Does social anxiety make a man look weak.

Girls, can you imagine dating a guy who has social anxiety and think he is somewhat weak. Or guys do you feel this same way about that.

I think its the reverse

I think its the reverse actually, people like us are pretty strong to deal with fear on a consistant basis.Others may disagree but facing fear and trying to overcome it is something to be admired i think.

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rko74 said:

I think its the reverse actually, people like us are pretty strong to deal with fear on a consistant basis.Others may disagree but facing fear and trying to overcome it is something to be admired i think.

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Spot on :!:

Re: I think its the reverse

rko74 said:

I think its the reverse actually, people like us are pretty strong to deal with fear on a consistant basis.Others may disagree but facing fear and trying to overcome it is something to be admired i think.

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Right on but sadly there will alway be ignorant people out there that think that people with sa are weak.Especially guys because they are suppose to be confident and out going but they are wrong.Just a stigma of sa.

yea usually guys are supposed to be the ones who're standing up for the girl and be the Man and be macho etc etc..
so sa does make guys seem weaker in that area - where they're suppose to be a kind of stability in the relationship, perhaps?

Even though they occasionly say otherwise, deep down most girls prefer a guy who is confident. But occasionly one will fall for a guy who lacks in that department.

Also 1 in 17 000 people is an albino, it is rare but it does happen.

girls also have this problem as well because if your not the bubbly girly-girl then that goes against the grain of what is seen as feminine, so it does go both ways, but when you break it all down men dont have to be this marcho alfa-male being and women dont have to be the bubbly pollyana girly-girl, that made no sense, but you kind of get what im saying, society uses cliche's for gender balance, but diversity has and always will be the norm, and it can be hard for us guys when everyone around you is so prejudice! like family in particular. you just have to try and ignore it and stay true to yourself

Clash said:

Girls, can you imagine dating a guy who has social anxiety and think he is somewhat weak. Or guys do you feel this same way about that.

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weak in what way :?:

i felt weak, i felt useless, the girls looked at me like i was a loser..

i could not deny that..

Shy_Violet said:

I know they say opposites attract and I know many couples who are complete opposites, but I just wouldn't feel comfortable.

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Shy Violet, i'm abit unclear on what you're saying there. are you saying that because you have sa, whether the guy has sa or not, you'd feel uncomfortable?

or are you saying that you simply wouldn't feel comfortable around or dating sa guys?

dont some of you find sa makes you look angry and arrogant in public, i wouldnt believe it if i didnt saw photos with me when being anxious. Last summer when i was finishing university we took group photos and i was absolutely freaked out but then the photographer said 'that angry guy, please move a step to the right' it was like 'wtf whos angry here'.

I guess i do feel weak,not been able to do all the normal things that more out going confident guys can.But lucky for me i found a girl who loves me even tho i am the way i am,so i dont mind any more.But i dont like been compared to other girls boyfriends or what ever,i am who i am.I care alot,alot more understanding than most average males and i gained that by been how i am so i have gained something from it at least.

does social anxiety make a man weak

The evils make a man without or without fs look weak
The only weak people is the people who can express his her emotions and who is capable of empathise with humanity.
When we are going to find the strength of our nature when we are gonna let yourself take control... when.-.. when nazis doesnt exist anymore..
Change people change your false mind

I do feel that people look down on me, because i am so stressed in there presence. And i am definately not your average supposedly macho male.
I don't want to be, but at the same time, i would like to fit in. I'm scared to be myself, but i desperatly want to be.
I personally feel people think i am weak for a male, and yes it does hurt.
I can see the way they look at me.
Unfortunately the majority in the world still see certain roles/behaviours for each gender.

In my opinion, SA makes one weak indeed. It’s all about fear and guilt and this two can completely destroy you in every possible way.

I guess that's why Christianity have always been so concerned with making people feel afraid, unworthy, dirty, guilty, etc. . . . to control them better.

Yes "dzerklis" I noticed that too.

Horatio said:

Even though they occasionly say otherwise, deep down most girls prefer a guy who is confident. But occasionly one will fall for a guy who lacks in that department.

Also 1 in 17 000 people is an albino, it is rare but it does happen.

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Haha, so true

I don't understand why so many of you think "society" should be held responsible for our failure to socialize effectively with the opposite sex. Society is the way it is, a collection of individuals, each with his/her own personality, each looking after his/her own interests, including the choice of a right partner, preferably one carrying (or at least seeming to carry) a good genetic package.

Blaming society for our problems is like blaming a dog for barking, quite pointless. It's nobody's fault, just a fact of nature or maybe the work of some malignant god.

Quixote said:

Blaming society for our problems is like blaming a dog for barking, quite pointless. It's nobody's fault, just a fact of nature or maybe the work of some malignant god.

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No! It's those damned dogs, I'm telling you! They are behind it all! Sitting there staring at me with those human-like eyes, scheming and malicious hell-hounds all of them! 8O




Other than that, Horatio is spot on.

Yes and No

I agree we SPics are pretty strong to be able to face the things we face day-to-day. But I always found some way, when I possibly could, to maintain low visibility. I suspect others do the same. We often fail to assert ourselves in personal or professional situations, even when we're out there trying.

As a male, and having read quite a bit on the subject, it's the woman who generally controls the interactions with males. They signal availability in very subtle way, through body langauge for example. This is not a conscious deception---it's simply built into women. Men react to these signals with their own body language, thinking incorrectly that they are the assertive ones. Our course, as SPics I suspect we often fail to signal our interest in an obviously available female. The female may see us as uninterested or unassertive ( perhaps weak ). We often fail to compete for an available female. Not sure what people think about this. I suppose a SPic female may be unable or unwilling to signal availability in the very subtle ways they normally do. Again these signals are very subtle, but the male is programmed to recognize them and act. Let's face it. We SPics tend to hide, do things to keep people away from us.

Speaking for myself. I've pumped iron and exercised vigorously at times. I looked great, but I still rarely had the confidence to assert myself even then. Now, I'm weak, scared, isolated, lonely, depressed. Yet, I cannot break ou of this or even bring myself to _try_ to meet the love of my life--but this love is all fantasy anyway. The very unpleasant, unhappy reality that I _must_ live with is that I will never see this person, talk to her, meet her, or get to know her in any way. I'm still working my way through this--better to live in an unpleasant reality than a foolish delusion.

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Im a girl and if i was dating a guy who had social phobia id stick with him because i have it to and we could help each other. I would never take the piss out of anyone with it even if it is a guy because i know what its like to have it an it s making my life hell

I don't think it's a good blend if we have SP then we have bf/gf with SP also. I can imagine the whole time will be mostly silence... .
But I do want a non SP bf who understands about my problem, I think I will tell him about my condition then once we got more serious (and if I have guts to do that..haha... ).