Do you go out, or are you apt to spend most of your free time at home?

I'm still trying to peg what disorder I have- I defiantly have social anxiety disorder- and am very shy- BUT I'm a teacher, and am very comfortable in front of students, and giving lectures- it's just in social situations where I have no control- like bars, whre I get totally tounge tied.
I'm the kind of person whose work IS their life, and i really don't have a social life..but am TRYING to change that.
I spend too much time at home- On Saturday nights, I'm more apt to stay in-
But i do go out sometimes on weekends, to movies, concerts, church, bowling, the gym- to venues that are filled with other people- Sometimes i even go dancing, but I don't interact with anybody- i do it alone, and try and ignore trhe other people around me.

just I have this wall built around me, and don't talk to anyone- I can't think of anything to say..........

I've been going to the movies ALONE for as long as i can remember...

I WANT TO CHANGE!!!!!!!

How do i do it??


Do you go out and do things, albiet alone, or do you just stay in?

I would go out if I had a lot of close friends. I only have a few, and none of them are particularly close.

Home most of the time, I don't like going out much, only to a few specific places.

It's like I don't want to run in anyone who might know me (which no one really does anyways) and I don't want to be seen alone while everyone else is with someone else.

The only time I really go 'out' is to visit my shrink. I find can't walk down a street alone, but I can if someone I know is with me. Sad, I know - since a couple of years back, it wasn't that much of an issue. I know I should go out more, but I know I wont.

I don't do anything by myself except go to the grocery store and that is still really hard. I hate having to interact with the person at the cash register. I like to go during the week in the morning when barely anyone else is there.

I would never go to a movie theater by myself because I'm a girl and it just doesn't seem safe to be going places by myself. I don't want random guys coming up to me. I would also be really embarassed if people that knew me saw me out somewhere by myself. I like to think I don't care what other people think of me, but deep down inside I really do.

You don't have to label yourself. You are lucky being able to do so much by yourself so there is hope.
I stay in all the time unless I have to go out. It is a big circle , I don't know anyone now so I have nowhere to go anyway. If that makes sense

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I never really go anywhere. I go to school about twice a week, and that is probably the extent of my getting out adventures. Very rarely do I ever get out. I just spend my life sitting here, it's a lot of fun!!!! Well, not really. I have the fear of running into people I've even seen before too, so like I would much rather go somewhere like an hour away than close-by. It would also really help if I could drive, then maybe I would do more. But it really sucks that I can't because it's not my fault. grrr.

Psychedelicious said:

I never really go anywhere. I go to school about twice a week, and that is probably the extent of my getting out adventures. Very rarely do I ever get out. I just spend my life sitting here, it's a lot of fun!!!! Well, not really. I have the fear of running into people I've even seen before too, so like I would much rather go somewhere like an hour away than close-by. It would also really help if I could drive, then maybe I would do more. But it really sucks that I can't because it's not my fault. grrr.

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That's another thing I forgot to mention, the further away the place is from where I live the more comfortable I am, just like you, I feel the same way.