. Because I could spend that time improving myself.
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Old 01-08-2017
 

Yes, I feel COMPLETLY alone. i just lost my best friend and to be honest i don't really know what to do with myself. she's too busy to talk to me anymore. I'm starting a new job on February 6th so I HOPE this will be the start of a new chapter for me because i can't be alone like this 24/7 ...I hope ill make some new friends at work but even more than that I REALLY REALLY hope that she wants to speak with me again in the near future...probably won't be as MUCH but at least just a little bit.....I can't stand not having her as a friend and i don't don't think I'm going to be able to just "get over it" like some people could.
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Old 01-08-2017
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I always feel lonely. Even when I'm with people.
This. And it's why I often don't bother with hanging out with groups. I always feel like I'm still by myself since nobody understands me and I'm not usually in to whatever they are.
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Old 01-08-2017
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This. And it's why I often don't bother with hanging out with groups. I always feel like I'm still by myself since nobody understands me and I'm not usually in to whatever they are.
Yeah, it's the same with me. Christ, it's even the same with my family. Which is why I don't usually hang out with them, other than at Christmas.
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Old 01-10-2017
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I don't think so.

I'm never sad or anything from being alone. I also rarely get bored. It's almost like I was built to be all alone, a perpetual nonsocial-machine that runs on art and Mountain Dew.

I do miss my dog terribly, but I don't think that's loneliness so much as grief. Maybe it is loneliness but I just don't recognize the feeling anymore?
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