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Old 07-01-2006
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I do that a lot. Actually Im probably addicted to daydreaming, dreaming of being some one I am not, being at places I have never been and probably would never be etc. I read somewhere that daydreams can also be the cause of extreme shyness, leading to SP. I am not sure if this is true but I sure would like to know if I am the only one with foolish fantasies I know would never come true :oops:
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I do that a lot. Actually Im probably addicted to daydreaming, dreaming of being some one I am not, being at places I have never been and probably would never be etc. I read somewhere that daydreams can also be the cause of extreme shyness, leading to SP. I am not sure if this is true but I sure would like to know if I am the only one with foolish fantasies I know would never come true :oops:
Hehehe, your not the only one with foolish fantasies, I daydream alot too, especially at school. Actually i enjoy them, becuz im always the 'one' in my own world. Sometimes, My daydreams are not fantasies, were negative thoughts raise up high. So, I guess Fantasies and Not Relating to the Real world is Good Relieve, it Helps alot in relaxing and remembering where the hell i am in that moment!

Daydreaming Helps :
Relaxing, Manage Conflict, Maintain Relationships, Boost productivity, Cement your beliefs and values, Boost creativity and achieve goals,
Relieve boredom.
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Old 07-01-2006
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babel,

I feel most people want to 'become' someone. Someone better, stronger, more likeable, happier, smarter, funnier, calmer etc.

We hold such high expectations of ourself to be this amazing perfect being and we dream of the day we finally transform into that beutiful butterfly.

Unfortunately, this comes at the price of non self acceptance. Because we hold this image of a future 'me' where we feel we would be happy, we squander any chances of accepting who we currently are thereby ruining our experience of contentment and peace.

Our current image of 'me' or self is pretty unrealistic which is why self confidence is shaky and unbalnaced. It doesnt fit in with how we want to be so we cannot accept it but this is crucial in developing confidence in our self. For we must accept what we can and cannot do and be happy with it, else we always face not being good enough or living up to how we 'think' we should be.

Daydreaming like this is based on desire. Essentially a desire to be happy. But to be happy we must accept our current capabilities. When we find this level of self acceptance it doesnt matter how we act or what we can do, we stop judging ourself and just relax. Then we naturally find this imagined perfect us is nothing more than just accepting ourself right now.

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Old 07-01-2006
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That is so true Jack!!!..you have touched on something very basic to our problem which is our unwillingness to accept and love ourselves for who we are. I keep trying to change my thought about myself and let me know that I am alright as I am but ever so often I find myself drifting off again. And it FEELS SOO GOOD in those fantasies :oops:

Really wish I could stop them..really trying hard... :roll:
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I daydream way too much. I can be doing anything and my mind will just drift off.
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Old 07-01-2006
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I daydream so much- I lead my life in my thoughts rather than reality.
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Old 07-01-2006
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Yea I day dream all the time.My mind always starts to drift when i'm doing something.May be I use it as a escape from the real world.lol
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Old 07-02-2006
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I daydream all the time about my hopes for the future. Its probably the only thing keeping me from losing my mind and falling into depression.
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Old 07-02-2006
 

I daydream a lot too. Just I'm not sure whether I daydream because of SA or I became SA because I daydream a lot
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Old 07-02-2006
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I daydream alot. Mostly about fighting and sex.
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Old 07-02-2006
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yeah, me too. i used to not daydream at all until recently i've been daydreaming all the time.
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Old 07-02-2006
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What I would like to know is do our daydreams worsen our antisocial behaviour or is our antisocialness just something we cant control...whether we daydream or not?
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Old 07-02-2006
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Thanks so much for this thread.

I am addicted to daydreaming, I spend most of my time doing it. Especially since my life hasn't really gone well, I think up fantasies of alternate ways of how my life turned out - how much better my life would have been if I'd done this, said that, been "normal"....how interactions with people would have gone better if id been normal... dreaming up perfect conversations (not really fully formed, but they seemed perfect) in my head.

and what if I was smarter, like a genius or something. Sometimes I visualise my future as this little unrecognised, nervous genius who ultimately made it in life. Well yeah its really silly and implausible but... it makes me happy.

I mean I know some people go thru this now and then, but mine are sooo..oo.. blown up and seem so real and actually make me feel so happy, that I forget my "real" life and the things I need to do... you know...
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I keep trying to change my thought about myself and let me know that I am alright as I am but ever so often I find myself drifting off again. And it FEELS SOO GOOD in those fantasies .
Really wish I could stop them..really trying hard... :roll:
yeah I try to do the same thing too, but sometimes it takes me a while to even realise I've drifted off into fantasy!
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Old 07-02-2006
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Like all of you I daydream A LOT. But I mostly daydream about realistic things that could actually happen. Some of the things I've daydreamed about has actually happened too.

At school I did it all day. Now, I do it at work. So I'm sometimes a little bit unproductive.. Fortunately I work as a programmer in a small company where no one else knows what I'm working on anyway :p
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yea i day dream all the time..dream of how i could be doing things people my ages should me...dream of how i could have dealt differntly with past experiences and dream of what i one day hope to become.... :?
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Old 07-03-2006
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I daydream A LOT. Basically about anything and everything. I always dream up social situations in my head, where I'm speaking confidently to people and just being a real comic, as if I'm the life of the party. I'm also always daydreaming like 'oh, if I had friends we'd be doing this and this and this and oh what a joyous time we would have.' lol.

I also daydream about my past and 'oh, if only I had done this at this time, maybe then things would be different' etc. Also daydream imagining I had some sort of speech problem, deformity, disease, whatever, that would at least be able to explain why I'm so shy and antisocial.
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Old 07-03-2006
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I do daydream an awful lot, but not as much as I used to. When I was severely agoraphobic pretty much all my time was taken up by daydreaming. I daydream about totally unrealistic things, and also normal things like repeating a conversation I've had earlier that day and I change what I say to what I wish I'd said ect.
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Old 07-03-2006
 

I do it alot, I do it more than non day dreaming. Its mainly stupid stuff to, dreaming of what would I do if some man came through the door now with a shotgun then I would dream of me attacking him and winning. Its all those type of dreams I get.
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Old 07-03-2006
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Thank you for this subject! Daydreaming is my whole life!
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