Done putting all my effort into making him happy

dannyboy65

dannyboy65

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My best friend just pisses me off more and more everyday. Everything he does has to be right and what I do is wrong. I outsmart him all the time and he still calls me an idiot.

Every time something bad happens to him he just goes quiet, gives up what he's doing and ignores you like a child. All he talks about is video games, if it's not about video games he won't talk about it. He's a **** about everything to me. I give him all I can and he doesn't even bother to show a care in the world for me.

I've been thinking of just kicking him out of my life, but I can't because he's pretty much my only friend. He doesn't give a rats *** about me why should I give a rats *** about him.
 
AtTheGates

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its possible that he hasnt grown out of his emotional immaturity yet...it takes some people a while to balance themselves out..You can kick him out of your life if you feel the need but maybe not cut ties completely...he might just have some growing up to do...people change....you could reestablish friendship with him later on down the road if you want but only of you dont harshly cut ties with him....just slowly phase him out in order to avoid any bad blood....trust me, burning bridges completely isnt always the best idea.



or you could just flat out TELL him what he's doing wrong. if he listens, great..if he doesnt then oh well.
 
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dannyboy65

dannyboy65

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AtTheGates said:
its possible that he hasnt grown out of his emotional immaturity yet...it takes some people a while to balance themselves out..You can kick him out of your life if you feel the need but maybe not cut ties completely...he might just have some growing up to do...people change....you could reestablish friendship with him later on down the road if you want but only of you dont harshly cut ties with him....just slowly phase him out in order to avoid any bad blood....trust me, burning bridges completely isnt always the best idea.



or you could just flat out TELL him what he's doing wrong. if he listens, great..if he doesnt then oh well.
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I may not like it but I think my best move would be to drift away. I'm tired of stressing over him. He's diabetic and doesn't watch his sugars so I always remind him and make sure there good. He doesn't even wear a seatbelt while driving he says it makes him feel un free. Just he's starting to irritate me.
 
Metal_isthe_Answer

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I'm a little curious how old he is. I'm still a huge gamer, it doesn't really bother my closest friend though because he's a huge gamer too.
 
PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
it definitely sounds to me your friend is very inwardly focussed and doesn't consider how he may be coming across to his friends, A good friend will at least consider his friends feelings etc.

People grow apart all the time. If you're not happy being in his company it's best to move on. To me there's only one thing worse than being alone and lonely - hanging around people who take your friendship for granted.
 
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NamiraWilhelm

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A lot of problems in this world would be solved by 'I love you, but I'm not going to tolerate that.' I know it might not be a guy thing to do but have you spoken to him about this?
 
IntheLabyrinth

IntheLabyrinth

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I have a friend who does the same to me, and I am afraid to let her go to because I don't want to be completely alone. This may be selfish but you could keep him around until you're able to make more friends. If I was capable of making other friends and trusting them with all my insecurities, I would spend less time with her and not worry about how one sided the friendship seems to be. I wouldn't completely phase her out because I do still care about her. This is a more passive way then the above comment but that way sounds a lot harder for me because I don't express feelings very well. However, it may be that we're also at fault by not telling them how we feel and giving them a chance to change.
 
dannyboy65

dannyboy65

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I'm thinking I should just slowly push myself away. I have other friends just none that I grew up with or hangout with outside school. So I'm going to try and hangout with more school friends.
 
cobalt_bluester

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Sounds like he is very immature. I had a friend similar to yours and eventually decided not to stay in touch with him as he was soooooo irritating it was unreal! I decided in the end I was better off without a 'friend' like that! I think deep down he was an insecure person, and that resulted him in coming across as cocky and a complete know it all. Every time I challenged him on something that I knew was incorrect, he would always complain to know the answer, and would be very defensive about it. Good riddance to him I say! Lol :)
 
AlienGeranium

AlienGeranium

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There may be a chance he's actually addicted to video games. Or it could just be his passion, I don't know. Either way, you should only spend time with him if you want to. If you don't like video games 24/7, reel it back and only call him up when you're in the mood. If you want someone to care about the things you do, you will probably have more luck looking for others who shares the interest with you as opposed to trying to force this friend to care about them.
 
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