Drinking to much alcohol

dannyboy65

dannyboy65

Well-known member
For the past month I've drank at least one beer or up to 4-5 every night. I make the excuse that it's a social thing, when really I just want to drink. I used to never drink but when Katie dumped me I resorted to alcohol. It started having a beer or two each week to around 3 a week. Now it's a beer or more every night. It's getting out of hand and my physical health is declining because of it. My mental health isn't doing to good either. Yet I don't want to stop drinking. But I have to for my health. It also doesn't look good for an RCW to be an alcoholic. I'm too scared to tell anyone how much I drink. I just feel ashamed, I thought I was done with addictions.
 
defiance

defiance

Well-known member
I know the feeling man. Because my issues aren't getting any better I have resorted to hard alcohol more often than not. I hate the taste of it but I know what it can offer me and so i drink until I can't feel anything right before I go to bed. However lately, as much as I didn't want to, I did cut back quite a bit so I can have the occasional drink to help me sleep and forget about my problems for a few hours. You have nothing to be ashamed about. You were merely trying to remedy yourself from the pain. Although I think we can both agree that in your case and in mine we may not have chosen the best way to do so but hey it is more easily accessible than certain medications one would need to take to get a similar effect so it is what it is. Hang in there man.
 
dannyboy65

dannyboy65

Well-known member
defiance said:
I know the feeling man. Because my issues aren't getting any better I have resorted to hard alcohol more often than not. I hate the taste of it but I know what it can offer me and so i drink until I can't feel anything right before I go to bed. However lately, as much as I didn't want to, I did cut back quite a bit so I can have the occasional drink to help me sleep and forget about my problems for a few hours. You have nothing to be ashamed about. You were merely trying to remedy yourself from the pain. Although I think we can both agree that in your case and in mine we may not have chosen the best way to do so but hey it is more easily accessible than certain medications one would need to take to get a similar effect so it is what it is. Hang in there man.
Click to expand...

I've had a past full of addictions I know better then resort to substances but yet I did. Hell I have a good life yet I'm always hurting so much inside I need something to feel better and it always ends up controlling me. Its so hard to explain how I feel I used it as an escape from the break up now I crave it. This is what I get for my actions.
 
defiance

defiance

Well-known member
Sometimes the pain is just too much and so I understand what you mean in that regard. The quality of life you live could be great but if you have issues then unfortunately you will have a difficult time. I agree with you that we should know better when it comes to substances, but I think it really says something about the level of suffering we go through when we know it's bad for us and yet we still seek it. But if it could be avoided then it should. Hoping for the best for you.
 
Jungle

Jungle

1
Hello,

If you can't help your urges for booze, then try substituting it for something less harmful, like sweets or food in general. You could also vent your frustration by practising sports.

If you still cannot do that, then I don't know, try drinking alcohol free beer or Champagne (Ironical, I know, since this is the opposite of celebrating).

Either that, or quit cold turkey.... which takes outstanding will.

Sorry buddy, when it comes to alcohol I am clueless, you know, because of religion and what have you...

We'll always be here to cheer you up and encourage you, dannyboy.
 
Last edited:
dannyboy65

dannyboy65

Well-known member
Jungle said:
Hello,

If you can't help your urges for booze, then try substituting it for something less harmful, like sweets or food in general. You could also vent your frustration by practising sports.

If you still cannot do that, then I don't know, try drinking alcohol free beer or Champagne (Ironical, I know, since this is the opposite of celebrating).

Either that, or quit cold turkey.... which takes outstanding will.

Sorry buddy, when it comes to alcohol I am clueless, you know, because of religion and what have you...

We'll always be here to cheer you up and encourage you, dannyboy.
Click to expand...

I'm going cold turkey. I quit smoking cold turkey, I can do alcohol cold turkey I'm sure.
 
morrowrd

morrowrd

Active member
Ahh, I have been where you are. In fact, I used to "quit" every now and then, only to drink again later on and binge. What I decided to do was create "beer nights" - I'm guessing I did this around 20 years ago and it works for me. I picked two nights per week, and bought enough beer for me to never run out. (couple cases) I made sure my beer refrigerator in the basement was always full.....just so I wouldn't run out and do something stupid like go drive to get more. I would put on music, or concert videos, and drink as much as I wanted. Eat and go to bed. In the beginning, my beer nights I'd drink "alot" - but as the years went on the amount has declined. I developed a pattern of stopping as soon as I was hungry. Always started beer nights at the same time, (3pm in the afternoon) and they'd go into the early evening, and I'd go to sleep around the same time each time.

Sometimes, indulgence is the best way, the most efficient system of putting you in control. Especially since you really don't want to quit. I didn't either. In the 80's I attended AA meetings, what a waste of time. This beer night system worked so much better.
 
dannyboy65

dannyboy65

Well-known member
morrowrd said:
Ahh, I have been where you are. In fact, I used to "quit" every now and then, only to drink again later on and binge. What I decided to do was create "beer nights" - I'm guessing I did this around 20 years ago and it works for me. I picked two nights per week, and bought enough beer for me to never run out. (couple cases) I made sure my beer refrigerator in the basement was always full.....just so I wouldn't run out and do something stupid like go drive to get more. I would put on music, or concert videos, and drink as much as I wanted. Eat and go to bed. In the beginning, my beer nights I'd drink "alot" - but as the years went on the amount has declined. I developed a pattern of stopping as soon as I was hungry. Always started beer nights at the same time, (3pm in the afternoon) and they'd go into the early evening, and I'd go to sleep around the same time each time.

Sometimes, indulgence is the best way, the most efficient system of putting you in control. Especially since you really don't want to quit. I didn't either. In the 80's I attended AA meetings, what a waste of time. This beer night system worked so much better.
Click to expand...

Thanks that's a neat idea!
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top