whispering_screams said:I suggested already that we should have an open relationship. If he sees other girls but doesn't have sex with them, it's completely fine with me. Even if he does have sex, as long as he does it safely, I'm okay with it as long as he is open and honest with me about it. I don't know how long we are going to be away from each other at this point.
Don't assume things just because you fail to understand me. What I'm looking for isn't sexual pleasure and I've stated that already. I have that taken care of myself. What I want is platonic but meaningful love. And genuine human contact. In short, I need to be loved, with attraction involved but WITHOUT sexual gratification.
I couldn't care less if you get what I mean or not.
I've had anxiety problems for 5 yrs and I've been doing so much better now that I'm on my own. I feel free for the first time in my adult life and I don't want to hold myself back from going after things I want. I'm sick and tired of being guilt ridden. If my bf wants to leave me, he can. I already gave him that option. I'll never love anyone else as much as I do him and there's no one else I rather spend my life with. But I'm no madame butterfly and I'm not asking HIM to be either. It could be year(s) before we even see each other again. I'm sick of feeling restricted and tied down. He's not here to take care of me and I'm not there to take care of him. If we are destined to be together which I believe we are, it'll bring us back together no matter what. There's nothing I want more then for him to date other girls and realize I'm still the one he wants to be with in the end.
FlirtyandDirty said:I have been in a long distance relationship for nearly three years and it is unlikely that we will be together for another year. Although we are hoping he will be able to come to the UK in a few weeks. But that depends on his job. He is 4,000 miles away.
We were friends fro a year first, but I fell in love with him and thankfully he felt the same way. We talked in the beginning about what we expected of each other and having an open relationship was quickly dismissed as neither of us felt that was right.
We were not expecting to be apart for this long, and it has tested us. However, we feel that because we are good at communicating with each other that we have half the battle won. We know everything that there is to know about each other, Serge says he even know what my silences mean and he can tell what the different tones to my voice mean. There is definitely a physical attraction. The man makes me feel things I never thought possible. But there is a meeting of minds and hearts before anything else. So if for some reason we could not be physical, we would have a lot of love to put in its place.
It is extremely lonely, and I miss him, even though I have never been with him. But I have so much to look forward to and do not regret waiting this long.
miss_amy said:
Congrats. Its nice to hear happy stories here once in a while. Hope you continue to be happy together.