ScaredToBreathe
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Weird subject but this has been bugging me. Nearly everyone I know who is still a teenager or young adult has a kid or many kids. I understand it's their life and their choice, but I find it annoying that people who are nearly still kids themselves are having babies thoughtlessly and throwing away their chances of a good ongoing education, a professional career, a high income, etc.. Instead they start families at a very young age where they are still immature and financially insecure. Many people I know rely on welfare, baby bonus, or their significant other's income to support themselves. And out of every single young person I know with a kid, none of them have a decent job if any job, and no education-- they stop once high school is over or dropped out of high school. They still get drunk, party, go out with friends, and act immature. My image of a "normal" family would be settling down, cutting back on bad habits (drinking/smoking/swearing/gossip) when around your child, and instead of continuing your social life, put more time into just being with your immediate family, with occasional mature friends over for coffee or play-dates if they have a kid too.
This has bothered me more now that my ex-best friend of over a decade got knocked up by some guy and now has a baby. At first I tried to be supportive, I was there for her when she need someone to talk to, and threw her baby shower. But after she gave birth I just feel really weird around her now and it doesn't feel right because we are at different parts in our lives. This is the girl I grew up with, shared and kept secrets with, the only person I could talk to about anything. We stuck through hard times together, did everything together, called each other sister, even made the friendship work when she moved an hour drive away.
I don't feel she's the same person I grew up with anymore. And it affects my depersonalization experiences (when I get weird feelings and thoughts that reality just feels dream-like and unreal). It's like I never thought this would happen to her like so many others her age, because I'm still imagining her personality as when she was a kid, more innocent, better future plans, not so obsessed with having relationships and friendships like she was as a teen.
Just had to get that out...I always end up writing so much more than I intend aha once I start I could go on forever (wish my verbal skills were like that!)Any thoughts? Advice? Experiences?
This has bothered me more now that my ex-best friend of over a decade got knocked up by some guy and now has a baby. At first I tried to be supportive, I was there for her when she need someone to talk to, and threw her baby shower. But after she gave birth I just feel really weird around her now and it doesn't feel right because we are at different parts in our lives. This is the girl I grew up with, shared and kept secrets with, the only person I could talk to about anything. We stuck through hard times together, did everything together, called each other sister, even made the friendship work when she moved an hour drive away.
I don't feel she's the same person I grew up with anymore. And it affects my depersonalization experiences (when I get weird feelings and thoughts that reality just feels dream-like and unreal). It's like I never thought this would happen to her like so many others her age, because I'm still imagining her personality as when she was a kid, more innocent, better future plans, not so obsessed with having relationships and friendships like she was as a teen.
Just had to get that out...I always end up writing so much more than I intend aha once I start I could go on forever (wish my verbal skills were like that!)Any thoughts? Advice? Experiences?