Do you have Social Anxiety online chatting
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Phoenixx
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I'm different online. When I'm on here, I feel at ease. I can express myself without completely worrying whether someone is going to judge me or tease me for what I say, what I like, etc. Of course, I still get a little bit anxious when posting.
However, in person I'm pretty different. I'm still quiet and shy, but I don't show my full self. I don't tell everyone my interests out of fear they would tease me for it or just basically judge me or reject me. I don't show everyone how outgoing I can be either. I'm only outgoing around my family and my one best friend. I never tell anyone my problems because I figure no one really cares. In real life, I'm probably one of the most reserved people you could ever meet.
However, in person I'm pretty different. I'm still quiet and shy, but I don't show my full self. I don't tell everyone my interests out of fear they would tease me for it or just basically judge me or reject me. I don't show everyone how outgoing I can be either. I'm only outgoing around my family and my one best friend. I never tell anyone my problems because I figure no one really cares. In real life, I'm probably one of the most reserved people you could ever meet.
I wouldn't know, the people I talk to in real life are in a completely different age group to the ones I talk to online. I am more confident online, I don't know whether that's because I'm not face to face with the people I talk to, or if I just communicate better with people my own age
bigcat1967
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I used to - but I forced myself to type things and submit onlline - now, I'm over it.
ILovePocky
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Sometimes. I think I'm a LITTLE more comfortable online but I have a hard time joining in on chat rooms and when someone private messages me, I never really know what to type to them past the "Hey, what's up? Not much here, you?"
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And usually after I do post something I think about deleting it.
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And usually after I do post something I think about deleting it.
HeadFace
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Hmm... Interesting question.
Online. I'm a lot more comfortable with approaching. It really depends on wheather or not I see that person daily, or know the person in real life. But there's an obvious difference.
Offline. I'll never approach someone, ever. I'm shy and quiet. Unless it's one of my VERY few friends, then I dont say much. Of course, I am comfortable as I am online and offline with about 2 or 3 people.
So if it's a stranger than I'd rather meet them online so my quietness doesnt turn them off...
The best thing about chatting online is that your conversating reflexes arent judged. You can just say youre multitasking or are listening to music or eating or had to get off the computer for a sec to do something. Of course if it gets quiet during a conversation face to face, you cant just say "OH SORRY LOL I WAS MULTITASKING"
well... you can but that'd be awkward as hell.
Online. I'm a lot more comfortable with approaching. It really depends on wheather or not I see that person daily, or know the person in real life. But there's an obvious difference.
Offline. I'll never approach someone, ever. I'm shy and quiet. Unless it's one of my VERY few friends, then I dont say much. Of course, I am comfortable as I am online and offline with about 2 or 3 people.
So if it's a stranger than I'd rather meet them online so my quietness doesnt turn them off...
The best thing about chatting online is that your conversating reflexes arent judged. You can just say youre multitasking or are listening to music or eating or had to get off the computer for a sec to do something. Of course if it gets quiet during a conversation face to face, you cant just say "OH SORRY LOL I WAS MULTITASKING"
well... you can but that'd be awkward as hell.
HeadFace
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This is true.. But I've been rejected both online and offline before. So it doesnt make much of a difference to me.
twiggle
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Yeah, I've been rejected offline too, but for some reason I find it easier to react appropriately on those occasions.
Other things I get anxiety about when online chatting are: delayed replies, over uses of elipses (...), inappropriate use of emoticons, people going offline without saying bye.
I guess when you hear the responses its harder to keep up with the words so its easier to let them go through you but when they're written down I find myself more susceptible to over analysing everything. This is my problem. This is why I don't often contact people online and this is why I worry about losing friends because I don't bother to contact them enough. Slowly teaching myself to get better though...
Hottie
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Not generally....
If something was said that made me paro, i may get a little anxious. But generally if i can not be seen i am usually ok.
I can become anxious about something that may cause me to worry a little, but 19/20 i would be quite confident online actully.
I am a confident person (deep deep down), but i am not confident when face-to-face with people due to the anxiety.
The anxiety simply makes me hide me confidence (if that makes sence!!).
If something was said that made me paro, i may get a little anxious. But generally if i can not be seen i am usually ok.
I can become anxious about something that may cause me to worry a little, but 19/20 i would be quite confident online actully.
I am a confident person (deep deep down), but i am not confident when face-to-face with people due to the anxiety.
The anxiety simply makes me hide me confidence (if that makes sence!!).
okcancel
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wow, that DOES make a lot of sense. I never thought about that before. You've made me see more of the light now thanksAs for the online/offline thing, it changes all the time for me. If I'm feeling really good I will talk to every person in the chatroom! lol. But usually, I'm too shy to say anything. I feel intimidated by the people who are talking to each other and having a good time with their conversations. The "cool" people
so yeah. It's the same offline. I suck :|
Deus_Ex_Lemur
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As for the online/offline thing, it changes all the time for me. If I'm feeling really good I will talk to every person in the chatroom! lol. But usually, I'm too shy to say anything. I feel intimidated by the people who are talking to each other and having a good time with their conversations. The "cool" people
It depends, occasionally I feel this way. I can be quite more relaxed, and my quirky self online. But sometimes get a wash of feeling self-conscious and unsure. So I get "intimidated" by good conversations. But then I also remember ppl have some sense of perception about someone, online, they add a lot of missing data too. So I just go for it. But sometimes do feel "SA" even online :
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