Knight1985
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Has any of you have had dominating parents? Iv had my mom dominate me all my life. I reckon a lot of my present sad state of affairs is due to her dominating n manipulative ways
Yup i feel that.
Gets so you dont know what you want
Or how to get it.
Than youre dominated by everyone you meet
Friends, coworkers, lovers and the salesclerk lol
Cause they sense your indecision and lack of belief in yourself
And they prey on it
Am i wrong
We need to set boundries but we dont know how to
And when we get fed up with people around us being dominating and speak up for ourselves they look @ us like we re crazy & attempt to subdue us with phrases like your crazy , your too sensitive, youre over reacting ....This puts us back where we started because us being the way we are benefits those around us
A parent /child relationship is a touchy subject fo touch.
Being youre likely a minor or dependent on her.
Im sure she did the best she could. Respect that.
Im a mom. Im sure not a perfect one. Shes likely projecting her fears
And overprotective. Married with a natural process that occurs in
A minors journey toward independence.
My only advise is to prove to her she did a good job by making good descisions
Guided by reason and intellect. Show her youre trustworthy and earn your freedom.
Obey her reasonably sound requests and let her own the unreasonable ones
Be interdependent now. Ask her if she needs help and help her.
Do things you know necessary without being prompted to .
Get a Part time job. Deliver the paper, walk a dog. Whatever.
Start forging a little of your own life. SLOWLY
It will be ok. It will get better. Not overnight and not with words.
You need to speak with your your actions .
And do so with patience, love, respect and understanding.
I wish you luck. Own yourself in piecemeal ,meaning a little @ a time.
Please dont JUST. be upset..... ;-( Be inspired!
Lifes a challenge and this is a BIG one
With your ma & the job situation.
I dont know your diagnosis or if youre in treatment
For meds and talk therapy.
I hope you are. You are on an SA site
If youre not in treatment or have no health insurance.. Your 1st step to make.
Is to address that. This site is a great support system but make sure it isnt misused to commisserate or have negativity cosigned by sick others.
Misery loves company!
Going back to school is a valid option. A school that ends with a licence or certification to practice a specific trade is best in this lousy economy.
Its good to search demand for your stidy 1st ,ensuring your efforts worth making.
Federal & state aid is available to help pay for education.
Another avenue you may explore is VESID.
Vocational Educational Services for Individuals with Disabilities
A counselor and Dr can help with obtaining that.
Focus on you and create possibilities and options.
Its better to have tried and failed than not to have tried at all...
Good luck & prayers to you
I know advise is easier to give than take
These are some of the things I would try
Youre still young
You have a wonderful life ahead of you
My parents + siblings were dominating (to say the least) and I think, one of the results is that I don't mind being alone. It feels as if I had so much interference with my state of mind that seclusion equals peace.
Has any of you have had dominating parents? Iv had my mom dominate me all my life. I reckon a lot of my present sad state of affairs is due to her dominating n manipulative ways