Do you feel your not good enough for opposite sex? - Page 3

lyricalliaisons · 03-31-2010

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Originally Posted by mrb

who are you married 2 lol is it me

i dont watch the simpsons

You're a child lol & Marge/I am not a pedophile lol. I/Marge am/is married to Homer, but he's not on this forum, I don't think.

This is who Marge/I is/am married to lol:

mrb · 03-31-2010

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Originally Posted by lyricalliaisons

You're a child lol & Marge/I am not a pedophile lol. I/Marge am/is married to Homer, but he's not on this forum, I don't think.

This is who Marge/I is/am married to lol:

well thats ok lol he looks like a great catch

lyricalliaisons · 03-31-2010

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Originally Posted by mrb

well thats ok lol he looks like a great catch

To Marge, he must lol

nopark · 03-31-2010

Oh yeah. I'm ugly and socially awkward of course, but maybe worse -- I'm soooo boring.

People like to get out. But 80% of the time I like to stay in. And even when it'd be fun to get out -- my idea of a good time never matches anyone else's interests. They want to go to a rock concert, I'd rather see a symphony. They want to get high at some house party, I just want to have a few drinks with a couple of friends at a restaurant. They want to go mall shopping, eh I'll just wait in the bookstore. These things aren't generally things early-20's people like that much.

Maybe I should just find myself a cougar. Rawr. lol

Social_Monstrosity · 04-01-2010

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Originally Posted by sara1975

Not all girls want a confident man, there's nothing worse than a cocky bloke who thinks hes great

Some girls like shy men, they find it sweet.
Most woman just want a man that will treat her right and not lie or cheat.

Okay...but what if we're butt ugly and have the charisma of a bag of bricks?

Kat · 04-01-2010

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Originally Posted by sara1975

Looks mean nothing in the long run, EVERYONE will lose any looks they had when younger even people who are stunning now will one day be wrinkly and saggy.
If someone is with a partner just because of looks it will never last as one day they will look over at there once stunning girlfriend and see a fat, droopy old woman so relationships have to be based on so much more than looks, you have to look over at your partner and fancy them for how they make you feel not for what they look like.

Everyone has different taste, beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say.
A friend of mine asked me to introduce her to my sister in laws brother as she thought he was gorgeous, i thought she was joking as he is very skinny, very tall,has a big nose and buck teeth but she was deadly serous so i introduced them and now 19 years on they are still together with 2 kids.

You may think your ugly but someone out there will think your gorgeous.

That's true but I also think no matter how good looking someone is after awhile you get use to how they look anyway and it comes back to who they are again as well.

Zav · 04-01-2010

Nah. I don't think I am that bad looking, and I tend to have confidence that there is someone out there who would understand me, my shyness, etc. And vice versa.

Moonie · 04-01-2010

I always end up feeling bad for my boyfriends that they are with me. It’s not that I am an ugly person on the outside, but I am extremely ugly on the inside. I’m jealous, scared, boring, depressing, angry, insecure.

I am okay in the beginning. But somewhere around the 6 month mark, I turn cold and mean. I think it’s because I realize that the guys I am with are better than me, more interesting than me, and deserve someone greater than me. So, I start to believe that they are only settling for me because of my looks or because they don’t have much luck with girls they really find attractive. So, I start to hate men. I hate it. I really do. I wish I could be the girl they want. But, I doubt they would choose me if I wasn’t that good looking.

I also feel bad for my BFs when I have to meet their families. I think their families feel bad that their son has such a weird, awful girlfriend. They probably think they deserve better than me, and I think they are right, too.

I tend to serial date. I start to pick dumb fights with these guys and eventually the relationship falls apart. I’d rather it end somewhat early, so it doesn’t get worse. And so I can move on with someone else for awhile, and experience the greatness that occurs in a new relationship. Story of my life.

Rxqueen · 04-01-2010

Yea of course, but then I feel like I'm too picky b/c the guys that seem like they're interested me are less than satisfactory. So in essence I feel like I'm not good enough for the type of guys that I'm interested in. Like I have to look like a super model or something in order to find a guy I'm actually attracted to.

Even though I'm not attracted to any of the guys that are into me I also feel like they must be mistaken because they'd have to be pretty diluted to be interested in me in the first place. I really don't think I deserve anyone and I don't think anyone should stoop as low to like me either, if they do they are probably pretty messed up and mildly retarded. lol.

So in short, yes I have an inferiority complex and that I'm much too low in confidence for any guy that might be interested.

combat · 04-02-2010

To me it's not even about being good enough... I'm pretty sure I could have a really good relationship with a girl. I'm just not convinced I'll find one to connect with well enough that she'll just accept and like me for who I am. I'm not exactly easy to get to know well, but it isn't like I'm not willing to make the effort either. But so far that hasn't been good enough. I haven't met a girl that has the patience to deal with a guy that takes time to open up and constantly misreads signals...

So I guess I don't really know what I feel anymore. I've become a total fucking cynic about this stuff, which depresses me because I used to be such a happy optimistic person.